Recently, a woman went online to share an incident she had while attending her friend’s wedding. “I, Aila (26/F) was set to be a bridesmaid in my friend Diedre’s (26/F) wedding,” the Redditor wrote in a post that amassed 11.2k upvotes. According to the author, it was the celebration at a massive church and “Jenny,” the paid photographer, was supposed to take pictures. However, shortly before the ceremony started, Jenny realized she couldn’t continue and said she’d leave. The bride then asked the author who has a Nikon DSLR and always likes to take pictures for her social media “to walk around the perimeter of the church to make sure that the entrances were all labeled and that no one was lost.” As you can suspect, everything wasn’t smooth and the bride changed her mind about having a professional photographer, asking the author to fill in this important role instead of being a bridesmaid.
A 6’1″ ‘Big Bird’ bridesmaid’s wedding day turned awkward when the bride asked her to leave the bridal party
Paid photographer Jenny became unwell and had to leave, leaving the bridesmaid to explore the church for guests.
Old friends reunited, but not in the best way
Diedre replaced Jenny with Ashley and forced the bridesmaid to act as the wedding photographer – a ‘much better plan’
The bride excluded her bridesmaid from the wedding party and the bridesmaid reacted by ditching the event
The bridesmaid was hurt by the demand to be responsible for the wedding photography for free, and not having a seat or the chance to eat.
A bridesmaid decides to leave the wedding after the bride removed her from the bridal party and refused to listen to her concerns
Friendship tested and torn after a wedding mix up ♀️
Aila (26/F) was expecting to be a bridesmaid in her friend’s Deidre’s (26/F) wedding, but things ended up taking a turn. After the contracted photographer was too sick to attend, Aila found herself in the middle of a rushed, uncomfortable situation. Deidre wanted Aila to give up her bridesmaid dress and take the photos instead, and implying that it would look better if Aila wasn’t in the pictures. Aila packed her things, said her goodbye and left the church. Now, the community must decide whether Deidre and Aila were justified in their actions. Let’s take a look at the comments and reactions to this intense story.
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NTA: Forced to be an unpaid employee ♀️
The commenter found the bride’s behavior NTA (not the a**hole), as the bride had uninvited OP from the wedding and forced her into being an unpaid employee instead. Replies to the comment explored ways OP could get back her invested money, with some pointing out the bride’s entitled and a-hole behavior.
NTA!
The commenter thinks the “perimeter check” by the bride was to remove her from the bridal party with no warning. Replies speculated if the bride set up an “ambush” with a photographer, and if that was the plan all along. Another reply noted how risky it was for the bride to gamble with her own wedding day.
Bride patronizes friend into free photography
The bride had the “audacity” to try to patronize/bully the bridesmaid into becoming a free photographer. In addition to being pushed aside for the last-minute SIL, the bridesmaid can’t even have a seat or meal at the wedding or be in the pictures. Replies suggest the stripping of bridesmaid’s dress was horror-movie-ish and that the bride should “eff off”.
NTA: Bride’s behavior with bridesmaid ☹️
The commenter believes that the bride’s behavior towards the bridesmaid was unkind and inconsiderate. The bridesmaid had not been asked to take pictures – they were thrust into it without a choice. The bridesmaid further questions the “uniform bridal party” comments. The first reply to the comment elaborates that the bridesmaid had a midi-length dress with adjustable straps; they were cinched with rhinestone belts.
Drama unfolds as bridesmaids replace her ♀️
A bridesmaid’s experience at a wedding left her feeling hurt and betrayed after the bride replaced her with another bridesmaid and removed her dress and Tiffany bracelet without her consent. Replies to her comment provide her with support and suggest she stand up for herself to get her belongings back.
Bridesmaid kicked out
The commenter thinks the bride was ‘NOT COOL’ for not giving the bridesmaid a chance to voice her opinion and ‘bum rush’ her with the other bridesmaids. A reply noted that the bridesmaid was even stripped of her clothing without being given a chance to remove it herself.
Bride and bridesmaids
Commenter states that NTA (not the a**hole) as the bride and her bridesmaids treated the commenter horribly by replacing her, implying that the wedding party “looked better without her”, and not allowing her to sit down or eat. Comment replies support the idea that the bride and bridesmaids treated the commenter unfairly. NTA.
Will Ashley’s actions be forgiven ✋?
Ashley wore an adjustable David’s Bridal dress and rhinestone belt to fit in with the height difference. The reaction after the wedding was that Ashley shouldn’t have run off without telling anyone and she upset Diedre by not taking pictures. However, Ashley has seen the pictures on Facebook and they look fine. Everyone seems to think that Ashley let Diedre down and should have been there. Will her actions be forgiven?
The bride was wrong to remove the bridesmaid without asking her!
The bridesmaid is Not The A**hole (NTA) for leaving the wedding without informing the bride and her bridal party. The bride should have asked her politely to take some pictures, borrow her expensive camera, or let someone else take pictures since she was in the wedding party.
The right choice
The commenter said that NTA (Not the A**hole) and the person did the right thing.
NTA – You don’t deserve drama!
The commenter declared that the bride was in the wrong for removing them from the bridal party and sending them away, with the suggestion to go home and enjoy the night. No replies found.
NTA
The commenter argues that the bride was NTA (not the a**hole) after demanding help with the wedding and stealing the commenter’s bracelet and dress. The commenter’s reply mentions that though the bracelet was technically a gift, they didn’t want it after what happened.
NTA: She died the right thing! Take back the ?
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The commentor is not the a**hole for leaving the wedding, since she was forced into the role of photographer and the others in attendance were being major a-holes. They recommend that the commenter take back her gift, if she gave one, and ask if she took pictures or did anything else for the bride.
Bride removes bridesmaid, drama ensues!
The comment states that wedding photographers are not cheap and should be compensated for their time and energy, and that it would be equally as bad if the bride suddenly asked them to do a different job. The comment concludes that the bride is not the a**hole in this situation.
The ultimate revenge
NTA (not the a**hole) for ditching the wedding after the bridal party was removed- the perfect revenge would be to take photos and post them on social media a few at a time. One commenter thought the best revenge would be to take nothing but butt photos.
NTA! Don’t let friends like this ruin your day
The comment is in agreement with the commenter’s instincts in not wanting to continue with the wedding, as the bride suddenly threw all of the new arrangements at them when they were already getting ready to join the rest of the wedding party. Furthermore, the comment states that the bride insulted the commenter by taking the items off their body. The comment expresses the sentiment that the commenter does not need friends like this.
Wow Friend ditched the wedding after being demoted to an unpaid photographer!
NTA. The friend wasn’t obligated to take wedding pictures for free with no experience and was volunteered for the role of unpaid photographer without their say-so. The bride’s behavior was noted to be “shi**y” and a “humiliating” experience for the friend. One reply mentioned that the problem was the photographer who ditched the wedding and didn’t provide an alternative.
NTA!!! ✋Unfair treatment and no pay!
The commenter finds it ‘messed up’ that the bride removed them from her bridal party and forced them to take pictures without pay. Furthermore, they commented that the bride rudely decided that all of this was to take place while they weren’t present. The comment concludes by saying that if the commenter is experiencing similar treatment regularly, they should look for other friends.
Bride in shock
The commenter stated that they found the bride’s demand to have a bridesmaid take off her clothes unacceptable and referenced Cinderella’s clothes getting torn off. No replies were found.
Bridezilla
NTA. The bride and family’s behavior was deplorable. Can you even imagine the ration of sh*t this bridezilla would have given OP if the photos had been any less than perfect?
Don’t let them in your life
The original poster was not the a**hole (NTA) in the situation and was advised not to let the people who wronged them back into their life in the future. The poster was applauded for having the self esteem to leave the situation.
✊️ NTA! Proud of you!
The commenter proclaimed NTA (not the a**hole) in the least, and expressed admiration for the speaker for not giving in to the a**holes even after their phone was doxed and their name dragged across the mud on social media.
NTA: No one has at this wedding!
The commenter states that no one in the situation is the a**hole and that the bride should have been upset about not having her friend there, instead of using her for photos. They suggest sending a bill for the bridesmaid dress and advises the OP to look for better friends.
NTA. Things just don’t add up!
The commenter finds it suspicious that the bride suddenly removed the respondent from the bridal party, the photographer fell sick conveniently at the same time, and Ashley quickly filled in. It appears that the bride had previously planned to remove the respondent from the bridal party, and used the photographer’s sickness as an excuse. The commenter also compliments the respondent’s name saying it is pretty.
NTA, but karma’s a !
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The commenter feels the original poster is not the *a-hole in the situation and that the bride is getting a taste of her own medicine. The commenter states the bride was wrong to assume the original poster could take up a different role without compensating her for it.
NTA: ♀️
The comment suggests that the person commenting would take awful pictures as payback if they were in such a situation. Another reply agrees, saying they would take only pictures of the removed bridesmaid, Ashley, as payback.
NTA! She treated you like
The commenter expressed their opinion that the bride wasn’t right to remove the commenter from the bridal party due to the commenter’s height. The commenter also expressed their opinion that the bride doesn’t need a host of identical attendants for her wedding day to be successful.
NTA: ♀️ Shady bridesmaid!
The commenter believes ‘NTA’ (not the a**hole) regarding the situation and believes that the bride responded appropriately.
Who does that?!
The commenter expressed confusion, saying “NTA
Who the hell does that? They could’ve asked.”
A tough wedding
The commenter argues that the bride is in the wrong, as the bridesmaid has done all the duties, paid, and bought gifts and a dress, only to have them stolen and expected professional photography for free. The commenter believes the bridesmaid has done the right thing by removing herself from the bad situation.
♀️ Bridesmaid left wedding
Not the a-hole, bridesmaid ditched the wedding after the bride removed her from the bridal party. No replies found.
Bride shows her true colors
Commenter asserts that the bride’s behavior was premeditated and not justified, suggesting that the bride’s actions were meant to shame the bridesmaid: “That’s awful behavior, to swarm you and strip you of all your bridesmaid accessories and then treat you like a temp employee”.
Big Bird , Ashley
Ashley questioned how she was going to fit into a dress tailored for someone nicknamed Big Bird. It was later revealed that it was just a midi dress from David’s Bridal with no tailoring.
Is the wedding story too convenient?
The comment raised doubts about the story, wondering if the photographer was booked in the first place and if the family member’s size matching the bride was too convenient. No replies found.
Self-respect: ✊✌️
The comment applauds the commenter for their decision to leave the wedding after being removed from the bridal party. It encourages them to block the bride who deliberately asked them to do a walk around to get others to agree with her plan and bully them. The sentiment is that this action of the bride is inexcusable, and that the commenter did the right thing in leaving and preserving their self-respect.
NTA –
Commenter says NTA (not the a**hole), expressing shock at the situation.
NTA: Request reimbursement!
The comment suggested that the bridesmaid is not the a**hole (NTA) in this situation, and that she should send an invoice for any costs related to not-attending the wedding, such as the dress, hair, and makeup.
A take on a situation⚡️
The section comment claims that the bride was heartless and that the person posting NTA (not the a**hole) in the least. No replies found.
An attorney’s story and support ✊
The section comment is written by an attorney who shares their story of assault and battery, encouraging the commenter to take action. The commenter is thanked for the story by a reply, showing that they are understanding of the gravity of the situation.
NTA: Bridal party was inconsiderate.
The comment stated that the bridal party was inconsiderate and that the commenter was not the a**hole (NTA).
Love that someone left ♀️ like a boss
The commenter expresses their love and appreciation for the person in the comment who left the wedding like a boss and claims that they are not the a**hole.
NTA ♀️ Dropping the whole group
Commenter is not the a**hole (NTA) for leaving the wedding after the bride removed her from the bridal party and took back her gift. They suggest dropping the whole group, because if no one spoke up against the bride’s decision, they were probably never true friends.
The horror of the bridal party!
Commenter asked what the bridesmaid was wearing after the bride removed her from the bridal party. The reply revealed she was wearing only her underclothes.
♀️ NTA – Defending their choice!
The commenter defends their choice of ditching the wedding after being removed from the bridal party by the bride, claiming that the bride’s treatment was ‘uncalled for’.
NTA ♀️
The commenter declared the bridesmaid was ‘not the a-hole’ for opting out of taking pictures after the bride removed her from bridal party. The only thing the bridesmaid was advised to do, was to tell her “friend” that she was leaving instead of pretending to be taking her stuff to the car.
Feeling betrayed
The commenter expresses that their feelings have been hurt due to being removed from the bridal party and that no one else seemed to think it was wrong. They suggest to not bother with the people involved as they don’t seem to care about their feelings.
Standing up for yourself!
The commenter applauded the person who ditched the wedding after being removed from the bridal party, suggesting they would have taken an eye-for-an-eye approach instead. They suggested they would have “wasted everybody’s time taking hundreds of pictures” and “make them pose for hours” to make the bridal party a bunch of a-holes, “make sure not one picture would be good for publishing”.
NTA
The comment expresses shock at the bride’s actions and declares that the person is ‘not the a**hole’.
NTA- 100% right to leave!
The comment states that the commenter is not the a**hole, and that the bridesmaid was completely justified in leaving the wedding after being removed from the bridal party. They also recommended that the bridesmaid ask for repayment of the dress cost.
The bride wasn’t nice
Commenter declared NTA (not the a**hole) for the bridesmaid who decided to ditch the wedding to avoid awkward taking pictures with the bride, who had removed her from the bridal party.
Friendship ends when you’re asked to do something for free
The commenter shared that it was NTA for them to ditch the wedding when the bride asked them to do a job for free, as this is not how friends should treat each other. No replies were found.
NTA and done ✅
The comment expresses anger towards the bride and approves the decision of ditching the wedding as an act of self-respect. There were no replies to the comment.
The bridesmaid
The bridesmaid was treated appallingly and, according to commenter, deservedly left the wedding.
NAH Friends are being shady
The commenter states they are NTA and that the friends are being shady. They believe they were asked to be a bridesmaid just so the friends could talk about how to get them to be the photographer.
Cares about the wrong things
The commenter remarked that the wedding party did not prioritize the right things, such as having a backup plan, and instead focused on superficial elements such as bling and bridesmaid height. The commenter judged this to be a**hole behavior.
