Being a first-time mom can definitely be stressful. Not only do you worry about the delivery and safety of your child, but you also anticipate everything that comes with having a newborn .
So the last thing a new mom needs to worry about is hurting the feelings of her mother-in-law . But that’s exactly what this woman had to face after the delivery of her baby boy. Check this story out and let me know what you think, alright?
A woman recently posted on Reddit.
She shared the story of her son’s birth , which was overshadowed by a demanding mother-in-law. Here’s a little background for you. This woman is married to a man who’s an only child. So naturally, his mother (the MIL) is a little overprotective.
So when the couple got pregnant, this is what the MIL demanded.
Apparently, she wanted to be in the delivery room and be the first person to hold her grandson. The wife said “no” to the first request and wasn’t happy about the second but didn’t protest too much. But when she went into delivery, the mother-in-law was away at her friend’s daughter’s wedding.
So the wife had her mother and sister come help with the baby while the husband went back to work.
And, of course, they got to hold the tyke before the MIL got back into town. However, two days later, when she did roll into the city, she threw a massive fit.
And get this: The husband sided with his mom and not his wife.
“They both went off and started throwing a fit saying that I betrayed her, and that I made a promised then broke it,” OP wrote. “He called me unbelievably selfish and demanded I fix my mistake but I wasn’t sure what he meant by that. Like redo the baby’s birth and have his mom be the first to hold him? He didn’t like my sarcasm and said that what I did was sneaky and cold hearted.”
What was the woman to do?
Was she supposed to wait two whole days with no help from anyone while the mother-in-law was away? That’s pretty preposterous if you asked me. And as she found out, that’s exactly what other people on Reddit thought.
Here’s what some people said in response.
“Was mom supposed to do? Leave the newborn on the bed for two days until MIL came back?”
“Wouldn’t the first person to hold the baby always be YOU, THE MOM?! Your MIL and your husband are both [jerks].”
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“Usually the ob is the first person to hold the baby, then the delivery nurse. When my kids were born, the nurse gave the kid to me after getting cleaned up, measured, etc, and then I gave them to my wife.”
Aha!
There goes that. First, the MIL will never be the first person to hold somebody else’s child. That would be the doctor and then the nurses, haha. Like, really? Then it’s either the mother or the father. And then whoever else was in the delivery room.
Oh, my goodness, right?
I love what this person said,
“The mil wouldn’t be back for 2 days. So she just assumed no one would hold your baby for two days just because she DEMANDED to be the 1st to hold your baby. What is so important about being the 1st to hold the baby? You’re not even the 1st, you have mom and the nurses, and also who cares? Literally, the only reason she wants to be the 1st is so she can say she was the 1st. It’s not about the baby it’s about her ego.”
I wholeheartedly agree with that.
It’s all about the mother-in-law taking control of this couple’s relationship. Perhaps that was the case when her son was young, but now he’s with someone. There is a need for boundaries here, and she’s definitely crossing all of them.
What do you think of that? Do you agree? Is this MIL being completely unreasonable here? I think so.
