Hey there, Facebook fam! Have you ever wondered about your family tree and the relatives you’ve never met? Well, our friend here has a daughter with her ex, who happens to be adopted. The ex’s adoptive parents are pretty distant, and our friend’s own family isn’t as close-knit as she’d like. She’s curious about her ex’s biological family and wants her daughter to have the chance to meet them, but the ex isn’t interested. What’s a mom to do? ♀️ Let’s dive into this family drama and find out!
The Family Situation
Adoptive Parents’ Cold Shoulder ❄️
OP’s Big Family
Missing Out on Dad’s Side
Kiddo’s Current Family Circle
Age Gap Woes
Ex’s Stance on Bio Parents
OP’s Curiosity
The Medical History Factor
The Ancestry Test Dilemma
Potential AH Reasons
To Search or Not to Search: The Family Tree Dilemma ️♀️
Our protagonist is a mom who wants her daughter to have a close-knit family experience, but there’s a problem: her ex’s adoptive parents are distant, and her own family isn’t as tight as she’d like. She’s considering doing an ancestry test to find her ex’s biological family, hoping to introduce her daughter to potential relatives and learn about their medical history. However, her ex is firmly against the idea, and she’s worried she might be crossing a line. So, what does the internet think about this sticky situation? Let’s find out!
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Adoptee warns against finding bio family without consent. YTA.
OP accused of selfishness for seeking child’s biological family
Respecting boundaries is important. YTA for going behind his back
Creating a found family could be more beneficial.
User calls out OP for involving uninterested grandparents
Adoptee warns of potential negative consequences of biological family search
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User calls out mom for defying ex’s wishes. Accuses her of being selfish.
Going behind ex’s back to find his bio parents is inappropriate
Parenting conflict: Commenter calls out disrespectful behavior
Boundaries set by ex should be respected.
Ex’s wishes ignored by mom searching for daughter’s bio family ♀️
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User warns against mom’s actions, calling her the a**hole.
Going against ex’s wishes: YTA
Birth parent warns against violating partner’s trust. YTA.
User calls out mom’s actions as projecting and unrealistic
Cautionary advice against defying ex’s wishes in search for family.
User warns mom to back off, discuss with ex before proceeding ⚠️
Criticism of mom’s actions and suggestion to seek therapy.
Respect the adoptee’s wishes. YWBTA if you don’t.
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Going against ex’s wishes to find daughter’s family. YTA confirmed.
User thinks mom is the a**hole for contacting bio parents
Parenting isn’t about creating a perfect childhood
Respect boundaries, you’re not entitled to interfere with ex’s wishes
Effective communication with ex can solve this sensitive issue
Respect boundaries! Commenter is YTA for disregarding ex’s wishes.
User calls out commenter for arguing against husband’s wishes
Questioning why the ex never searched for his son
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User calls out OP for being selfish and projecting issues.
Boundaries are important – YTA for disregarding ex’s wishes
Unnecessary mention of nephew’s disability in comment
Accept the reality and mourn your fantasies and sense of loss
User warns against finding ex’s biological family for daughter
Adoptees have the right to choose their biological family. YTA.
User calls out OP for being rude and betraying trust
A heartwarming tale of discovering one’s roots and family ❤
Finding bio family risky, try reconnecting with mom’s side
Adoptee advises against finding biological family without consent.
Ignoring your partner’s wishes is a breach of trust, YTA ♀️
Unexpected reunion leads to shocking discovery
Seeking ex’s permission to research bio family for daughter?
User tells mom to mind her own business, calls her the a**hole
When seeking validation from strangers goes too far
Betraying adopted partner’s wishes is worse than being an a**hole
User disagrees with OP and gives reasons why YTA.
User shames mom’s decision to find daughter’s biological family
Connecting with cousins is a great way to respect privacy
Respect the adoptee’s wishes and seek ex’s approval first
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User calls out mom for defying ex’s wishes, deems her the a**hole
Redditor calls out YTA for breaking subreddit rules
Redditor learns tough lesson in r/AmItheA**hole judgement
Wait for your daughter to make that choice later
OP determined to find bio parents despite opposition, dilemma continues.
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Adoptee condemns meddling in ex’s family affairs; YTA called out.
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Going against your ex’s wishes for daughter’s biological family? YTA.
User warns against finding ex’s biological family for daughter.
User calls out mom for being selfish and disregarding ex’s wishes
User accuses OP of being TA and not accepting judgement
OP receives harsh YTA judgment and shows no remorse
One person’s cautionary tale about finding their biological father.
User calls out mom for disregarding ex’s wishes. Yikes
Going behind your ex’s back to contact his bio family? YTA
Harsh comment shuts down suggestion to intervene in personal matters
Questioning the motive behind finding biological family for daughter
User accuses mom of being TA for finding daughter’s family
Respect your ex’s wishes and work with what you have
Focus on building a loving community for your child
Should OP ask ex before reaching out to biological family?
Criticism of OP’s victim mentality and tone-policing.
Strong backlash against mom’s decision to find daughter’s biological family.
OP receives criticism for not listening to advice given.
User argues against seeking out more family, calls out fetishization
Respect ex’s wishes, find another way to connect daughter with roots
Respect your ex’s wishes, don’t force his story on daughter
A commenter strongly disagrees with the mother’s decision to find her ex-husband’s biological family and thinks it’s cruel to him and his adoptive family.
Adoptee calls out OP for overstepping boundaries in finding family
User calls out mother for disregarding ex’s wishes. YTA
