Points Were Made After A Mom Went Viral For Saying Kids 'Don't Owe Their Parents Anything'

Growing up, you likely heard comments like "family first" and "blood is thicker than water." But should children be made to feel as if they owe a neverending debt of gratitude to their parents?

TikToker @itsme_lisap (Lisa Pontius in real life) doesn't seem to think so. In fact, she recently went viral for arguing that kids don't owe their parents a damn thing.

Lisa posted the video in response to critics who shamed her for setting boundaries with her own mother.

They said that Lisa should be grateful for everything her mother has done for her, and that she should be ashamed for cutting her mother out of her life.

To which Lisa replied, "Children don't owe their parents a certain kind of relationship, and depending on the parent, they might not owe them respect, either."

She says there's a marked difference between a child who is still a child, versus one who has reached adulthood.

"All that "[expletive]" they did for you is parenting — which is what you signed up for" Lisa reasons. She says that being a parent comes with responsibilities, and the bare minimum means providing financial stability for your children.

But at the end of the day, being a parent isn't a contingent relationship.

There's no quid pro quo or reciprocal expectations involved — at least there shouldn't be.

Enforcing a blind sense of loyalty in your child is completely counterintuitive to everything good parents seek to do.

Lisa says she and her husband hope their children will want to have an adult relationship when the time comes.

She argues that if you as a parent are doing a good job raising your child, that there's no reason why they would ever want to pull away from you as an adult.

What do you think? Do we owe our parents a debt as adults or is that relationship earned?