How does a person become successful?
Most people probably recognize that it’s a blend of goal-setting, drive, and privilege. But according to a new study, your significant other plays a significant role in your future success.
Researchers polled married couples.
Psychologists from Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh studied 163 married couples in an effort to better understand the connection between a person’s choice of mate and their chances of success.
It’s all about support.
Just about anyone will tell you that it’s important to have a supportive partner. But the researchers found that the benefits of a supportive spouse could be quantified, at least as far as personal growth goes.
What’s the connection?
As the researchers tell it, research subjects who were supported by their spouse were more likely to take on the risks and challenges that could lead to personal success in the future.
Those critical decision-making points matter.
“We found support for the idea that the choices people make at these specific decision points — such as pursuing a work opportunity or seeking out new friends — matter a lot for their long-term well-being,” said lead study author Brooke Feeney.
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What are the benefits?
Study participants who took on these challenges (thanks to their supportive partner) saw better personal growth, along with improved all-around happiness, within just a couple of months.
This represents #lifegoals.
Not everyone wants to be monogamous, or even wants a partner. But many people do want to find someone to spend their lives with. Compatibility is important, but it seems that support is absolutely critical when it comes to building a life together.
Successful, supportive couples are everywhere.
Former president Barack Obama has been effusive in his praise over the years for his wife, Michelle. It’s clear from their respective success in life that both partners have helped the other throughout their marriage.
What’s the takeaway?
It seems to be all about grabbing opportunities — and supporting your partner as they pursue their own goals. When both partners are on the same page, researchers found a positive correlation with overall happiness.
It can go the other way, too.
“Significant others can help you thrive through embracing life opportunities,” said Feeney. “Or they can hinder your ability to thrive by making it less likely that you’ll pursue opportunities for growth.”
Be supportive!
The study provides valuable insights into some of the factors that can make a partnership work. Let us know what you think — and share your tips for relationship happiness — in the comments section!
