A young adult, who has been saving up money to move out of their overcrowded family home, is faced with a difficult decision when their mom demands the money to save her and her babies’ lives. The young adult’s mom has been using their siblings and their checks for financial support, and the young adult knows that their money won’t last long. When their mom is hospitalized and asks for money for a special procedure to save her baby, the young adult is torn between saving for their own future and helping their family. The young adult’s siblings are calling them evil and an a**hole for not helping, but the young adult is unsure if they made the right decision. Read on to see what advice the community has to offer.
Young adult saves $7k to move out, but mom needs it for baby

Young adult financially supports family, can’t move out.

Young adult dreams of independence, but mom needs her savings.

Making the leap – young adult’s journey to independence

Mom gets angry at daughter for saving money to move

Struggling mom guilt trips young adult for saving up money

Mom risks life for baby despite high-risk pregnancy

Struggling young adult must choose between family or future dreams

Young adult faced with tough choice: move out or help family?

Struggling to support family vs saving for independence.

Overwhelmed with support, young adult leaves home for new adventure ✈️

Young adult saves money to move out but mom needs it
Living with a large family can be a struggle, especially when you’re trying to save up to move out. But what happens when your mom needs the money you’ve saved for her new baby? This young adult faces a tough decision when their mom asks for help paying for a special procedure to help her baby. Read on to find out what happens next and how this young adult responds to their family’s accusations of being an a**hole.
Young adult stands up to manipulative mother, inspires siblings to escape

Escape the toxicity! Move out and prioritize yourself, OP.

Agreement that mom is being unreasonable about money.

Commenters doubt the mom’s claims and urge OP to leave

Moving out for the first time is scary, especially when family needs money

Discussion on the futility of spending money on a medical procedure.

You’re not responsible for someone who puts themselves at risk ♀️

Protect yourself from financial abuse. Your mom’s problems aren’t yours.

Escape the nightmare and set an example for your siblings

Commenters criticize irresponsible parenting and risky pregnancies.

Escape while you can ⏩

Don’t let guilt trap you, save yourself and move out

Empowering response, take control of your own life

Cheers to a fresh start You got this!

Young adult saves money to move out, but manipulative mother demands it for irresponsible spending. Recommended to run for the hills. NTA ♀️
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Supportive comment and advice for moving to NY

Commenter advises OP to not give money to irresponsible mother

Don’t enable her financial irresponsibility.

Don’t let family hold you back Run free!

Don’t let emotional blackmail stop you from being independent.

Don’t sacrifice your future to fix someone else’s past.
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Commenter defends OP from criticism of healthcare system and mother.

Escape the cycle ♂️ and secure your future

Boundaries and responsibilities: a tough lesson for young adults

Escape and succeed to save yourself and your family.

Putting yourself first isn’t selfish. NTA

Stand your ground and prioritize your future. ✌️

Start your own life and let siblings support mom. #NTA

Encouraging NTA to prioritize own finances and well-being

Take the leap and live your dream! Your happiness matters.

Stand your ground: prioritize your own future goals and dreams

Frustrated with being the only one expected to contribute financially.

Commenter suggests drastic action for unfit mother.
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You go, young adult! Your money, your life.

Encouraging words for a young adult to move out and start their own life.

Self-care is not selfish, take care of yourself first

Empowering response to toxic family situation.

Leave the nest to break the cycle

Escape your toxic home, don’t let your mom use you

Don’t be held hostage by her poor choices.

Choose your life. Don’t let anyone guilt you into anything.

Escape the cycle: save, educate, and keep your distance ♂️

Saving 7k was tough, but standing your ground is tougher

Commenter sympathizes with young adult, shocked by 11 siblings.

Not the a-hole. Tell us your judgment in one acronym!
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Commenter questions mom’s decision to prioritize risky pregnancy over family.

Tips for dealing with manipulative people about finances.

Encouraging words for young adult saving to move out

Don’t let anyone stop you from achieving your goals

Escape the dysfunction and live your best life

Encouraging reply to young adult’s decision to move out.

Time to break free
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Stand your ground and keep saving #NTA

Building a healthy life away from family is tough ❤️

Prioritize yourself and move out, no guilt required!

OP’s mother’s actions are abusive, it’s time to leave.

Young adult seeks advice on whether to give mom $7k.

You’re not responsible to financially support anyone but yourself

Escape the bad decisions, start your own life ♀️

Escape the abuse and make a life for yourself

Follow your dreams and take that flight! ✈️

NTA, mom is the only a-hole. Don’t give in to guilting.
