In relationships, one of the most heartbreaking things that can happen to someone is finding out that their significant other is being unfaithful. Finding out that someone you love and trust is cheating can be devastating.
Not only do you lose someone that you love, but you also can end up with trust issues and trauma moving forward. Many find it difficult to navigate relationships afterward, as they are unsure if someone will do that to them again.
We recently asked women who have suffered through infidelity to share how they are doing today. Here are their answers.
Sometimes, it can be the best thing for you
“At the time, I thought it was the worst thing that could ever happen to me. It ended up being the biggest favor my ex ever did for me. I was given a chance to find true happiness instead of just an existence. I love my kids, and wouldn’t change them for anything, but I now get to experience what having someone who actually loves and cares about me is like,” shared Nicole Lick-Glonek.
But, it can make you never want to do it again
“Lived through it. Then same thing happened in another relationship. That one left me crying non-stop for several days. Just couldn’t stop. I’m so over them and don’t want anyone any more,” wrote Linda Williamson.
They can push you to be better
“He told me I’d never be anything but a teacher, and I wouldn’t ever find anyone else. A year later I found an amazing man who loves me unconditionally. In 2021, I finished my doctorate (7th degree), and I just accepted a professorship at a state university. My husband and I celebrate 15 years of marriage on July 18th,” revealed Kristen Hodge Hoyt.
You mourn and then you live
“Was so lost. A friend took me to the side and told me in a year you’ll wonder what the heck you are so upset about. And she was right I had three kids, got a better job and don’t miss him at all,” wrote Jackie McKeethen Clark.
You find better days
“After a 23 year marriage of him cheating through out….I divorced him and kept with me our 3 children. At the time I thought my life was over. Since, I met and married a man that is truly a god send. What I had will never measure up to this wonderful man and step dad,” said Sue Harris Woolverton Inboden.
Just stay positive
“Led me to where I am today… married to the most amazing man and we just loving growing old together…. everything happens for a reason… you don’t always get the answers right away but it all works out in the end. Just stay positive,” revealed Sandra Petit.
Some try to make it work
“Trying to survive. Praying for courage and a peaceful heart. He is trying to rebuild my trust but it is not easy. Lost a lot of love for him. We have a daughter and she is pretty much the reason why I stayed. Never thought he would do such thing since he know my family background (chaotic) and he grows up in a loving family. Not fun at all,” explained Gemma Borbz.
You focus on what matters
“I’m going through it now had two boyfriends who did this to me. I’m still hurting and I told myself I would rather be by myself. Then letting another man hurt me. I have my children that’s all I need,” said Lola Perez.
Finding new hobbies
“It was the best thing that happened to my faith walk. I am totally dependent on God. 20 years later still single, but enjoying life riding a motorcycle loving on my grandchildren,” wrote Sandy McGhee.
Tragedy can bring people together
“We were together for 7 years and then I finally had enough when my child saw us arguing loudly. We divorced and then when my daughter was 7 I met the love of my life. We have now been married for 15 years and together for 17. His ex cheated as well so we are grateful we found each other,” confessed Jennifer Hanson.
It takes time to heal
“Never better, although it would be a lie to say my heart was broken into a million pieces. Any form of feeling l may have had for him, & love is an exaggeration, was all gone by the time we parted, after years of his gambling, lying, cheating, stealing, l had nothing but contempt left. Fortunately fate had something in store for me that many would dread, but it brought about the change in thinking l needed,” said Rosalie Kirwin.
Darkness can bring light
“Better than ever! I am thankful for all the darkness that came to light.
I learned that I am worthy of better. I learned my strength as a woman isn’t tied to a man and his value assessment of me. I learned how to receive from the kindness and compassion others shared with me. And currently, I am learning how to love again, and what love was always supposed to be like,” explained JessicaNiccole de Freitas.
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Karma will get you
“I got over him and got my revenge, funny as. Karma also got him big time a few months after he left and that made me feel better. He tried to blame me for his cheating but that didn’t work either. And I came out of it both emotionally and financially better off all because he wasn’t thinking ahead of what he was doing, he was only thinking of what he thought was a better option ha ha, not,” said Tania Mountford.
A long road to peace
“Worst thing imaginable. 45 years then knocked me over with a feather. But, have been in a new marriage, showing what true love and loyalty is. His lies had done irreparable damage to our family, and moving on was/is hard, but I am at peace,” wrote Linda Brinson.
You can still believe in love
“Was devastating especially the long lasting affects on our kids. But met a wonderful man who loved me till he died. Got nothing to speak of, but love my kids, have a wonderful sister who supported me all the way. I’ve travelled and still believe in love,” recalled Georgina Yacoub.
Still standing tall
“I’m still here. Took a lot of time to get over him cheating. He was my everything but I had to move on for me and the kids. I have trust issues to this day. Still single but the right man will come in time,” shared Laurie Richards.
