Growing up in a household with too many siblings and multiple stepfathers, life was never stable for this young woman . After her parents were arrested and leaving her as the only adult in charge, she was given the opportunity to escape and start a new life with her younger sister. However, this meant putting her other siblings in foster care. Her decision has left her siblings angry and hurt, but she believes it is the only way to secure a future for herself and her sister. Was her decision justified, or did she abandon her siblings in their time of need?
Growing up with too many siblings and step siblings.

Reluctant adult pressured into taking custody of younger siblings

A difficult decision for a better future

Sibling taken in by sister to avoid foster care system

Siblings put in foster care for a better future, heartbreaking decision.

Struggling with leaving siblings in foster care for a better future.

Struggling with guilt after putting siblings in foster care

Woman places siblings in foster care for a better future
A woman with too many siblings to count found herself at a crossroads when her mother and stepfather were sentenced to a long period of time behind bars. She was offered a new opportunity to live with her grandmother and attend college, which meant leaving her siblings behind. Despite the guilt and backlash from her family, she made the tough decision to place her siblings in foster care so that she could secure a better future for herself and her youngest sister. While the decision was not easy, it was necessary for her to break the cycle of poverty and instability. However, her siblings are left to navigate the foster care system, and she is left wondering if she made the right choice. Join us in the comment section to share your thoughts on this difficult situation.
NTA. 19 yo can’t parent 8 kids. Seek grandma’s help.

NTA – OP not responsible for parents’ poor decision making. Don’t let family guilt-trip you into taking on too much.

Teenager takes responsibility for siblings, not obligated to care for all.

19-year-old makes difficult decision to give siblings better future. NTA ❤️

NTA. It’s not your fault, your parents should have been responsible

NTA. You’re a fellow sibling, not a parent. Taking care of 8 children is an impossible expectation at your age. The state’s decision is questionable IMO.

A complicated family history revealed in NTA comment and replies

Grandma’s guilt-trip backfires as commenters defend foster care choice

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s situation with humorous tone

Encouragement for a young person dealing with a heavy burden. ❤
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Supportive comment section with helpful advice and empathy ❤️

Encouraging comment suggests taking a step back for self-care ❤️

Self-care is important, NTA for prioritizing your future.
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Commenter confused about family dynamics, others share similar experiences

Compassionate NTA comment advises OP to seek help from social services.

Eldest sibling in tough spot, NTA for accepting help
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Choosing to prioritize a younger sibling. Not the a**hole!

Teen girl forced to give up siblings to secure future

Taking care of younger siblings at 19 – NTA.

Difficult decision, step siblings may hold grudge.

NTA: Commenter supports foster care for better parenting.

Prioritizing self-care is not selfish. You’re NTA

A 19-year-old is not responsible for multiple siblings in foster care

Agreeing with comment that blames parents for foster care situation.

Taking responsibility for younger siblings, a tough but admirable decision

Difficult decision but NTA. Siblings’ future > unfair situation. ❤

User defends 19-year-old who gave siblings better future.

Prioritizing yourself doesn’t make you a bad person.

Advice for OP on staying connected with siblings in foster care ❤️

Blame lies with parents, siblings are scared and may be split

OP is not capable of bringing up seven children. NTA.

Putting your future first doesn’t make you a bad person

Encouraging words for a tough decision

Encouraging response to NTA comment about toxic mother situation

19 and responsible for 7 siblings? NTA for putting yourself first

Empowering comment encourages woman to take control of her life

Commenter questions lack of proper care arrangements for minor children.

19-year-old moves to grandparents, not equipped to handle 8 siblings. NTA.

Encouraging words for a young person taking on responsibility

Survivor’s guilt is real, please seek counseling for you both

Making tough choices: NTA for prioritizing own future and siblings’ safety

Self-care is important. NTA for prioritizing your own future
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Selfish or selfless? NTA sibling chooses best for family

Agreeing with the commenter’s NTA sentiment

Struggling with guilt after placing siblings in foster care? Here are some suggestions for self-care and setting boundaries.

Compassionate response to woman struggling with siblings in foster care
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Family dilemma: NTA for not taking all siblings in care.

Breaking the cycle and getting free of baggage. NTA.

Not the a**hole for not taking responsibility for their actions

Supportive comment gets no replies, but deserves thumbs up

Support for tough decision in sibling’s foster care placement

Putting yourself first isn’t always selfish.

Putting yourself first to secure your future is important.

Don’t sacrifice your life for toxic family. ❤

Difficult decision for a 19-year-old to secure her future

CPS social worker supports OP for securing better future for herself ❤️

Prioritizing personal future above family is sometimes necessary

19-year-old NTA for not being able to support 8 siblings ♀️

Focus on your future, not your mother’s mistakes. NTA

Last Updated on April 6, 2023 by Alfe Mercado