It’s hard to understand what a person goes through after the loss of their beloved spouse. And when you add kids to the mix, things get even more complicated. “My relationship with my MIL has been complicated to say the least,” shares a woman on the AITA subreddit who married her husband when he had two children. The author’s stepkids, 7 and 5 years old at the time, “detest my best efforts.” And the woman suspects it’s “because they see it as I have been around since before they can remember and with them not remembering their mom, I’m mom or at least a mom type.” The tension seems to have spilled into how the stepkids see their own children. “This year I took my kids to the beach for the day and had some good food and relaxed,” the author wrote. But it seems that her MIL was not happy about it. “She told me it was wrong to not even give my stepkids a chance to show up or call, that it looked bad,” the woman recounted. The MIL kept on nagging, which made the author snap. You’ll find her full story below.
After MIL criticized her for celebrating Mother’s Day with her biological kids, this woman said “I don’t care what you think.”

A woman shares her story of finding love after tragedy and dealing with criticism from her stepchildren’s family.

Woman stands up for herself after MIL criticizes her for only celebrating with biological children.

The woman’s MIL criticized her for celebrating Mother’s Day with her biological children only, but she didn’t care about her opinion.

Stepchildren refuse to celebrate Mother’s Day with the family, leaving the woman feeling hurt and misunderstood

Woman stands up to her MIL, refusing to care about her criticism for celebrating Mother’s Day with her biological children only

Woman stands up for herself and tells MIL that she doesn’t care what she thinks!

The woman stands her ground and refuses to be disrespected by her MIL despite the family’s outrage.

When your MIL criticizes your Mother’s Day plans, should you tell her you don’t care what she thinks?

MIL gives her opinion, mom’s response? “I don’t give a flying what you think!”
The relationship between this mom and her MIL has been complicated, to say the least. She met her husband when his children were young and his first wife had passed away. Despite her best efforts, the kids never truly accepted her as a mom. This year, the MIL criticized her for celebrating Mother’s Day with her biological children only. The mom’s response? She made it clear that she didn’t care what the MIL thought. It’s understandable that the MIL and the rest of the family are outraged. But was the mom in the wrong for standing up for herself? Let’s hear what the people have to say.
NTA: Celebrating Mother’s Day with your own kids isn’t wrong!

NTA MIL’s rude & intrusive

MIL is mad
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NTA: ♀️ MIL’s expectations are ♀️

NTA! Respect the kids’ decision to avoid the house on Mother’s Day.

NTA: MIL wanted OP to ❤️ her stepkids?

A MIL reflects on a step-parent’s relationship with their step-children

Is there more to the story?

MIL criticized, ♀️NTA!

MIL criticized OP’s Mother’s Day celebration

NTA: Celebrating with bio kids

Trying to build a bond

NTA Stepfamilies are tough!

NTA! Celebrate your day

Going low/no contact

NTA, but MIL’s criticism is confusing.

NTA ️ MIL was being rude and disrespectful

NTA: Respect your step-kids wishes!

MIL doesn’t approve?

Feeling uncomfortable on Mother’s Day?

Respect your stepchildren’s wishes and enjoy Mother’s Day

NTA: Celebrating Mother’s Day

NTA: ♀️ Apologize or

Mom stands up for herself!

Mom stands up for herself!

♀️ MIL criticized OP’s Mother’s Day celebrations. NTA ♀️

NTA: MIL needed a reality check!

NTA! Celebrate ❤ with your own ❤ kids.
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NTA: MIL can’t have it both ways

NTA! Respect your stepchildren’s wishes & don’t let MIL dictate

NTA: Kids have the right to decide how they want to manage their relationship with their stepmom.

NTA! Adults can make their own decisions.

Confusion over mother’s day

A supportive take

NTA: Celebrate Mother’s Day with bio-kids

NTA: Not Celebrating All Kids

MIL criticized but NTA!

NTA: Doing right by stepkids!

NTA: Stepmoms are

Stepmom stands up for herself after being criticized
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NTA: No Matter What, They Won’t Be Happy

MIL gets a ️ from OP’s !

NTA

NTA MIL needs to back off!

Step-kids being ‘sh*tty’?

NTA! You set boundaries.

NTA MIL criticized OP for celebrating Mother’s Day.

NTA: You don’t have to wait for them to change their minds.

Can’t make a determination on this one ♀️

NTA

NTA: Respect your boundaries
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NTA: Respect boundaries

NTA: it’s YOUR day!

OP stands up to MIL

NTA: MIL’s criticism was unreasonable
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NTA
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NTA: Establishing and sticking to boundaries

NTA: Celebrate the bond with your children!

Treat yourself!

MIL’s not the a**hole
