Dealing with loss is never easy, especially when the people around you don’t know how to act. In this AITA post , a woman’s brother-in-law crosses a line, and she takes action. But was it too harsh? After kicking him out of her house, she’s now dealing with the aftermath of her actions.
Read on to find out what he did and whether or not she was justified in her response. Don’t miss the comments from users on Reddit who weigh in on what they would have done in her shoes.
Dealing with grief and family support after losing a spouse

Dealing with inappropriate behavior from sister’s husband after husband’s death.

Sister’s husband crosses the line while visiting, gets kicked out

Husband’s inappropriate behavior leads to awkward exchange with sister-in-law

Woman confronts sister’s husband for inappropriate behavior, kicks him out

Sister stands up to inappropriate behavior and kicks him out

Family advises woman to be more considerate after kicking out brother-in-law

Navigating family conflicts with grace and firm boundaries

Sister upset after kicking out husband for inappropriate behavior

Woman kicks sister’s husband out after inappropriate offer
Grief can make people act in unexpected ways. When a woman’s brother-in-law made an inappropriate offer to set her up with a coworker, she understandably lost it. Her sister and other family members had been supportive since the woman’s husband passed away, but the brother-in-law’s comments crossed a line.
Despite her family’s urging to make amends, the woman is hesitant to reach out to her sister’s husband and potentially damage their relationship further. Read on for reactions from others about how the woman handled the situation .
NTA. Sister’s husband inappropriate after being helped.

NTA for kicking sister’s husband out. He was callous and clueless

BIL’s creepy behavior and lack of empathy sparks outrage

NTA commenter with autism shares insights on ‘game playing’ behavior, with supportive replies.

Suggesting writing a letter to sister to explain situation

NTA for kicking out sister’s husband after his inappropriate behavior.

BIL’s insensitive behavior adds insult to injury. NTA
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NTA. Commenter hopes sister is embarrassed by husband’s behavior. Replies express disgust.

Inappropriate BIL gets what he deserves. NTA sister stands firm.

Standing up for oneself against inappropriate behavior

Compassionate response to inappropriate behavior during grief. ❤️

Commenter sympathizes with OP, criticizes BIL’s inappropriate behavior and warns about his fidelity.

Setting point values for good and bad deeds. NTA

Empathetic response to woman’s difficult situation.

BIL’s ‘clueless’ behavior towards grieving OP was actually cruel
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Supportive comment validates grieving process after inappropriate behavior.

Grief is different for everyone. NTA for kicking him out
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Empathy for the grieving sister – NTA comment.

Supportive comment and advice for dealing with family conflict. ❤️

Set boundaries, don’t apologize. He should apologize to you

NTA, but will the sister apologize?

Validating NTA judgement and supporting OP’s reaction to BIL’s behavior ✊
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Agreeing with the commenter’s outrage.

Condolences for loss, NTA for kicking out inappropriate BIL.

Stand up for yourself even if it means cutting ties

Condolences to the OP. NTA for kicking out BIL.

Navigating widowhood and unwanted interference in your love life

Sister’s clueless husband needs hard boundaries, NTA ❤️

You go girl! Not the a**hole in this situation.

BIL’s inappropriate behavior overshadowed by meal debate

Standing up to family is never easy. You’re NTA
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Commenter calls out clueless behavior with a NTA verdict

Set boundaries to prioritize your grieving. NTA

BIL’s inappropriate behavior leads to family conflict. NTA.

Society’s conditioning for women to suffer for others’ happiness is wrong

Standing up to inappropriate behavior, and discussing with family

Counselor’s insight: NTA sister’s husband misguided in supporting grief.

Navigating grief and loss can be awkward, but boundaries are important.

Sister’s husband kicked out for inappropriate behavior. NTA wins.

Commenter agrees with the decision and uses strong language

Supportive comment urges OP to prioritize self-care during grief
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Widow defends kicking sister’s husband out for inappropriate behavior

Empathetic comment offers support and advice for dealing with loss.

Last Updated on March 18, 2023 by Chifundo