A woman disinvites her half siblings from her wedding after discovering their true family ties
The siblings’ shock discovery of a different biological father changes the dynamics of the family
Family torn apart by decades-long deception. Half-siblings must choose between biological and step-fathers.
Despite Covid, the woman’s fiance and her father formed a strong bond, but her half siblings chose their biological father over him.
Half siblings choose their biological father over their step father, creating tension for the wedding
The siblings are facing a difficult choice between their biological and step father
After talks that demoted their step-dad, the bride disinvited her half-siblings from the wedding.
Woman outraged after her half-siblings choose their biological father over their step-father
I felt disrespected and hurt, so I had to draw the line and disinvite them from the wedding.
Half siblings face a tough decision: biological or step father?
The bride-to-be chooses her step-father over her biological father, leading her to disinvite her half siblings from her wedding
As tensions rise, one sister is left with a difficult decision: family or her wedding day.
The half siblings choose their biological father over their step father, leaving the bride to choose between family and loyalty
Siblings choosing their biological father over their step father has caused a rift in this family.
A 25 year-old woman has disinvited her siblings from her wedding because they choose their biological father over their step father. The woman and her siblings had grown up together believing they were a nuclear biological family, until they found out their father wasn’t their biological father. This revelation caused their relationship with their mother to become strained, and their father to move in with the woman and her fiancé. The siblings then decided to pursue the biological father, and even corrected their children when they called the step father ‘grandpa’. The woman is so angry at her siblings, and has told them that if their biological father is their ‘real dad’, then they aren’t ‘real siblings’ and it’s best for them not to come to the wedding. Has the woman gone too far in her reaction? Let’s discuss .
NTA. Congrats on the wedding
OP is NTA for disinviting her half-siblings from her wedding because they choose their biological father over their step father. Replies agreed, applauding OP for her loyalty to her step father and for cutting out the “poisons” from her special day.
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Half siblings vs Step dad
The comment suggests the half siblings are dismissing the stepfather who raised them, which the comment justifies NTA. Replies agreed with the comment, some pointing out the hypocrisy of the siblings throwing “step” in the face of the man who raised them the same way OP threw “half” back at them.
Family drama:
The commenter said that the OP’s half siblings chose their biological father over their step-father, making it so they could not be invited to the wedding. Replies to the comment agreed that the OP’s decision was NTA (not the a**hole) and that the biological father was a cheater for supplanting the OP’s father-child relationship.
Family drama
OP’s half siblings chose their biological father despite 20+ years of love and sacrifices from their step father. Replies suggest money could be involved and that the siblings should be held accountable for their choices. NTA.
Half siblings are hypocritical! NTA
The commenter suggests that the half siblings are being hypocritical for choosing their biological father over their step father when the latter has been around for two decades. The commenter also implies that the half siblings’ favoritism of their mother could be a motivating factor behind their decision. A reply suggests that there could be an underlying reason why the half siblings are choosing their biological father over their step father.
NTA – It’s your wedding!
The commenter believes it is reasonable for the woman to disinvite her half siblings from her wedding. They should understand why their stepdad is hurt by being called stepdad and not demoted for something out of his control, considering the man has been there for her since she was a child. The reply states that the woman’s parents are already divorced.
NTA: low on half siblings
The commenter believes that the woman’s half siblings are in the wrong for choosing their biological father over their stepfather and calls them out for their ‘low’ behavior. Replies to the comment agree that the woman was wrong to tell the stepfather to stay in his lane and discourage a loving relationship with the children.
NTA: real dad = the hero!
The commenter expressed that the real dad is the one who raised them since they were 3, and that they haven’t seen their biological father since they were 5. The commenter also claimed that the half-siblings are “rotten” and “huge a**holes” for choosing their biological father over their step father.
Disinviting half siblings for choosing biological over step father ♀️
The commenter is not the a**hole (NTA) for not seeing her half siblings as “real” siblings anymore, as they have done the same to their step father. Plus, the step father has not bailed on them unlike many other cases. The half siblings are the a-holes for not appreciating him and being as loyal as the OP for some DNA.
A family’s heartbreaking decision
The commenter is Not The A-hole for standing up for their stepfather, who has been a great dad to all three of them, despite the half siblings’ choice to prioritize their biological father.
Half siblings picking bio dad over step dad?
The commenter is Not The A-Hole (NTA) because their half siblings chose their biological father over their step father, who had been with them for over 20 years, even after the infidelity of their mother was revealed. The commenter believes that the half siblings are horrible people and suggests that they can spend their time with their mother, who is not invited to the wedding.
A wrongfully punished father?
The comment questions why the father is being punished when the mother cheated and lied about it for 20 years. The replies explain that the brother also told his kids to no longer call the father “grandpa” and he was demoted to “stepgrandpa.”
NTA: Stick to your guns
The comment encourages the woman to stick with her decision to disinvite her half-siblings from her wedding, as they were cruel beyond the pale. Congratulations on the wedding were also offered.
NTA to the step dad
The comment expresses support for the step father and suggests that the half siblings are Not the A**holes for choosing their biological father over their step father.
No double standards ♀️
The commenter is NTA and states that the woman has the right to disinvite her half siblings from her wedding. The commenter also states that the half siblings cannot expect to be treated like family while they themselves treat people like they’re worthles*.
Family drama
The comment criticizes the woman for uninviting her half siblings from her wedding due to them choosing their biological father over their *step* father. The comment further expresses sympathy for the woman’s dad and encourages her not to abandon him like her siblings did. The comment replies reinforces the sentiment that the woman’s dad is the only family she can proudly claim.
NTA:
The commenter believes the half-siblings have every right to call their biological father ‘real’, but they don’t have the right to decide who is the ‘real’ father for the commenter. The commenter suggests not having the half-siblings at the wedding to avoid unpleasant conversations.
Family loyalty
The comment expresses sympathy towards the stepfather who found out that his children are not biologically his and they have decided to choose their biological father over him. The comment stands by the decision to cut off the half siblings, as it takes more than biology to be someone’s dad and if there’s no blood relationship, then the person is no longer their sibling.
Half-siblings choose bio dad over step dad ♂️
The original poster (OP) is disgusted with their half-siblings’ decision to choose their biological father over their step-father. They encourage the OP to stay strong and have a great wedding. In the replies, the OP shares that their biological father and step-father had no knowledge of each other and the other poster disagrees with the OP’s statement that their siblings are not the a**holes in this situation.
Two brothers?!
The commenter is surprised to find out that the woman’s mother cheated on her father with two different men who were brothers. The commenter believes the half siblings are Not The A**hole for dishing it out but not taking it.
NTA – standing by the dad who raised you!
The commenter expresses their shock and sadness for the heartbreak the father feels after his step-children choose their biological father over him. They applaud the poster for being loyal and suggest that the siblings are ‘half-siblings’ due to their choice.
NTA, ♀️they choose!
The commenter declared that the half siblings are NTA (not the a**hole) for choosing their biological father over their step father and disinviting them from the wedding. The commenter also urged the wedding planner to have a wedding with those who matter and forget the idiots. The replies clarified that the half siblings still maintain contact with their mother.
Family is more than just blood
The commenter’s opinion is that NTA (not the a**hole) for disinviting her half siblings from the wedding. They are treating their real dad, who raised them for almost 30 years, “less than” and the commenter is recognizing their real dad’s worth. No replies found.
NTA:
The commenter expresses that they are not the a**hole in this situation and that they asked their sister-in-law a valid question: why should their half-sibling be hurt by being called a half-sibling when their father should not be hurt by being called a step-father?
Honoring a truly special dad
The original comment points out that while the half-siblings’ biological father may have given them life, it is their stepfather who has been there for them and raised them. The comment replies then provide a beautiful description of the stepfather’s love and support, emphasizing the importance of honoring him and taking care of him.
NTA: Siblings ✋
The commenter believes the half siblings should not be disinvited for their actions and indicates that the mother may have cheated on the father. The reply suggests there could be other people involved.
NTA: Stepdad is dad!
The comment highlights the damaging effect of the half siblings’ choice to prioritize their biological father over their stepfather. The comment also expresses disapproval towards the mother for not holding her children accountable. The reply indicates the commenter’s decision to cut off the mother from their life.
Confused about the family
The commenter is confused because the “dad” is not biologically related to any of the siblings in the family. The bio father is the commenter’s uncle, and his brother is also the commenter’s bio father.
Half siblings a sudden 180
The comment asked why the half siblings had a sudden change of heart towards their step father, who had been supportive of them. The reply revealed that they had asked him to ‘know his place’ and to acknowledge that he was only a step father, which was disrespectful given he had not tried to stop them.”
Sis. finds her story insane!
The commenter finds their story insane and believes they are not the a**hole (NTA).
✋ NTA: Recognizing family isn’t all about blood
The comment is in support of the woman for disinviting her half siblings from her wedding, due to their preference of their biological father over their step father. The comment also points out the dissonance in the situation, where the half siblings are comfortable being called step siblings but not half siblings. The replies confirm the comment, clarifying that the woman’s dad isn’t biologically related to them or their biological father and their biological father is the brother of the woman’s biological father.
Kudos to you for defending your dad!
The comment expresses their agreement with the woman’s decision to disinvite her half siblings from her wedding, praising her for being “smart, loving & dedicated” and defending her step father. They wish her “eternal bliss” as she moves forward with her wedding.
NTA: Blood isn’t everything.
The comment is defending the woman’s decision to disinvite her half siblings from her wedding, stating that her parent is not one by blood but by being there and raising her. The comment was given the label ‘NTA’ (not the a**hole).
Family divided ✂️
The commenter states that they are NTA for disinviting their half siblings from their wedding, as their siblings chose their biological father over their stepfather, and now have to accept the consequences of their choice.
NTA: Real family is defined by actions, not biology.
The comment said NTA (not the a**hole), expressing that the woman was not wrong for disinviting her half siblings from her wedding since they chose their biological father over their step father. The comment also noted that real family is defined by actions, not biology, and that the half siblings can go f*ck themselves.
NTA: Siblings cut off the one who raised them
The commenter believes the half siblings are NTA (not the a**hole) for disinviting their step father from the wedding, as he didn’t even know he wasn’t the biological father and was happy to be their dad. The commenter recommends the half siblings to reflect on their behavior and freeze them out until then.
A dad’s life crashing down
The commenter feels that the half-siblings are punishing the dad for the actions of the mom and the dad did nothing wrong. They mention that the dad is experiencing the worst levels of punishment from his own family and thank the OP for being the only constant in their dad’s life. The replies mention that none of the half-siblings are related to the dad through blood.
NTA: Your wedding, your rules
The commenter said “NTA (not the a**hole). It’s your wedding and you can invite/uninvite anyone you want. They made a d move and don’t deserve being invited to your wedding. Congrats BTW.”
NTA! Half siblings drama
The commenter believes that the half siblings are not the a**holes in this situation, and finds it ironic that they are upset about their treatment from the poster when they have dished out similar treatment to the poster’s dad.
Family loyalty
The comment suggests that family loyalty should be considered when making a difficult decision. The commenter questions why the woman would disinvite her half siblings from her wedding when their step father had been their dad their whole lives. The reply agrees that their step father had been a part of their lives for a long time.
Half siblings excluded
The commenter expresses disgust at the mother’s decision to disinvite her half siblings from her wedding due to their loyalty to their biological father over their step father.
NTA: ♀️ Hire security at the wedding!
The commenter advises the woman to hire security to keep her half siblings away from her wedding and have her dad walk her down the aisle if she likes that tradition. They wish her a great time and a wonderful life.
Is it wrong to choose a biological father over a step father?
The comment questions the decision of the woman to disinvite her half siblings from her wedding because they chose their biological father over their step father. The comment concludes that the woman is NTA (not the a**hole).
Did someone say 3 dads?
The commenter is “Not The A**hole” but is confused about the situation’s dad dynamics. The replies confirm that there are three men in this scenario: the commenter’s dad who raised them, their biological father, and the commenter’s biological father.
NTA: Distance yourself!
The comment advises the original poster (OP) to distance themselves from their half-siblings as they might bring their biological father to the wedding uninvited, thinking it is a “gift”. The comment also notes that their siblings hypocrisy has been covered by others in the thread. No replies were found.
NTA: Heartbroken for Dad Unnecessary hurtful gesture Call both men Grandpa
The comment states that the poster is Not the A**hole (NTA) and is heartbroken for the father in the situation. They are also disgusted by the brother’s decision to make his children call him ‘step grandpa’, calling this an unnecessary and hurtful gesture, suggesting that the children should call both men Grandpa.
NTA: ✌️ keep your Dad!
The commenter is NTA, expressing their opinion that the woman should keep her dad and disinvite her ungrateful half-siblings who prioritize their biological father over their step-father.
Half-siblings choose bio dad over step dad
The commenter believes the original poster is not the a**hole (NTA) for disinviting her half-siblings from her wedding. They think the siblings are callously discarding the man who loved and raised them and should be cut out.
NTA: Hypocrisy and double standards?
Commenter thinks it’s wrong for the woman to disinvite her half siblings from her wedding because they chose their biological father over their step father, calling it hypocritical and a double standard.
Sibling drama
The comment writer expresses their frustration at being called an a**hole for disinviting their half siblings from their wedding. They state that what is deemed acceptable for their father might not be the same for them. They believe they are not the a-hole (NTA) and gives a special GFY to their brother’s spouse.
