Being a new mom means sometimes feeling like a full-time milk carton. While it’s totally a blessing to be able to breastfeed, it can feel super overwhelming and all-consuming at times.
Now, a single mom of two is asking if she was in the wrong for not putting her breast away while answering the door.
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On Reddit’s infamous AITA page, a single mom of two is asking if she was disrespectful to her ex-in laws after not putting her breast away while feeding her newborn.
“I’m a single mom with an eighteen-month-old and a three-week-old, both on breast milk. Oldest is feeding up to five or six times a day, and baby is feeding every two to three hours, sometimes more often,” the anonymous user began . “Basically, my boobs are no longer my property, and wearing anything that makes it difficult to pull them out at a moment notice is not an option.”
“To the issue; my toddler has been sick and so I’m very tired. I was feeding the baby when there was a knock at my door. I’d been expecting my friend over, so I didnt think twice about opening in, boob out, looking a hot mess.”
“Sadly, it was not my friend, and instead my (ex) mother and sister in law,” she explained. “Sil gasped and made a whole deal of turning away, whereas her mom looked on displeased. Of course, toddler decides this is optimal time to start crying, which disrupts an already upset baby, who stops latching and thus my nipple is on show to the world.”
She continued: “I basically leave them in the doorway while I get my boys situated. I try to avoid breastfeeding my toddler in front of them but he was not having it, so it was essentially just me walking them back out and locking the door so I could feed them both in peace.”
“For some reason they didnt leave, and when my friend showed up, they walked in with her. Friend has a spare key, dont know why I thought she was at the door in the first place. I handed baby off because he was done, but realised toddler wouldn’t be done for a while so I succumbed to my fate. Sil was still looking very uncomfortable, and I was expecting some form of judgement for still feeding my son, which I got. Can always count on the mil.”
“After she finished I hoped she’d just leave, but then she made a rather appalling comment of, ‘No wonder Ex left you, when you’re whoring yourself around like that. Anyone could of been at the door, and you’re off swinging your tits about.'”
“I, at this point, broke down crying. My friend (who was upstairs putting the baby down) thankfully takes charge of the situation. Gets rid of them, convinces toddler into his bed, and then we watched movies and ate ice cream until baby woke up.”
Sadly, things took a turn for the worst.
“I sort of hoped that would be the end of it but I opened up my phone to an array of messages from my ex, my own parents and the other sister in law. They’re essentially slut shaming me for feeding my baby. Saying that anyone could of seen me. Maybe someones kid who doesnt need to see that, even going as far to say I could of distracted drivers and caused a crash.”
She concluded by asking the Reddit community if she was in the wrong for “not putting [her] boob away before answering the door?”
Thankfully, the online community has been much more supportive than her actual community, and assured her what she was doing was completely normal.
What do you make of the reaction from this lady’s family and former in-laws? Let us know in the comments below!
