25yo sister takes care of her 27yo sister with severe mental health issues
Carer Sarah is feeling the pressure of being the ‘go-to’ for her mentally ill sister while struggling to keep her own identity
She feels emotionally exhausted from caring for her mentally ill sister, but is it wrong to not want her as a bridesmaid?
Sister’s behavior causing stress for the bride-to-be
This woman is struggling with her mentally ill sister’s past hurtful actions and is feeling apathetic
The poster is conflicted over her loving but difficult relationship with her mentally ill sister.
Should she risk disrupting her wedding day by inviting her mentally ill sister?
Should the woman invite her mentally ill sister as a bridesmaid or just a regular guest?
Family is divided on the decision to exclude a mentally ill sister from a bridal party. Is it OK to go against tradition?
A woman wonders if it’s wrong to not include her mentally ill sister in her wedding party.
Is it wrong for this woman to not want her mentally ill sister as her bridesmaid?
⚖️ Is it wrong for a woman to not want her mentally ill sister as a bridesmaid?
In the post , Carer Sarah (25f) has been taking care of her mentally ill sister (27f) since they were kids. Her two older brothers (40 and 42) and their girlfriends (now wives) were too busy, leaving her to take on the responsibility. Over the years, Sarah has grown to feel apathetic toward her sister due to her disruptive behavior.
Now that Sarah is getting married to the love of her life, she doesn’t want to make her sister a bridesmaid. Her family is shocked and one of her brothers believes she is being ableist. Is Sarah wrong for not wanting her sister there?
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NTA, OP! Let your wedding be the start of a new future!
Should she invite her sister to her wedding?
NTA: Your bridal attendants should support you ❤️
NTA: You’re allowed to prioritize yourself!
NTA: ⚖️ Bridal parties should be meaningful.
NTA: establishing boundaries
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NTA: Boundaries are
NTA – Consider this…
NTA: A sister’s mental illness is not to be enabled
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NTA: It’s ok to not have your sister in your wedding party
NTA – Celebrating you and your fiancé
Setting boundaries
NTA: You deserve your own day!
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NTA Time to ️ the on ♀️ sister’s behavior!
NTA. You’re allowed to do what’s best for you
It’s ok to prioritize yourself ❤️
Sister’s mental illness & NTA
NTA and ❤ for a sister
NTA: OP deserves more than to be a caregiver.
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NTA Prioritize your needs!
NTA: it’s not your fault ♀️
NTA, stand up for your wedding!
NTA: It’s not your problem ♀️
Not The A**hole ♀️ ♀️
Sending for both of you
NTA: ✋ Set boundaries now!
NTA – it’s your day!
NTA: Don’t be one to yourself any longer
NTA: Not Your Responsibility
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NTA: Elope & ❤️ your future spouse!
No a-hole here!
NTA You got this!
It’s your wedding, NTA!
Is it ok to cut out a toxic family member from your wedding?
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NTA: Not the a**hole here!
NTA: Rejecting Mentally Ill Sister From Bridesmaid Role
NTA: You Choose Who You Want As Bridesmaids
NTA: Sister knew what she was doing
Drawing a line between love and duty
You’re NTA! Celebrate your wedding your way!
NTA – ♀️ You deserve to have your dream wedding!
NTA: Responsible bridal planning
Time to go LC/NC
Sister’s mentally ill, but ♀️not OP’s burden?
Having a mentally ill sibling is but ️ NTA!
NTA: You’re not an ableist
NTA: Setting boundaries for your big day ❤️
NTA: Set boundaries!
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NTA: Mom’s plan for OP is shocking!
NTA: Elope
NTA: Exclusion justified
NTA: Hire Security For Wedding
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