Children get injured, adults make mistakes, and nobody’s infallible. This is why it’s vital that parents learn to prioritize family emergencies and put their blinkers on when it comes to getting a good night’s rest. Unfortunately, as this one mom shared on Reddit , her partner doesn’t acknowledge this reality. Not only does he value his nap above all else, but he also locks his bedroom door, which means that the entire family is cut off from him whenever he decides to catch some Zs.
A husband’s love for gaming led to a family emergency
He values his sleep so much that he put a “DO NOT WAKE ME UP” sign on his door , even in family emergencies ♀️
When a family emergency occurred, the husband left the family in the lurch to take a nap, leading to drastic measures by the wife
Mom takes drastic measures when husband ignores son’s emergency
In a time of family emergency, the wife took drastic measures when her husband ignored them to take a nap.
Wife took drastic measures when her husband ignored a family emergency to take a nap
A heated argument between husband and wife over the husband’s disregard of a family emergency
Wife takes drastic measures when husband ignores family emergency to take a nap
Wife takes drastic measures after husband ignores family emergency to take a nap. Who’s in the wrong?
When an emergency arises, ignoring it is not an option
When a family emergency arises, it is important to take action immediately. In this post, a mother was faced with a dilemma when her husband refused to wake up from his nap despite her son suffering from a hot oil burn. She took drastic measures, leaving her husband angry and frustrated. In the comments and reactions section, readers can weigh in on whose side they are on. Is the husband’s reaction justified or should the mother have taken more time to try to wake him up?
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Wife takes drastic measures
The commenter is shocked by the husband’s decision to take a nap instead of attending to an emergency and believes he is Not The A**hole. The commenter’s reply reveals that the husband rarely spends time with his kids, leaving them feeling ignored.
NTA, Husband chooses to ignore family emergency!
The commenter is of the opinion that the husband chose to ignore the family emergency and is not the a**hole. The reply to the comment adds that the husband was more concerned about the lock than their son’s condition, implying that he did hear but chose to ignore the call.
NTA: + =
The comment argues that the husband’s decision to lock himself in his bedroom and ignore his family’s emergency is a clear indication of his priorities: himself. Replies agree that it is a valid reason to consider why the OP is still with this person and suggest a divorce for the OP’s best interest.
Wife takes drastic ️ measures when husband ignores family emergency!
The comment argued that the husband was NTA for ignoring his family emergency to take a nap. Replies suggested the husband was cold-hearted for being more torn up about the lock than his kid being hurt and recommended that he get his own lock at his own place.
Husband’s obsession with games
Commenter says NTA, but questions the husband’s value since he values sleep over family emergencies and is jumping from one addiction to another. Reply says the husband has become too obsessed with gaming, despite working long hours.
Wife takes drastic measures
The husband is labeled as NTA (not the a**hole) for being selfish and irresponsible. Ding ding ding was the agreement among the replies, one of which suggested putting a padlock through the hole in the plug of his console.
NTA: No a-hole here
The comment argues that the husband was in the wrong for not responding to the family emergency and that he should be more responsible by going to bed at a reasonable hour instead of gaming late at night. Replies agree that the husband’s actions were irresponsible and dangerous.
Wife takes drastic measures
The commenter says the husband is NTA for needing a two-hour nap, questioning why he can’t behave like a mature adult. A reply mentions the same issue when the husband was a YouTube vlogger.
Husband ignores family emergency for a nap, wife takes drastic measures
The commenter declares the husband is NTA (not the a**hole) for ignoring his family’s emergency. Another reply reveals that the husband had hidden his console after a fight where he left the dogs out in cold weather in December.
NTA: Grown-ass man needs to grow up!
The comment argued that the husband’s actions are unacceptable for a grown-ass man with a wife and children. They suggested that he needs to grow up and take responsibility for his family.
Wife takes matters into her own hands
The comment states that the husband was not helpful in a family emergency situation, and implies that he is not improving the wife’s life.
Mama Bear Protects Cub
The commenter expressed sympathy for the little one and asked how he was doing. The reply detailed how the little one is doing okay, however, he is hyperactive and has difficulty using his arm due to the pain. His sister helps keep an eye on him to prevent any further injuries.
NTA: Parenting
The comment stated that the husband was wrong for ignoring a family emergency to take a nap and locking himself in the room with no way for his family to reach him, specifically to stay up late playing games.
NTA. Father’s top priorities aren’t family
Commenter suggests that the husband may need to separate from his wife, as his top priorities are himself, gaming, and work. They also compare him to the ‘smoothie father’ recently in the news. Replier agrees, adding that the husband’s anger has to do with his own embarrassment, not his son’s wellbeing.
Husband’s family emergency vs . Who’ll win?
The comment suggests that the husband should prioritize the safety of his family over playing video games.
Adulting fail: ♂️
When a family emergency arises, a grown man should not be locked in a room napping, ignoring it. The commenter calls out the husband’s irresponsible behavior and defends the wife for letting the 14-year-old cook. Censoring the comment, they say the husband should “limit the gaming or save it for the weekend” and act like a “responsible adult”.
Wife takes drastic measures when husband ignores family emergency for gaming
The commenter urged the wife to take drastic measures when her husband ignored the family emergency to take a nap and play games. The commenter deemed the husband a huge a-hole for not fulfilling his obligations to be a good parent and spouse.
Wife takes drastic measures!
NTA (Not The A**hole): The husband failed his family in an emergency and there is no excuse that would make this ok. The wife took drastic measures to let him know of his wrongdoings and he is lucky she didn’t shove the door lock up his a**hole.
Husband puts gaming over family, wife takes drastic measures!
The commenter was shocked to hear that the husband had put gaming over his family when a family emergency arose and then tried to blame his wife for an accident. In response, the commenter suggested drastic measures, saying they would have kicked the door down. NTA.
Wife takes drastic measures when husband ignores family emergency to take a nap
The commenter states that the husband’s behavior is not normal, acceptable, or indicative of someone with empathy. The commenter also expresses shock that the husband would prioritize gaming over spending time with his children, and suggests that the wife should leave him. They also express that they cannot imagine feeling anything but regret and remorse if their actions led to their child suffering even a minute longer.
NTA: Wife takes drastic measures
The commenter said the husband doesn’t prioritize being a good partner or father, and intentionally makes decisions based on keeping his family’s rankings low. They suggest he should leave and the wife should find a real-life partner who wants to be involved and cares.
NTA but What is the point of having a husband if he’s this useless?
The comment suggests that the husband’s behavior is not acceptable and is not setting a good example for his children. The author argues that the wife should have more self-respect and should not accept this type of behavior from her husband.
Is he really worth it?
A comment asked why the woman was with her husband, who was described as being as useful as a syrup-soaked waffle in a hurricane.
Husband’s addiction to games disrupts family life
The commenter believes that the husband is not the a**hole (NTA) because he has an addiction to games and is ignoring his responsibilities as a father and husband to play games.
NTA, but drastic measures!
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The commenter said “NTA, but holy hell, what if there was a fire?” to which the reply was “Then he would burn, I guess.”
NTA: Drastic measures!
The commenter said they’re Not the A**hole (NTA) and suggested that if the husband’s earplugs were so effective that they blocked out intense screaming and banging, he doesn’t need to lock the door.
Wife takes action after husband ignores emergency to nap and game
The original commenter said the husband was “NTA”, or not the a**hole, as he was more concerned about his sleep and gaming than the well-being of his son. A reply suggested that he was more interested in playing GTA than helping his kids in a life-threatening emergency.
Divorce him! NTA
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Commenter says NTA (not the a**hole) and suggests divorce as a drastic measure for a self-centered husband who ignored a family emergency to take a nap. Replies emphasized that the husband is an a**hole (AH) and urged the wife to kick him out.
NTA: A terrible husband and father
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The commenter expresses fury and disbelief that the husband ignored the family emergency to take a nap, and then had the audacity to blame his wife for not answering the phone. They suggest that the husband’s behavior is absurdly laughable if it weren’t so sad, and that the wife would be better off as a single mum to two kids, rather than three. The commenter calls him a terrible husband and father and a jerk for his actions.
NTA: Emergency > Nap
Commenter believes the husband is Not The A**hole (NTA) for ignoring a family emergency to take a nap. They suggest the drastic measure of locking the bedroom door to prevent him from taking naps during emergencies.
Husband locks wife out of bedroom?!
The comment stated NTA (not the a**hole) for the husband ignoring the family emergency to take a nap and further went on to discuss how the husband even locked the wife out of their bedroom.
NTA: Husband plays game late, Wife responds immediately to emergency
The commenter states that the husband is not the a-hole (NTA) for choosing to play a game late at night and that there is a huge difference between sleeping through an emergency and just being in a different room when the emergency happens. The commenter also notes that the wife responded immediately to the emergency while the husband continued to sleep.
NTA: Husband ignores 3yo for gaming
The comment expresses disapproval of the husband’s behavior: he ignored a family emergency to take a nap and possibly play video games. The comment suggests the husband is immature and hopes the 3-year-old gets better soon.
♀️ Husband Ignores Emergency
The comment says the husband was lucky to keep the door after ignoring a family emergency to take a nap. A reply adds that he was also lucky to keep the family after pulling an a**hole stunt like that.
NTA: Husband ready for dinner?
Commenter thinks the husband’s nap wasn’t the issue and that he might have been asking where everyone was because he was ready for dinner.
NTA: Is it time to be a single parent?
The comment says NTA and states that the OP should ask themselves if this man has any redeeming qualities. It expresses that the OP is already in the role of a single parent and suggests that they would be better off actually being a single parent. It also mentions that the man hid his gaming console after being caught being neglectful, suggesting he values it more than his family.
NTA: Husband’s selfish behavior
Commenter calls the husband NTA for his selfish and immature behavior, locking himself in the room for two hours and ignoring his family’s emergency.
Parenting over leisure:
The commenter expresses that they value their sleep and that the fact that their wife allows them to sleep until 9 am on some weekends is a blessing. They also point out that the husband is not a parent, just a sperm donor, and label him NTA (not the a**hole).
NTA: what for?
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The comment says that the husband’s behavior is not acceptable and he needs to prioritize his family over playing games. The comment also mentions how blaming his wife is disgusting.
NTA but ♀️ husband is
The commenter is not the a-hole, but their husband is for ignoring a family emergency to take a nap. The commenter believes this is a huge red flag.
NTA: Throw it out
The commenter believes that the husband is being childish and should be confronted by throwing out his game console and telling him to stop.
NTA – husband’s nap not
Commenter believes the husband is not at fault as he may have put on ‘earbuds’ and turned off his phone to take a nap, suggesting something else is going on.
Husband gets the
Commenter says NTA (Not The A**hole) and suggests throwing the husband away as a drastic measure.
NTA: ♂️Adulting and fathering are !
The commenter is not the a**hole and believes that the husband should have prioritized the family emergency over taking a nap. They think that adulting and fathering are key to getting his priorities straight.
Angry for the wife Husband not taking responsibility!
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The commenter is angry that the husband ignored a family emergency to take a nap. The commenter suggests that the husband should act like an adult and go to bed at a decent hour, and also make sure his family knows first aid “just in case something happens while you are in the shower or unable to be reached in a moment.” The commenter concludes that the husband is an a**hole, but the wife is “not the a**hole” in this situation.
NTA: Wife takes drastic
The commenter deemed the husband a ‘loser’ and expressed empathy for the wife, suggesting that she may feel embarrassed being married to him.
NTA: Remove Husband From Life
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The comment author is NTA (Not The A**hole) and advises the wife to remove her husband from her life as he disrespectfully ignored her family emergency to take a nap and also blamed her for it. The comment author finds his behavior unacceptable and denounces it with examples of people who have no choice but to work hard to care for their families.
NTA: Burn the lock!
The commenter is not the a**hole, and advises that the wife should take drastic measures and burn the lock to prevent her husband from taking a nap during a family emergency and blaming her for it.
Divorce: the easier option?
The comment suggests that if a husband only provides a paycheck, then divorce may be the easier option.
Someone was hurt, but husband kept sleeping. ♂️
The commenter expressed outrage that the husband was ignoring a family emergency and sleeping, even taking steps to ensure he wouldn’t be woken up. The commenter pointed out that the wife did what a good parent would do and got him to the hospital while the husband just kept sleeping. They concluded that the husband was Not The A**hole.
NTA: Pack his bags!
The commenter believes the husband is not the a**hole and suggests that the wife take drastic measures and pack his bags to show him the consequences of his actions.
YTA: Dad’s neglectful behavior
The comment accuses the dad of YTA (you’re the a**hole) for letting his neglectful behavior go on for too long and choosing sleep and video games over his children. It suggests either he gets his act together or he gets out of the family.
Father’s struggle with work⚖️ + gaming + sleep = unhealthy relationship
The commenter suggests that the husband needs therapy for finding a healthy balance between work, gaming, and sleep and also couples therapy, deeming him Not The A**hole.
No a-hole here
The comment suggested that the husband should be removed rather than the lock and that no one was an a**hole in this situation.
NTA: Partner You Can Depend On
The commenter is not the a**hole and is glad their partner can be depended on in times of crisis. They point out that the husband should not stay up late to play video games if he needs to nap afterward.
NTA! Priorities must change when parenting
The comment says NTA (Not The A**hole) and that it’s child negligence on the husband’s part for ignoring a family emergency and taking a nap instead. It also says that his priorities are messed up and he’s gaslighting the wife, making him sound abusive.
NTA: Unbelievably selfish ♀️
The commenter believes that the husband is NTA (not the a**hole) for taking a nap instead of attending to a family emergency. They think he is whiny and selfish.
NTA Adulting means putting others first
The comment states that the husband is Not the A**hole (NTA) and that adulting means putting the needs of others ahead of one’s own.
NTA- Husband Locked Out!
The commenter declared the husband Not The A**hole (NTA) for his behavior, shocked that he would risk his own safety by locking himself in the bedroom and ignoring a family emergency. The commenter suggests that the husband should understand the wasted time trying to wake him, and the need to go to a neighbor for help.
Parents must prioritize!
The comment suggests that the husband failed to be responsible as a parent by choosing to stay up late and game instead of attending to the family emergency.
NTA: why
The commenter expressed their opinion that the husband was not the a**hole in the situation and questioned why the wife was still married to him.
NTA: A father and husband neglecting his family!
The commentator believes the husband is NTA (not the a**hole) for ignoring a family emergency to take a nap and for neglecting his family by spending all day at work and then gaming. The commentator suggests that the husband does not spend quality time with his family.
NTA for taking time for yourself
The commenter mentioned that they take time for themselves every other night, which is not the a**hole of the situation. They also mentioned that they are a ‘helicopter’ parent to their 14-month-old child and that they spend time with their wife after their child goes to bed at 8 pm.
