Men Answer Why They Stare at Other Women When Out With Their Spouse

Have you ever caught your partner sneaking a glance at another woman and wondered what on earth he’s thinking?

We took to Facebook to ask men why they do it, even when they’re with someone amazing. The answers are a mix of enlightenment, eyebrow raises, and a sprinkle of side-eye. Here’s what they had to say.

“Art in many forms is still art. I love to look at beautiful things just as I do in nature, museums, architecture, and beautiful and/or interesting people,” one commenter shared.

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Well, who knew that a glance at another woman could be likened to a casual stroll through the Louvre? This person shared this highbrow take on why eyes wander, but we’ll just be over here wondering if this ‘art appreciation’ extends to sudden urges to gaze longingly at trees mid-conversation.

“Beauty has its own appeal, and there’s nothing wrong with noticing it. Hitting on other women and embarrassing your wife — that’s another story,” someone else wrote.

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Some say admiring beauty is harmless, just as long as it doesn’t cross the line.

“Just appreciating the lord’s good work,” another penned.

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Ah, religious reasoning with a side of divine humor — nice. But is this really all it takes to appreciate “the lord’s good work” because in that case, we all may be a lot more religious than we thought.

“Being in a relationship is not the same thing as being blind,” a Facebook user added.

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Well, at least this one’s honest! It’s a fair statement — being in love doesn’t mean losing your vision, but it might be wise to keep those glances quite subtle to avoid any sudden need for relationship counseling.

“Just because we bought our meal doesn’t mean we can’t look at someone else’s plate,” commented another person.

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This one sounds like a real keeper; casually comparing their partner to a meal — how charming.

“Because we are human and any woman lies if she doesn’t look at an attractive man in her sight so grow up. Looking is natural; it’s anything else beyond that that is unacceptable,” someone wrote.

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This commenter boldly declared that everyone looks, so maybe we should all just ‘grow up.’ There’s a lot to unpack here, but we’re not sure throwing down the gauntlet is the best way to justify ogling.

“Well, say your favorite meal is spaghetti. You eat it every day of the week for 52 years, you still love spaghetti, but it doesn’t hurt to at least LOOK at a prime rib,” another mansplained.

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Yet another person comparing his wife to food. The objectification of women is all too normalized, I fear.

“Just because one is on a diet, it doesn’t mean they can’t read a menu,” a person commented.

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What a cheeky analogy, but may I suggest that women are not food or menus but actual human beings? Crazy, right?

“[Men’s] number one goal in life is to reproduce. You can’t fault people for acting evolutionarily aggressive. Our genetic makeup has programmed us to want to copy our genes as much as possible,” wrote another.

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This argument suggests that men are just following their genetic programming and simply cannot control themselves. While cavemen might’ve been able to use this excuse, we think modern men can evolve beyond acting on their “aggressive” impulses.

“Because we appreciate our beautiful lady even more when we look at other women,” a Facebook user added.

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This commenter claims that checking out other women actually makes him appreciate his partner more. Appreciating his partner more directly might be more affective, but what do I know?

“I look at beautiful women; what’s wrong with admiring the scenery?” someone shared.

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This guy likens women to ‘scenery,’ as if they’re just part of the landscape. It’s nice to appreciate your surroundings, but treating people like roadside attractions might not win you any points in the relationship department.

“Beauty is fleeting, but appreciation for it doesn’t have to be,” wrote another.

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One person waxed philosophical about the nature of beauty, suggesting that it’s okay to admire because beauty itself is temporary. We’re guessing he didn’t try this line out loud at home — and we’d advise against it.

“You can always pick one flower, but there’s nothing wrong with admiring the field of flowers too,” a commenter explained.

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This flowery analogy suggests that men can appreciate all kinds of beauty, even when committed to just one. While it might sound poetic, we’d recommend sticking to tending to your own garden.

“Variety is the spice of life,” someone else penned.

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This person kept it short and spicy, comparing lustful glances to adding a little flavor to life. While variety can most definitely spice up your life, it contradicts the point of commitment.

“The day I stop looking is the day you must worry,” a Facebook user joked.

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One commenter hinted that if the glances ever stop, it might be a cause for concern. But honestly, I think one’s inability to control their own gaze is more concerning.