A new mom is wondering if she’s the a**hole for breaking her promise to her husband about their baby’s first visitors. When her husband had to travel for work during her due date, she was left alone and needed help. She called her mother for help, breaking the promise she made to her husband about the baby’s first visitors. Her husband was upset and felt disrespected, causing tension in their relationship. Read on to find out if she’s the a**hole.
Sacrificed my hometown for my husband’s medical needs ❤️

Delivery room disappointment: Husband misses birth of first child

New mom goes back on promise to husband about newborn

New mom struggles with uninvolved stepmom post-labor

New mom receives unexpected help from her own mom ❤️

Husband upset over broken promise of meeting newborn first

Husband upset after wife breaks promise on meeting newborn first

Husband upset after wife breaks promise to meet newborn first

Husband upset over new mom breaking promise to meet baby

Apologize or not? AITA for breaking promise to husband?

New mom keeps secret from husband about being called ‘mom’

New mom breaks promise to husband about meeting newborn first
When a new mom is left alone with a newborn baby, it can be a daunting task. In this case, a woman had to call for help from her own mother. But, after breaking a promise to her husband and letting her mother see the baby before he did, the husband was understandably upset. The woman’s husband felt disrespected and that she had broken his trust. He has been cold towards her and is expecting an apology. What do you think? Should the mom apologize or was it a justified decision to call her own mother for help with the new baby?
Husband’s selfish behavior towards new mom draws outrage. NTA.

Husband’s absence during childbirth and lack of support is concerning. NTA.

New mom stands up to husband’s unreasonable demands

Commenter suspects underlying issues in controlling husband’s behavior

Husband’s absence caused broken promise, not new mom. NTA.

New mom gets criticized for breaking husband’s unfair rule

New mom stands up to entitled husband, gets support from commenters

New mom receives support for breaking husband’s unfair promise

New mom stands up for herself and gets support. NTA ♀️

Commenter questions husband’s priorities and absence from birth.

Escape plan: New mom gets support from commenter

New mother seeks comfort from her own mother, husband gets angry. Comments support mother and criticize husband for being selfish. NTA.
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New mom not allowed company after giving birth, husband absent

Spouse breaks promise due to stepmom’s influence. HITA

New mom’s husband and stepmother are TA, not her

Red flags everywhere! NTA for prioritizing your own needs.

New mom is NTA for wanting help with newborn.

Supportive commenters agree husband is abusive and controlling

Supportive comment calls out partner’s behavior and encourages leaving.

Putting baby first , not husband’s feelings. NTA

Don’t play the ‘you said this’ game. NTA for prioritizing your needs.

Supportive comment calls out controlling behavior in husband.

Supportive comment, no replies. Keep running with mom! ♀️

Supportive comment and advice for new mom dealing with unreasonable husband.

You’re not the a**hole for breaking a controlling promise
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New mom rightfully calls out husband’s lack of support ♀️

New mom stands up for herself after husband breaks promise.

New mother stands up for herself against controlling husband. NTA

Commenter supports OP and suggests partner is abusive. Yikes

New mom rightfully defends breaking husband’s selfish promise ♀️
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Red flags for husband prioritizing himself over partner and child.

Supportive comment to new mom, highlighting husband’s immaturity

Putting family first

Husband blocks mother from birth, now punishing wife for having help

Supportive comment calls out toxic husband’s behavior

Support for new mom’s decision to prioritize herself and baby

Husband misses child’s birth, wife not wrong for breaking promise

Stand up for yourself and your baby! NTA
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New mom prioritizes her health and husband throws a tantrum

Double blessings, NTA keeps promise to self over husband

Commenter offers support and advises against husband’s behavior ❤️

Supportive comment encourages marriage counseling for new parents’ conflict.

Supportive comment calls out husband’s selfishness in childbirth, NTA.

New mom stands up for herself against controlling husband.

New mom defends herself against absent husband’s entitlement ♀️
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New mom receives backlash from husband for calling her mom for help

New mom gets support after breaking promise to husband

New mom stands up to husband’s fragile ego. NTA!

New mom gets support to leave husband and seek help

Goodbye, toxic husband. Hello, new beginnings!

Questioning the husband’s condition and red flags

Supportive comment highlights toxic behavior from husband towards new mom. ❤️

Does lack of empathy justify breaking a promise?

Supportive comment encourages independence and standing up for oneself

Putting the baby first

Husband’s controlling promise backfires, NTA for seeking help

Putting family’s needs first is key, not Hallmark fantasies ❤️
