A 22-year-old nanny is torn between family and work after her boss asked her to watch her kids during her sister’s wedding. The nanny had informed her boss seven months ago that she would be attending the wedding and had never taken time off before. However, when her boss couldn’t find anyone else to cover, she demanded that the nanny cancel her plans or lose her job. The nanny refused, leading to a heated exchange. Now, the nanny is wondering if she made the right choice and if she’s the a**hole for potentially losing her job over her sister’s wedding. Read on to hear the full story and weigh in on who’s in the wrong.
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A nanny who requested time off to attend her sister’s wedding has been threatened with losing her job if she doesn’t work the weekend. Despite giving her employer seven months’ notice, the boss couldn’t find anyone else to cover the work and has now turned on her. The nanny, who has never asked for time off before, offered to contact friends to help, but her boss refused and threw insults at her. The nanny is now torn between attending her sister’s wedding and losing her job, which she says she loves. What should she do? Is it worth missing a once-in-a-lifetime family event for a job that might not value her? Join the conversation and share your thoughts and experiences below.
NTA. Stand up for your personal time and find a new job.

Commenter sympathizes with nanny’s situation, urges boss to take care of her own kids. Agreeable replies follow.

Stand up for yourself, OP. You deserve better

Don’t let work take priority over family events. ❤

NTA. Nanny had 7 months to arrange alternate care. Don’t skip sis’ wedding.

Boss threatens to fire nanny for attending sister’s wedding. NTA.

Setting boundaries and standing up for yourself is important. ♀️

Prioritize once-in-a-lifetime events, not a job

Sister’s wedding or job? Nanny picks job, mom agrees. NTA.

Nanny stands up for sister’s wedding, boss threatens to fire.

Boss crossed a line, go enjoy your sister’s wedding!

Don’t let anyone treat you like a slave . You’ll find more work. #NTA

Empathetic response to overbearing boss, encouraging quitting. ♀️

Nanny deserves respect and personal time off, boss should understand.

Former nanny validates OP, encourages leaving toxic job

Respect for nannies!

Enjoy the wedding, not your problem

Being a responsible nanny means respecting boundaries and planning ahead.

Nanny stands up for herself and family, handles situation gracefully ❤️

Don’t let a terrible job ruin your sibling’s wedding day. #NTA

Don’t s**k up to your employer, NTA for refusing. ♀️

Boss threatens to fire nanny for sister’s wedding, gets schooled

Standing up to a toxic boss and entitled family with

Stand your ground and keep your boundaries, you’re not wrong

Good for you for standing up to your boss

Household employee advised on legal action against wrongful termination threat.

Nanny stands up for herself, sister’s wedding > work obligations

Mom’s behavior is unacceptable, find a job that values you ❤️

Stand your ground! NTA for prioritizing your family

Respect your nanny’s time and find a family that does too

Valuable nannies are hard to come by

Choose family over work. Toxic boss not worth keeping.

Stand up for yourself and demand a raise #NTA

Stand your ground! Your sister’s wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event

Don’t skip family events for work. Boss is TA.

Don’t sacrifice your peace of mind for a toxic workplace ♀️

Stand up for your time and worth, NTA

Standing up for yourself is always the right thing to do ✊

Stand your ground and take that vacation! ️

Your family comes first, not your employer. NTA

Respectful boundary-setting by nanny in face of unreasonable boss

Don’t miss your sister’s wedding, find a new job #NTA

Stand up for yourself and find a better employer! ♀️

Toxic boss insults employee, fire her and warn others.

Be prepared or face the consequences! ♀️

Stand up for yourself and say no to entitled bosses

Boss threatens to fire nanny over sister’s wedding. NTA’s PTO plea.

Stand up for yourself and leave a bad review
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Nanny refuses to work on sister’s wedding weekend, boss threatens to fire her – commenter points out employer’s lack of planning and offers NTA judgement.

Prioritizing family over work, Nanny receives support from commenters.
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You’re NTA for not working on sister’s wedding weekend

Supportive comment encourages job change and communication with sister

Standing up for yourself is always the right move.
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Stand up for yourself! It’s never okay for an employer to treat you like that. #NTA

Boss threatens to fire nanny for not working sister’s wedding. Commenters support nanny’s decision to find a new job.

Nanny stands up for herself and faces boss’s threat.

Prioritizing family over work? NTA made the right call.

Stand your ground and attend your sister’s wedding!

Prioritize family over work. Don’t miss important moments ❤️

Stand your ground! Not the a**hole here.

Mom is the true problem here, Nanny is NTA

Don’t tolerate toxic behavior from your employer!

Nanny stands up for herself, mom prioritizes her own needs

Boss threatens to fire nanny for sister’s wedding, comments side with nanny

Stand your ground and set boundaries, you’re NTA

Choose family over work. Boss’s reaction is a red flag.

Set boundaries, prioritize mental health. Boss needs to respect that.

Supportive comment, but with a hint of sarcasm

Supportive comment; Banshee insult adds humor
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Respectful nanny stands firm on time off request, boss threatened firing ♀️

Supportive comment, reminds boss of nanny’s value, predicts nanny’s behavior.

Don’t miss the wedding. If she fires you, she’s replaceable.

Last Updated on April 17, 2023 by Diply Social Team