Mother Wants To Be A Grandma To My Newborn After Refusing To Acknowledge My Older Kids As Grandkids, AITA?

A woman who got pregnant as a teenager is now facing a dilemma with her mother who refused to act as a grandmother to her two children. Now that she has a baby in wedlock, her mother wants to be a grandmother, but the woman refuses to let her identify as one on social media. What do you think? Should the woman allow her mother to identify as a grandmother to her baby despite her past behavior? Or is she justified in not allowing it? Read on to find out more and share your thoughts.

Mother wants to be a grandma now?

Grandma wants to be selective? Not cool!

Grandma wants to be in, after ignoring older grandkids

Blocked my mom after she refused my older kids, AITA?

Grandma obsessed with title but ignores older grandkids, awkward much?

OP’s mother deleted her comments, excluded from grandkids’ lives.

Mum demands recognition as a grandma after ignoring older grandkids

Online drama ensues after a grandma picks favorites, AITA?

Grandma only for the baby, older kids not ‘allowed’, AITA?

Judgment time, what’s your verdict? AITA or NTA?

Mother refuses to acknowledge older grandkids but wants to meet newborn , AITA?

Being a parent is hard enough but navigating family dynamics can be even harder. One woman reached out to the internet to ask if she was in the wrong after her mother refused to acknowledge her older children as grandkids but now wants to be a grandma to her newborn. The woman got pregnant as a teenager and her mother said some hurtful things and refused to act as a grandma to her older children aged 7 and 9. Now married and with a baby in wedlock, her mother wants to be a grandma to the newborn. However, the woman is questioning if she should allow her mother to be a grandma only to the new baby and not her older children. This has caused a rift in the family with some people thinking the woman should take down a post she made on social media that calls out her mother and others believing that the mother had it coming. The situation is complicated and nuanced, but at the core is a mother’s love for her children and a daughter’s desire for her mother’s love and acceptance. In the comments and reactions section, people weigh in with their own experiences and advice on how to handle the delicate family situation.

Protecting all your children from skewed views of ‘family’, NTA.

NTA. Setting boundaries with toxic family members is important

Toxic grandma deserves no place in grandkids’ lives, but public Facebook fight was unnecessary. Soft ESH.

Selective grandparenting is not grandparenting. NTA!

Blocking your mother would have been a better choice

Cutting contact might be the best solution

Standing up to a lying ‘grandma’, NTA

You’re NTA for setting boundaries with uninvolved grandmother

Mom plays favorites with grandkids and gets called out on Facebook. ‍♀️

Cutting off toxic family members can be tough, but necessary ‍♀️

Cutting toxic family members out is tough, but necessary

Ignoring toxic people is the best thing for your life ‍♀️

Setting the record straight, NTA

Cutting off toxic family members is tough but necessary

Asserting yourself as a parent. Navigating family dynamics. NTA.

Social media drama, ESH, but we love to watch

Mother refuses to acknowledge older grandkids, NTA for setting boundaries

FB drama justified to protect hurt children

Avoid passive-aggressiveness and confront her directly.

NTA, don’t let a**hole grandma ruin your happiness

Choose your own family Toxic grandma not welcome

Block the negativity , embrace family ❤️. Congrats on the baby

Commenter suggests OP remove toxic mother from their life.

ESH for stirring drama on Facebook instead of ignoring or politely pointing facts

When it comes to family, blood isn’t always thicker ❤️

Stand up for your kids! NTA comment and no replies.

Navigating familial relationships with grace can be difficult, NTA.

Commenter thinks both OP and mother are in the wrong ‍♂️

Cutting off toxic family, NTA wins this round

Don’t air your dirty laundry on social media, ESH

Calling out family lies on social media, NTA

Don’t waste energy on toxic family members, NTA

Commenter expresses shock at grandmother’s behavior towards older children.

Mama protecting kids from bs, not giving in to entitled grandma. #NTA

Commenter celebrates OP being ‘an a**hole’ to unsupportive mother.

Standing up to toxic family, well done OP

Commenter suspects grandma is bragging to other grandmas

Ignoring a controlling grandparent on Facebook?

Exclude toxic grandma, prioritize your older kids’ emotional wellbeing.

Post-hypocrisy: NTA for not letting her be a grandma ‍♀️

Avoiding family drama on social media, wise choice

Setting boundaries with a self-absorbed grandma using and

Putting grandma in her place with a touch of sass

Grandma wants to be grandma to just the newborn, NTA

A self-empowering NTA with a poetic flair

Abandoning grandkids, now wants to play grandma? Hard pass. #NTA

Grandma refuses to acknowledge older grandkids, NTA stands up

NTA, but your mom needs therapy ‍♀️

NTA! Glad you’re standing up for your kids.

Grandma refuses other grandkids, but wants to be part of newborn’s life. NTA.

Daughter stands up to grandmother favoring one grandchild, NTA

Grandma is a state of mind, not biology. NTA

Standing up to a narcissistic grandparent, NTA

Cutting off toxic family members for the sake of your children ‍ ‍

Stand up to family toxicity, NTA

Choose your own family Embrace the love you have

Commenter defends OP’s decision to not involve mother with grandkids.

Toxic grandmother only wants to acknowledge the youngest grandchild

Grandma playing favorites, NTA stands up for her kids ⭐

Cutting toxic family ties, NTA

Being a grandparent is a privilege, not a right

Daughter stands up to toxic grandmother, NTA

Standing up to entitled grandparents, NTA wins!

Agree! Some parents can be really unreasonable

Grandma gets a taste of her own medicine, NTA