When women have baby showers or bridal showers, they often register for gifts that they specifically need for their house or their child . There are many things that new parents or newlyweds need for themselves that they cannot afford or wouldn’t buy for themselves. Having a registry is a great way to always get what you need , without having to specifically ask someone for it.
While many use the registry, there are those who don’t.
Many people who attend showers tend to use the registry as a way to get a gift for someone so that they are able to get exactly what they want.
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However, there are times where people go “off the registry” and buy things on their own.
However, not all moms and brides are happy when they get gifts that are not from the registry.
Which is understandable.
Some women feel like buying something that’s not from the registry is pointless, because most times it’s not things that they want or need.
Therefore, many expect to have “gift receipts” so they can return the gifts.
One mom-to-be recently asked for advice about whether or not she was wrong for being upset over this very thing.
One mom wrote to the website “Mamas Uncut” anonymously seeking advice about what to do about party-goers who bought gifts for her that were not listed on her baby shower registry.
The mom essentially said she wanted to “make returns” for things they do not need.
“Am I wrong for feeling that if people don’t buy off of the registry for the baby shower that I made specifically of things my baby and I will NEED and guest choose to buy other things that we didn’t ask for, we should receive receipts so we can return the items we don’t need and get what we actually need and asked for in the first place,” she asked the forum.
She said she wanted necessities, and not excess stuff.
“I want the bottles I asked for that will feed my baby daily. I don’t want those onesies you thought were so cute but may not be in my taste for what I feel comfortable with my child wearing. I want the crib mattress that I chose that my baby will sleep on every night (hopefully),” she added.
The mom said she “didn’t want to sound ungrateful,” however, was confused by this idea process of guests.
“I don’t want to sound ungrateful, but I personally feel that baby showers are to benefit the mother and father by saving them money in the long run, correct?”
She wrote:
“But if no one is buying what the mother and father need off of the registry and then the mother and father have to go buy it themselves anyway, it defeats the purpose of the baby shower, to begin with,”
Many people online felt that the mom was being “ungrateful” and “selfish.”
“Baby showers are not gift grabs. No one is obligated to buy your kid crap. They are bringing you a gift You are wrong,” one person wrote.
“You are supposed to take what you get and appreciate it. Its the thought that counts,” another commenter added.
Some said that they, too, did not get their registry gifts.
“Happened to me. I got enough clothes to clothe 4 kids, but the actual stuff I needed about 70% of my registry was untouched.” one commenter wrote.
“BUT I appreciated all the clothes, and was able to get what I needed. And guess what?”
“Half the stuff they tell you that you need, you can get by without,” they finished.
Another pointed out that the gifts are given with thought, most times.
“Personally, I think this is a terrible attitude to have. Many times people are buying you things that they found extremely useful with their newborns, and products that they couldn’t have done without and think you’ll find useful.”
She continued:
“I know when I had my daughter much of what I’d registered for I didn’t end up using or needing as much as I thought I would, but products I hadn’t registered for that people got me came in extremely useful,” one said.
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