Since The Big Bang Theory came to an end, Mayim Bialik has returned to being a stay-at-home mom, and according to her latest YouTube video, it’s “nothing” like she remembers.
The very last episode of “The Big Bang Theory” aired on May 16th, 2019.
And while it was an emotional time for us, losing one of our beloved sitcoms — it was an even more emotional time for the cast.
The cast members have had to embark on the next chapter of their lives — including the one and only Mayim Bialik, who has chosen to return to being a stay-at-home mom.
She recently posted a YouTube video explaining what that’s been like so far.
“Now that ‘The Big Bang Theory’ is over, everybody is asking me ‘what are you doing now?,'” she said.
“They ask it in the supermarket, they ask it in the synagogue, they ask it at the gym, when I drop my kids off at classes — I get it. Everybody wants to know what I’m doing now.”
“I’m gonna tell you.”
“Well, I like to joke that I crawled back under the rock that I was under when I auditioned for The Big Bang Theory ; the rock of being a mom.”
“The last time I was a stay-at-home mom, my kids were — wait for it — 18 months, and almost four.”
“My blessed 18-month-old nursed every two to three hours, all night. By about 6 am, the three-year-old would be up and demanding love and attention and breakfast — which I got right to after nursing for the thousandth time in 12 hours.”
“I spent most morning cleaning up around the house and entertaining the three-year-old.”
“The 18-month-old needed a nap. But he wouldn’t nap unless he was in the sling,” she went on. “So, I would basically pace and rock and nurse while I also tried to keep the three-year-old happy.”
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“So, what’s it like now? My sons are now 10 and 13.”
“They go to the potty all on their own, they make snacks for themselves — although, I still like to make snacks for them, and for me.”
“They play video games on their own, they have tablets, they think that scrolling through memes is a full-tie activity”.
“The house is so different — it’s so quiet.”
“There are no cries from babies, there are no fights over who gets the dump truck first,” she continued.
“Sure, my boys sometimes squabble and they have their moments. But generally speaking, it’s very quiet.”
Mayim revealed she does a lot of *normal* things all day long.
“I still have no nanny or housekeeper, so I still spend a lot of my time doing laundry and cleaning the house and cooking.”
“I do take conference calls and do phone interviews from the house, and there are things I do like, I go to Taekwondo, I go to therapy.”
“The strangest thing of all though, is that my children can now be left alone — for short periods of time,” she reveals.
“I can go to meetings close to the house and leave them, and then come back,” she said.
“This blows my mind because the last time I was a stay-at-home mom, they could barely be left alone for 60 seconds.”
Mayim then explains her shock over the fact that her children don’t “need” her quite the same as they used to.
“I’m used to being the most important person in their lives, much less the most important person in the room.”
“I’m used to being the most important person in their lives.”
“This has been kinda rough,” she explained. “Now I’m a presence in a new way.”
“When I walk by my boys now, I kinda like, tousel their hair or like, touch a shoulder, in hopes that this won’t be the day that they shrug off my touch completely.”
“I’m no longer in charge of their bath time. They shower on their own.”
“I’m lucky if they let me watch them comb the hair that I watched grow strand by strand.”
“Their night is not spent reaching for me and calling out for me. Their night is similar to mine now.”
“It’s the brain processing what happened in the day. It’s everything settling down… They have dreams of love and flying and monsters and danger, just like I do.”
Bialik gets emotional and admits she looks forward to when her boys get nightmares, because it means she feels needed again.
“And I would be lying if I didn’t admit that I cherish their nightmares because it’s in those moments when they call out for me and I stumble out of my bed and I go to their room and I say ‘I’m coming baby, I’m right here, mamma’s here it’s gonna be okay,’ I cherish that, still.”
“So, in different ways I learn to make it okay now.”
“I miss the tenderness of being a mom to an 18-month-old and a three-year-old, I do.”
“But now, I get to be a partner to them in a whole new way, and I’m not their friend but our relationship is much more sophisticated and mature”.
“So, what is life like post ‘Big Bang Theory?,'” she asks again. “It’s terrifying,” she says, in a nutshell.
“I worry that I’ve missed the most tender time of their lives — I’ve missed that transition from being everything to whatever it is that I find that I am now.”
“It’s also thrilling,” she admits.
“I get to find ways to let them grow and thrive and spread their wings and they know that I’m always here. I’m always gonna be here.”
She concludes, “I don’t feel unemployed. I feel like I am back to having the most secure job in the universe.”
Watch the full video below!
