Living with family can be tough, especially when it comes to different household rules. One retired army vet found himself at odds with his daughter-in-law over her messy habits. After trying to handle the situation privately and getting excuses from his son, he took matters into his own hands.
But was his drastic action justified? Click to read the full story and weigh in with your opinion.
Retired army man struggles with daughter-in-law’s messiness

Debate over clutter: Father-in-law vs daughter-in-law

When messiness becomes a daily eyesore

Father-in-law struggles to deal with daughter-in-law’s messiness

Father-in-law takes drastic action over daughter-in-law’s messiness

Father-in-law’s extreme parenting style backfires with daughter-in-law

Father-in-law throws out daughter-in-law’s belongings over cleanliness

Father-in-law humiliates daughter-in-law over cleanliness.

Father-in-law’s strict rules cause daughter-in-law to cry

Daughter-in-law avoids mess but tension grows with father-in-law

Retired army dad treats daughter-in-law like a child over messiness
A retired army dad is having trouble dealing with his daughter-in-law’s messiness during her stay at their home. He has a certain set of standards that he expects to be followed by everyone in his home, even guests. Although he tried handling it privately with his son, he ended up taking matters into his own hands and threw out his daughter-in-law’s belongings to show how serious he was.
Although the daughter-in-law apologized, there is now an awkwardness in the house. Read on to see what people have to say about this situation .
OP’s unreasonable standards and invasion of privacy make them TA

Guest bathroom mess turns into a six-hour staring contest

YTA snoops and throws DIL’s stuff outside, gets called out ♂️

Commenter shares personal experience with similar oppressive behavior

Father-in-law traumatizes daughter-in-law and lacks empathy. YTA
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Former military father-in-law criticized for treating adults like children ♂️

Commenter calls out OP’s behavior, highlighting the impossibility of their standards. Replies reinforce the problematic nature of their actions.

Father-in-law’s actions towards daughter-in-law are unforgivable. YTA.

OP’s controlling behavior and invasion of privacy is unacceptable

A father-in-law shames his daughter-in-law over a non-existent mess

Former military father-in-law’s intimidating behavior – YTA

FIL invades DIL’s privacy, throws away personal items. YTA

Don’t be a control freak ♂️. Respect others’ privacy

Controlling father-in-law nitpicks about makeup in guest bathroom. YTA.

Father-in-law crosses boundaries, violates privacy
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Father-in-law’s condescending behavior gets called out. YTA

Father-in-law oversteps boundaries and sparks PTSD in daughter-in-law. YTA

Father-in-law accused of being a perv for inspecting clothes

OP invades DIL’s privacy and gets called out. YTA

Father-in-law’s controlling behavior damages relationship with daughter-in-law.

Guest calls out father-in-law’s behavior as immature and r**e.

Retired Army commenter calls out CSM’s behavior. YTA.

Insensitive treatment of daughter-in-law’s belongings. YTA.

Commenter calls out controlling behavior of father-in-law

DiL’s messiness sparks control issues, YTA, abusive behavior.

YTA for treating your DIL like a child and touching her personal belongings ♂️

Father-in-law disrespects daughter-in-law’s belongings, called out as YTA.

Insensitive father-in-law gets called out for his inconsiderate behavior

Insensitive father-in-law triggers trauma, YTA

Red-faced YTA dad expects daughter-in-law to salute him ♂️

Father-in-law’s invasive and disrespectful behavior towards DIL is unacceptable

Man’s obsession with cleanliness causes distress to daughter-in-law. YTA.

Man’s treatment of DIL reflects deeply-rooted issues. YTA

Don’t invade their privacy and play the parent. YTA. ♂️

Retired army man treats daughter-in-law like trash over messiness

Insensitive father-in-law causes trauma for foster child.

Commenter calls out OP for overreacting to messiness

OP’s cruel treatment of foster child daughter-in-law

Treating your daughter-in-law like a child could cost you everything

YTA! Daughter-in-law’s messiness doesn’t justify treating her like trash ️

Don’t be a controlling parent-in-law ✋

Father-in-law’s invasive behavior traumatizes daughter-in-law – NTA

Control over messiness traumatized foster youth. YTA

Insensitive behavior towards foster care victim. YTA

Don’t let clutter ruin your relationship with your family

Father-in-law crosses the line, touches daughter-in-law’s possessions. Big YTA.
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Putting DIL’s belongings in trash bags was traumatic and cowardly

Don’t be an a**hole, respect your guest’s privacy

Overbearing father-in-law receives rightful criticism for creepy behavior

Man treats daughter-in-law like a child over messiness

YTA man, give people privacy and respect. Apologize and relax

Last Updated on April 12, 2023 by Chifundo