A man and his wife have a 4-year-old son and usually rely on family members to babysit. However, the wife’s brother refuses to spend any time with his nephew because he identifies as “child-free.” When the father asked him for help, he refused, suggesting that the father take his son to work instead.
The father confronts him, telling him that his attitude is “cringe” and that he should do better. The brother-in-law is offended and complains to the rest of the family. The father is now being called out for disrespecting him. The question is, who’s in the wrong here?
Read on to find out how the situation unfolded.
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When it comes to family, it’s natural to expect a certain level of support and help. However, one man’s brother-in-law has been using his choice to be “child-free” as an excuse to avoid spending time with his nephew. Despite being begged by his sister and brother-in-law to watch their son during emergencies, the 31-year-old has continuously refused, causing tension and frustration.
When the man confronted his brother-in-law about his behavior, things got heated and now the family is divided. While some are defending the brother-in-law’s lifestyle choices, others are calling for more support and understanding within the family.
In a world where people are increasingly choosing to be child-free, it’s important to consider how this impacts family dynamics and relationships. Is it fair for the brother-in-law to use his lifestyle as an excuse to neglect his nephew? Or should family members be expected to support each other regardless of personal choices?
Read on for reactions and comments.
OP is YTA for expecting free childcare from BIL.

User calls out entitlement of expecting free childcare from family.

OP is the AH for expecting brother-in-law to watch their child
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Pay for childcare and plan. Work is not an emergency. YTA.

Respect his decision, hire a babysitter instead

OP learns that BIL isn’t comfortable with kids. YTA for expecting otherwise.
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Commenter calls out OP for demanding brother-in-law babysit

Commenter suggests paid childcare, OP accused of wanting free labor

Don’t pressure your BIL to babysit. Respect his decision

Demanding free childcare from child-free family member makes YTA.

Commenter calls out entitled parent and sparks agreement from others

Don’t force your child on someone who doesn’t want to babysit

Man keeps asking BIL to watch his child despite clear refusal ♂️

Setting boundaries with family can be tricky

Respect child-free choices, but confront BIL for using it as excuse.

Respect boundaries. Hire a babysitter instead.

Don’t dump your child on someone who chose to be child-free ♂️

Commenter suggests paying for childcare, calls parent YTA

Confronts brother-in-law to babysit, gets told ‘no’. YTA.

When family doesn’t help with kids

Don’t be entitled ♂️ Hire a babysitter

Respect boundaries. No means no, even for family.

Commenter believes parent is responsible for their own child, calls out lack of qualification and experience

Commenter calls out entitled parent for demanding free childcare

OP gets called out for entitlement and irresponsibility ♂️

Commenter calls out OP for being immature and entitled

Respect boundaries, find alternative childcare or be a stay-at-home parent

OP is called out for being entitled and unprepared

Boundaries respected: Nephew-free BIL vs entitled parent. ♂️

Don’t rely on family for childcare, YTA for getting upset.

OP called out for expecting brother-in-law to watch his child

Commenter calls out parent for lack of childcare plan
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Commenter calls out entitled behavior in childcare, YTA.

Don’t expect free childcare. Plan ahead and hire a babysitter!

Don’t be an unannounced a**hole, respect your BIL’s boundaries.

Take responsibility for your child – don’t demand others to babysit

Brother-in-law sets clear boundaries, OP expects too much ♂️

Commenter calls out entitled parent for expecting free babysitting.

Respect his decision. YTA for not accepting his answer

Don’t pressure family into free childcare. Hire someone

Brother-in-law has the right to refuse to watch nephew

Debate on babysitting: YTA vs NTA

Commenter calls out entitlement in babysitting request, defends brother-in-law.

Commenter questions maturity of child-free excuse critic, gets roasted

Commenter calls out entitlement in babysitting request. Yikes.

Commenter calls out entitled brother-in-law, defends child-free lifestyle

Don’t take advantage of family for free babysitting
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Parent confronts brother-in-law for not watching nephew, internet calls him a**hole.

Commenter calls out entitlement in childcare, suggests paid care.

Respect boundaries, not everyone likes kids. YTA. ♀️

Working parent confronts brother-in-law for refusing childcare responsibility

Respect his boundaries.

Parent shaming at its finest Hire a babysitter

Commenter calls out entitlement and demands to control brother-in-law’s reasoning. YTA

Expecting unlimited childcare is unacceptable. ♀️

Respect boundaries: BIL’s choice to not watch nephew. YTA.

Commenter called out for expecting free babysitting from brother-in-law

Commenter calls out the OP for expecting emergency daycare

Parent disregards boundaries and demands unsafe childcare from brother-in-law

Commenter calls out entitled parent for expecting family to babysit

Commenter calls out lack of childcare, deems OP the a**hole

Suggesting a babysitter? Is this commenter the a**hole?

Respect boundaries: YTA confronted for expecting free babysitting ♂️

Commenter calls out OP for being TA in childcare dispute

Commenter sarcastically suggests dropping off their kids with OP for free babysitting, labeling OP as the a**hole (YTA)

Respect people’s boundaries even if it involves children

Commenter accuses parent of expecting free babysitting, calls YTA
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User responds to entitled parent and deems them the a**hole.

Parent shames BIL for not babysitting, internet disagrees. YTA.

Entitled brother-in-law called out for expecting free babysitting

Commenter argues against blaming BIL for not wanting to babysit
