Many people have had a lot of big plans to tie the knot recently. 2020 seemed to be the year that everyone got engaged or tried to get married. But, of course, COVID-19 delayed many people’s plans, pushing off weddings and social gatherings for safety precautions. All over the country, people were forced to postpone their special day.
Some couples were devastated to have to push off their weddings.
For some couples, getting married and having a wedding is something they planned for a very long time, as wedding planning does take months (sometimes even years!)
There are some couples who are struggling with the regulations and what to do with their “I do’s.”
One Reddit user wrote into the community seeking advice for him and his fiancée. The two were supposed to get married in June, but their wedding was canceled due to COVID-19. However, they’re both in their 30s and want to have kids pretty soon, due to their ages.
Apparently, the Reddit user’s fiancé wasn’t happy with delaying their plans.
“I wanted to delay that when the wedding was canceled since I didn’t want her to be pregnant and unmarried, but she begged me to stick with the original plan due to our age and medical history and promised that if and when she got pregnant we’d have a civil ceremony,” he wrote.
However, it turns out that the pregnancy happened rather fast.
“She got pregnant our first cycle but didn’t want to have the ceremony right away. She said there was no rush. By August she had decided she instead wanted to do a small ceremony in December at her parents’ house and didn’t want a civil ceremony because she wanted our ceremony to be ‘real.’ Fine,'” he continued.
The Reddit user explained that the original wedding dress his fiancée planned on wearing wouldn’t work for this wedding.
The bride would be too far along in her pregnancy to fit into the dress.
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“She had to find another that would work with her stomach. I haven’t seen it, but when I asked her how it works, she told me it is form-fitted. I did ask her to clarify just to be sure I didn’t have the wrong idea, and she told me that the dress isn’t meant to hide her stomach. It is meant to complement it,” he said.
He then said he felt that the form-fitting dress was “tacky” as many of his family members disagree with the way they are doing things.
“She, on the other hand, says it’s fine and not a problem. I told her my thoughts and how I felt her flaunting her pregnancy while we’re getting married would be a bad look. I said that wearing a dress like that would be tacky and begged her to choose something less form-fitting.
That really upset her, so now I am the asshole because I, in her words, am prioritizing the feelings of my family over her feelings and shaming her for being pregnant and treating her like an embarrassment,” he shared.
The Reddit user said it “wasn’t his intent to hurt her.”
He even “offered to have a big ceremony after the baby was born,” and suggested eloping now.
However, many Reddit users said this guy should totally be in the doghouse for his “insensitive” comments towards his future wife and mother of his child.
“You shouldn’t be having a kid if you’re ashamed of your fiancée’s baby bump. She shouldn’t have to hide it or wear a tent because you haven’t finished growing up. How the hell did you think calling her trashy would go over remotely less than terrible?” one Reddit user said.
Many other Reddit users agreed that this guy is a “total asshole.”
“Just to pile on to a beautifully made point: she’s f-king pregnant. It takes a HUGE toll on the body, and can make a woman feel less than sexy sometimes. It’s her wedding day. She wants to feel beautiful. And if this dress makes her feel beautiful and strong, then by all means, flaunt that sh*t. Don’t try and tell her she can’t look the way she wants to look when what her body is going through is already rough,” another use added.
Overall, Reddit users agreed, it’s her body and her choice in what she wants to wear to her own wedding.
“It’s her body, she should be able to wear whatever she feels comfortable wearing and you should be telling your family that ‘doesn’t like the way you guys did things’ to GTFO if they don’t like it. I assume you were present at the conception of the child, it’s not like you didn’t agree with this plan right? You should support her in whatever she chooses. Why would you want her to spend the day of your wedding feeling ashamed by her own damn fiancé for being pregnant?” one said.
How would you react to this situation?
