Engagements are supposed to be blissful, right? Well, not for one Reddit user, Glittering_Trifle421, who’s reconsidering his engagement after his fiancée’s suspicious behavior changes.
After dating for two years, he thought everything was perfect until she said “yes.” Now, he’s left questioning her sudden shift in attitude — and whether this is the person he really wants to marry.
A Reddit user by the name of Glittering_Trifle421 shared a post asking if he is “an a–hole for breaking up with his fiancée.
Embed from Getty ImagesThe OP (original poster) described how, after proposing, “it feels like the second the ring got on her finger, her attitude and behavior took a total 180.” While their relationship had been smooth and compatible before, he started noticing strange shifts immediately after their engagement.
Shortly after their engagement, she introduced him to friends he’d never met before.
Embed from Getty ImagesOne day, OP came home to find Sharon with six women he had never seen. “I was curious as to why I was just now meeting them, when I already met Sharon’s two best friends… over a year and a half ago.” Sharon’s explanation was that she didn’t want him meeting her “inner circle” until they were a “sure thing.”
What really bothered OP was how Sharon’s friends treated his home.
Embed from Getty Images“They were quickly draining my wine rack of wine,” he said, recounting a night where the group went through four bottles of Rosé. When he tried to talk to Sharon about the uninvited guests, she “dismissed [his] grievance very flippantly.”
Things only escalated when Sharon started bringing her friends over more often — sometimes without warning.
Embed from Getty ImagesAfter her friends’ fourth visit, OP decided to lock up his wine as Sharon’s friends had been helping themselves to it. “She just called me ‘no fun’ after that,” which didn’t sit well with OP since he felt like his concerns were being brushed off.
Next, Sharon dropped deal-breaking relationship views.
Embed from Getty ImagesDuring a dinner with her friends, she suddenly started talking about how they shouldn’t be too hasty about staying monogamous. “To my shock, Sharon said we shouldn’t be ‘too hasty’ on such decisions,” OP wrote, which was completely different from her previous views.
The final straw was when she took his golf clubs without asking and lent them to her friends.
Embed from Getty ImagesThings came to a head when OP got a notification from his doorbell camera showing Sharon and one of her friends leaving his house with his golf clubs. “This set was a gift from my father… so Sharon lending it out without my permission got me pissed.”
Sharon attempted to gaslight OP into forgiving her for stealing his golf clubs.
Embed from Getty ImagesWhen he confronted her, Sharon claimed, “But you promised to lend the clubs to her boyfriend, remember?” OP wasn’t buying it and threatened to call the cops if they weren’t returned immediately.
While the clubs were promptly returned to OP, the drama had only just began.
Sharon’s friend flipping off the Nest video doorbell on the way out.
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“I got home and saw Sharon’s friend literally just threw the clubs and back on the living room floor. Sharon tried to talk to me about my ‘toxicity’ again, and I told her again to cut the crap,” OP shared.
“…If I knew this was how she was, I would have never proposed,” OP admitted.
Embed from Getty ImagesIt was then that OP called off his engagement to Sharon and asked her to return the ring. “She cried and begged me not to cancel the engagement, and insisted that it was just stress. I told her again we will talk about it this weekend. She finally relented. I had my house re-keyed anyways after she left, just to be safe,” he recalled.
Reddit backed OP up, calling out Sharon’s behavior.
Embed from Getty ImagesOne commenter didn’t hold back: “She put on quite a show to get the ring… now that she thought she had you locked down, she can show her true colors.”
Other Redditors were shocked by the fiancée’s sudden behavior change.
Embed from Getty ImagesAnother user sympathized, saying, “2 years and she didn’t introduce you to these ‘friends’? She knows how terrible they are and how terrible she is with them.”
They pointed out the disrespect and manipulation.
Embed from Getty ImagesReddit users were quick to point out the red flags, with one asking, “Why are you not secure enough for wanting to be treated with common decency? You dodged a bullet.”
Most commenters urged OP to call things off for good and never look back.
Embed from Getty Images“Run like hell. She’s insane,” one user wrote. Another assured OP, “You are not the a–hole here.”
Many chimed in, convinced Sharon was only in it for the ring from the start.
Embed from Getty ImagesSumming it up, another Redditor commented, “She’s a gold digger and thinks you’ll roll over for all her inane materialistic toxic desires.”
