A man posted online about his wife sabotaging his health journey due to her own insecurities. He went searching for advice when his wife told him “I work hard to make you fat.” Here’s what the internet has to say about this shocking relationship.
He posted on Reddit.
Reddit user shreksnaughtyside posted on r/relationship_advice about his relationship struggles with his wife.
In the post, he explained that he was 38 years old and trying to get healthy again and start going to the gym. While most spouses would support this, his wife had the opposite reaction.
He said she tried to stop him from going to the gym.
He went on to explain that he was trying to go to the gym more frequently and that his wife was “unsupportive. ” But she was also trying to stop him from going at all.
He said that she told him, “She made me quit last time and can do it again.”
Keeping him from the gym stems from her insecurities.
In the post, he said that his wife is insecure about herself, but her insecurities go even deeper than that.
He also wrote, “I finally confronted her about it and she says she worked hard to make me fat so no other women would be interested in me and me continuing to go to the gym makes her work all for nothing.”
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The man said he is trying to work through old injuries.
He tried to explain to his wife that he lives in pain from previous sports injuries and wants to get stronger so he can have an improved quality of life.
Yet, despite all of this, his wife still doesn’t want him to go to the gym or be healthier.
The responses were overwhelmingly in his favor.
Since he wanted advice, many other Reddit users gave their opinions and support. The responses were almost completely on his side and warning him that this was unacceptable behavior from his wife.
In fact, many users felt this was controlling behavior that could even be abusive.
Commenters told him he should leave the relationship.
As user BebeTransAscension said:
“This is total nonsense. She’s clearly projecting her insecurities onto you and trying to control your choices. You deserve to prioritize your health without guilt or sabotage. If she’s more concerned about her ego than your well-being, that’s a huge red flag. You need to seriously reconsider if this is the kind of relationship you want. Take care of yourself first!”
The original poster then made an update on the post.
In the update, he explained that his wife would do things like make plans on nights he was trying to go to the gym. She would also order pizza or try to encourage him to eat more instead of going to the gym.
What do you think of this situation?
It seems like a supportive spouse would want their partner to be healthy and to achieve their goals.
By making the process about her own insecurities, she was being unfair. But, even worse, she admitted to trying to self-sabotage his health to make herself feel better.
