When a family wedding came up, an Indian-American mom insisted that her tomboy daughter wear formal clothing of her choice, whether it was a suit, a dress, or traditional Indian clothing. The daughter refused, saying that it would constrict her expression. The mother argued that dressing appropriately for the occasion is a necessary skill and that her daughter will have to wear formal clothing at other points in her life, whether for work or other formal events. The post sparked a debate on freedom of expression versus dressing appropriately for formal events. What do you think? Who’s the a**hole in this situation? Read on to find out more.
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Indian-American mom insists tomboy daughter wear formal wear for wedding
An Indian-American mother is under fire for forcing her tomboy daughter to wear formal wear for her niece’s traditional Indian wedding. The mother, who considers herself progressive, has always been supportive of her daughter’s tomboy style, but insisted that she dress appropriately for the occasion. The daughter refused to wear a traditional Indian dress and instead wanted to wear a T-shirt and slacks. The mother insisted that she wear formal clothing of her choice and even offered to let her pick out a suit or a dress. The daughter got angry and accused her mother of constricting her expression. The wedding has been postponed, but the mother still wants her daughter to wear formal wear. Many people are divided on whether the mother is in the wrong or not. Some believe it’s important to teach children to dress appropriately for formal events, while others believe that children should be allowed to express themselves however they want. What do you think?
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Breaking gender norms without breaking wedding dress code
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