What kind of person would make mean and hurtful comments about another human being in their most vulnerable state? A mean and hurtful person, that’s who. And what kind of person would allow this to happen to them over and over again? A kind that doesn’t know how to stand up for themselves. A mother of a newborn shared how she finally snapped at her husband at their family dinner — and how she fears she “ruined Christmas” for everyone as a result. The OP shared how her husband, who she calls HP in the story, has been making “observations” about her body ever since she had their son months ago. He never says any hurtful words but the impact of his “passive stuff” has been incredibly damaging. So much so that when he made yet another comment about her waist getting wider during family dinner, she just had enough and lost it. Scroll down for the full story and see how the internet reacted to it all.
Husband’s ‘observations reach a boiling point and his wife finally yells “Shut the f**k up about my body!”
The husband’s body observations were one too many for the wife, who finally yelled “Shut the f*** up about my body!”
Caught in the middle of a heated argument, will the couple be able to make amends or are they destined for divorce?
She’s had enough and shouts, “Shut the up about my body!”
After months of her husband’s indirect body observations, one woman had had enough. His comments about her post-pregnancy body finally reached the tipping point and she lost it, yelling ‘shut the f*** up about my body!’ in the middle of dinner. She now feels like an idiot and wonders if she was in the wrong for her reaction. Read on to find out how others reacted.
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Wife stands up to bullying husband after his body observations! NTA
The wife is not the a**hole for refusing to tolerate her husband’s emotionally abusive attitude towards her body. The husband’s behavior is not acceptable, and the comment section encourages the wife to regain her self-confidence with therapy and legal action. Everyone agrees the husband is being an a**hole and unpleasant to the wife’s body.
NTA It’s time to call him out!
The commenter suggests that the husband is emotionally and verbally abusing the wife by body-shaming her, and the other repliers agree. They suggest the wife call him out on it every time, and if it doesn’t stop, she must consider leaving him.
NTA: Things got heated when the husband made hurtful body comments
The comment identified toxic behavior from the husband, who made degrading and humiliating comments about his wife’s body. She stood up for herself, and even though the other guests were silent, it seemed like they agreed with her. Replies showed that similar situations had happened to other people. It is important in these situations to stand up for oneself.
NTA Marriage isn’t about body size
The commenter is not the a**hole for pointing out that marriage should not be based on body size, and the replies reiterate this sentiment, questioning how the husband’s body has changed since starting a family.
“Shut the f*** up about my body”
The original commenter wrote a powerful response to the husband’s body observations and asked him if that was a lesson he wanted to teach their child. Repliers suggested NTA, and to drop him like trash if necessary. They also wondered if he was open to even that kind of language.
Standing up to body shaming ✊
The comment suggests that the original poster (OP) is not the a**hole (NTA) for ruining the family Christmas and that the husband’s comments about the wife’s body were inappropriate. The comment replies further add that OP should stand up for herself and respond the same way to his body comments.
NTA: Husband shaming wife’s body ♀️
The husband’s cruel and uncalled-for body observations and the embarrassment done in front of the family, make him a major a-hole. If he can’t accept the changes in his wife’s body, the couple will have a hard marriage. Replies agree that it was the wrong thing to say in this situation and some offer support for the wife.
OP ✔️ NTA: Abusive behavior isn’t casual observations!
The OP is Not the A**hole in this situation because their partner is exhibiting abusive behavior, which isn’t a simple ‘casual observation’. Comment replies suggest the OP needs to consider what’s best for themselves and their child. The comment and replies also raise the concern that a father with these views could lead their child onto an eating disorder pathway.
Wife stands up to ⚖️ manipulative husband, reply backs her up!
The commenter NTA is not the a**hole and declares that the husband’s behavior is manipulative and his family was likely not scared of her. They suggest that she get support from a counselor and if she wants to stay married then seek out marriage counseling. In the reply, the commenter agrees that the dynamic between the husband and wife is not okay and that the husband should be appalled at the situation.
Leave him, sis ♀️
The comment encourages the wife to leave her husband due to his negative comments about her body. It also notes that the commenter doesn’t think the husband is the a**hole in this situation.
NTA: Husband is horrible
The commenter pointed out that the husband’s body observations are inappropriate and offensive. The replies expressed humor through sarcastic remarks directed at the husband’s body. Everyone agreed that the husband was in the wrong here.
Husband’s comments ⚠️ Wife’s breaking point
The commenter’s not the a**hole, as the husband’s comments weren’t observations but rather insults. The wife’s breaking point was when she yelled at her husband to shut the f**k up about her body. In response to this, the commenter suggested that the wife could gain a lot of confidence by divorcing her husband as an ‘observation’ from the Reddit community.
“Shut the a-hole up!”
The commenter NTA said they would have said “You mean this body? This body that grew and birthed our son? You think there’s something wrong with this body? You can have the next baby” to their partner in response to their body observations.
An abuser’s mind games
This comment identifies the husband’s behavior as what an abuser does. They try to make the victim look crazy. The replies offer advice, with a link to further understanding of the ‘water torturer’ type of abuser.
A last straw situation ♀️
The comment agrees that the husband is the a**hole here, gaslighting the wife by couching horrific insults as ‘observations’. It also acknowledges that the wife could have handled the situation better but implies that it had been going on for months and the husband deserved to be called out for his public insult. The replies also agree that the wife was experiencing emotional abuse and suggests she looks into why she didn’t feel empowered to shut it down earlier.
Husband’s “observations” ❌❗
The commenter is NTA for their reaction to their husband’s body-shaming insults. They assert that their response was a knee-jerk reaction to an issue that’s been building for months.
Husband oversteps a boundary
The comment says the husband is an a**hole for picking on his wife until she snapped. The commenter declares NTA (not the a**hole) for the wife.
Husband’s hurtful body observations
NTA: the commenter suggests either seeing a therapist or a divorce lawyer, as the marriage can’t continue this way. In the replies, it’s suggested to see a therapist as well as getting divorced, as the husband doesn’t respect the wife or the toll having a baby took on her body, and his gaslighting is gross.
Freedom from body shaming
The commenter shared their personal experience about how their ex used to body shame them and how one legal decision helped them find freedom from this oppressive relationship.
❗️ Wife confronts husband for body shaming her: NTA ❗️
The husband was body shaming his wife with his ‘observations’, which were intended as insults. She had enough of it and yelled for him to ‘shut the f*** up about my body’. The commenter declared the husband as Not The A**hole and advised the wife to think long and hard about her relationship, as he attempted to emotionally manipulate her.
Remind him!
The comment suggests a witty response to the husband’s body observations – to remind him that his dick could be bigger when he comments on his wife’s waist size.
Standing up for yourself!
The comment applauds the wife for standing up for herself amidst her husband’s body observations. The commenter is NTA (not the a**hole) and the wife is rightfully justified in raising her voice and saying ‘Shut the f**k up about my body!’
Wife’s ultimatum!
The comment suggested that the wife should call all the women of her husband’s family over, read out loud all the horrible things the husband has said to her, and then let him take the baby since he’s so ungrateful.
️ His wife said “shut the f*** up!”
The husband had been cutting down his wife’s body, which led her to call him out and tell him to stop the verbal abuse and apologize. The commenter noted that she was NTA (not the a**hole) for the outburst.
A spouse scolded with ✋ → a NTA?
The comment, written from the perspective of a reader, states that the husband is being ‘downright insulting and dense’ for making ‘hurtful’ comments about the wife’s body. The comment also suggests the wife should ‘stand up for [herself] every time’ the husband comments, as she did with the initial confrontation.
NTA: Husband’s abusive comments!
The comment says that the husband’s body observations are verbally abusive, and the commenter suggests having a serious discussion about the subject. Emotions can get the better of us, but we should still strive for better communication with partners.
Offensive “observations”: NTA ♀️
The commenter says the husband’s comments are unacceptable and not simply observations, and recommends getting marriage counseling. NTA – Not the A**hole.
NTA No body shaming!
The comment decrees that the husband is NTA (not the a**hole) for making body observations about his wife and ruining the dinner. The comment further states that he is being cruel and ignorant for body shaming his wife and giving excuses for his comments does not suffice.
Not the a**hole
The commenter expresses their disapproval of the husband’s behavior and empathizes with the wife. They agree that it is not okay for him to take out his insecurities on her, especially after she had his child through a painful and difficult process.
NTA – shut the a**hole up!
The commenter is not the a**hole (NTA). They believe the husband crossed the line with his wife by making rude comments about her body.
NTA: *shut the f**k up*
The comment is in agreement with the sentiment that the husband’s observations are not merely observations, but rather hurtful words and calls for him to *shut the f**k up* about his wife’s body.
He ruined Christmas
The commenter believes that the husband is the a**hole since he made rude and snide comments about the wife’s body after she gave birth. The commenter believes that the husband is letting her know he does not approve of how she looks.
NTA: It’s unacceptable
The commenter declares the husband NTA (not the a**hole) for verbally abusing his wife and belittling her. It is unacceptable to treat your partner in this way, and the commenter feels she deserves better.
“Shut The F*** Up About My Body!”
The commenter finds the husband’s behavior to be unacceptable, advocating for the wife to stand up for her rights by giving him a good “ass-kicking”.
Partner alert
The commenter concluded that the husband is being an absolute a**hole and directed jabs at their partner’s weight. They advised their partner to take care of themselves and protect themselves from their partner. The commenter asked if this behavior was new or had the partner always made comments to try to hurt her self-esteem.
“Shut The F*** Up!”
The wife is Not the A**hole (NTA) after her husband flat-out insults her by making direct statements about her body in front of his family. His words have been abusive and the family likely thinks he’s The A**hole (TA).
Wife finally has enough
The commenter declared that husband’s behavior was cruel and verbally abusive, therefore the commenter felt the husband was Not The A**hole (NTA).
Husband’s shocking body remarks!
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The comment states that it is absolutely NTA for the husband to make observations about his wife’s body. It says that the wife carried an entire baby for nine months and her body had worked wonders. The husband should be more than grateful for this considering the toll pregnancy has on the body, and he should be mortified for his behavior.
WTF?!?
The comment questions why the wife yelled and cursed at her husband. It goes on to conclude that the husband is ‘verbally abusive and terrible and rude’ and the wife is not the a**hole in this situation.
Standing up for yourself!
The commenter acknowledges that this person may be emotionally and mentally abusive, and recommends that the wife stop making excuses and stand up for herself. They praise her for taking the step to do so.
NTA: Pointing out the
The commenter is certain that the husband is the NTA (not the a**hole) and that he needs therapy for gaslighting his wife. The commenter has called him out for it.
NTA: Supporting body ✨
The comment writer was overweight and talking about body image and losing weight when their husband said they were beautiful and offered a gym membership. The comment writer was touched, feeling supported in their goals and self-image.
ESH: Both husband & wife have ✋ , but who’s behavior is worse?
The comment observed that both the husband and wife have a bit of responsibility for the situation – the husband for making inappropriate body observations and the wife for not communicating her dissatisfaction and instead reacting like a toddler. Both sides demonstrate abhorrent behavior, it’s unclear who is worse off.
NTA! He’s making snide remarks.
The commenter expresses that the husband’s snide remarks about the wife’s body after having a child are completely uncalled for, and marks them as Not The A**hole in the situation.
NTA: Husband ❗️ insulting wife’s body ❗️
The comment says that the husband is wrong for insulting the wife’s body and advises her not to put up with it.
♀️ Wife was fed up of her hubby’s body comments
The commenter believes the husband to be in the wrong for making insensitive remarks about his wife’s body, and that she was justified in lashing out, even if it happened in front of her family during dinner. Unfortunately, the husband can now use the lashing out as an example of ‘abuse’.
NTA: His words are hurtful!
The original commenter says it is not the a**hole (NTA) for the person experiencing the insults to be hurt. They argue that the partner’s words are direct insults and are lied about as ‘observations’, and should be encouraged to stay away for the sake of the child, to not grow up in an environment with such blatant insults.
Upset wife’s over-the-top response –
The comment details how the husband made inappropriate body observations which made the wife very mad. In a fit of rage, she yells at him to “shut the f*** up about my body”. The comment further notes that while the husband’s behavior was wrong, it doesn’t justify the wife’s excessive and dramatic response. Everyone is an a**hole in this situation.
NTA OP’s body transformation is admirable!
The commenter is not the a-hole and is appreciative of OP’s body transformation. They suggest the husband go f*ck himself for belittling OP’s body.
Verbally abused by shallow AH ♀️
The commenter suggested that the husband who was making snide remarks about his wife’s body was being a shallow a-hole and a bully. She yelled for him to shut the f*** about her body, and the commenter suggested that he was not ready for parenthood. The commenter concluded that the husband was not the a**hole in this situation.
NTA – Husband’s abusive
The comment states that the husband is being a bully and not making legitimate observations, but rather engaging in abusive behavior towards his wife.
No one to blame: NTA
The comment suggests that no one is to blame in the situation, as NTA (not the a**hole) is mentioned.
NTA – Direct & aggressive
The commenter is Not The A**hole and states that the husband’s comments were direct and aggressive.
Chris Hemsworth gets roasted!
The commentator slams the OP’s husband for his non-passive, insulting comments about her body. They suggest that the OP should give him a dose of his own medicine, and call him an insensitive jerk.
NTA! Wife explosively shuts down husband’s body observations
The commenter is applauding the wife for explosively shutting down her husband’s body observations. They point out that this isn’t a computer game and bodies don’t bounce back to their original form after giving birth.
Husband criticized wife’s body!
The comment expressed shock at the sheer audacity of a husband who, after their child was born, made comments about his wife’s body. The comment concludes that the husband is not deserving of having either a wife or a baby, and is deemed to be Not The A**hole, meaning he should not be blamed for the situation.
Wife gets from husband body talk ️
The comment expresses outrage at the husband for being abusive and talking to his wife in a disrespectful way. The comment declares the husband to be an a**hole in this situation.
