Every year, May rolls around and families shower their love and admiration on their moms. With Mother’s Day happening this year while everyone is cooped up at home, it’s nice to show mom just how much we love and appreciate her efforts of keeping everyone sane during this trying time. Many moms knew that it wouldn’t be the same kind of celebration this year.
However, there’s nothing quite like making your mom feel special on a day like Mother’s Day.
Even if it means making her breakfast in bed like you did when you were young. Or, making her a hand-written letter or card. We may not be able to run to the florist and get some roses, but we can still show her she matters.
If you’re a mom of young kids, usually that means your partner is the one who helps with the celebration.
Husbands and wives all over usually help their kids cook or create fabulous creations to show much just how much they care. I mean, we can’t trust a toddler to make eggs on an open flame for mom to enjoy, right?
It seems that some husbands dropped the ball this year.
One mother wrote in to Reddit asking if she was “asking too much of her husband” this year for Mother’s Day. In the popular thread “Am I The A**hole,” the mom asked if she was “wrong” for expecting her husband to help the kids make something for Mother’s Day.
The couple has been married for five years and have two kids who are nine and two years of age.
She wrote :
“Mother’s day is this Sunday where I live I have my own mini business I do Cake and cupcakes to order and personalized, tonight I was making the […] orders I have to deliver tomorrow and my husband suddenly asks me: ‘So, do I have to celebrate mother’s day for you too?, I mean it’s just a day.'”
Clearly…this husband wasn’t thinking straight.
She responded by saying, “Well now that I know you didn’t mean to do anything then just don’t do anything, just never mind.”
The mom added that her husband called her “dramatic” over her response: “Now I feel hurt and he is saying I’m an a**hole for being so dramatic and making a big deal about it.”
She continued by saying it did make her feel really bad, and she wasn’t expecting that much.
“I felt really bad, all the other years he would make breakfast or something, and I wasn’t expecting anything huge anyways, I thought just idk a card from my kids maybe?, I feel like I give so much as a mother I wouldn’t mind a day with a nice gesture.
“Just to make clear I’m not the kind of mom asking for present purses and what not, for me a lunch with my loved ones or something meaningful is fine,” she said in her post .
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Most people on Reddit were supportive of this mom.
Almost all of the comments said that this mom was “not the a**hole,” and that there’s nothing wrong with expecting her husband to help the kids out in celebrating their mom —especially when she’s busy celebrating other moms.
Also, some pointed out that she should get some payback for Father’s Day.
Many Reddit users also said that, due to this, she shouldn’t help the kids plan anything for Father’s Day either. Why should he get a celebration if it’s truly “just another day?” Wild interpretation, my dear friend.
Many Reddit users also said this husband was being selfish.
One user commented, saying:
“He’s just being selfish, he should understand that the most important mother for him to celebrate on Mother’s Day now is you, his wife and mother of his children.”
Some didn’t understand his “it’s just a day” comments.
One person said:
“I don’t get what he is thinking ‘It’s just a day.’ — yeah so do something nice and thoughtful for your loving wife? I mean it would be nice that he does this once in a while even without a special occasion but well you take what you can get.”
Other moms even wrote about their own Mother’s Day let-downs.
One user shared that she and her husband fought the night before Mother’s Day.
“It was my first mother’s day this year, my partner argued with me the night before and stayed at his mums, who we haven’t spoken to since November. He got her a TV, and all I got was a card and attitude… They just don’t understand how important these things are, which truly sucks. I hope he ends up spoiling you.”
Of course, there was one Reddit user who sided with the husband.
The user wrote,
“I doubt each of you saying one sentence is all there is to this story. You’ve likely framed it positive to your side and unless you’d like to share this post with him and give him a chance to tell his side; until then and for that, I will say, you’re the a**hole.”
Many suggested that she speak to her husband and be truthful that she was hurt.
The basis of any good marriage and relationship is communication, so communicating to her husband that she truly was hurt by his lack of effort may help fix the situation. No one wants to bottle things up and then explode later on down the road.
All relationships and marriages require work to survive.
Even if it’s a small issue that disappoints you, opening up to your partner and sharing how you feel is the only way that they will know you are unhappy and upset. Many times we assume our partner knows, but truly, they don’t.
Remember to always keep an open mind and an open line of communication.
Being able to communicate to your partner when things are not working for you is the only way that you will get what you want. Keeping silent and waiting for them to notice isn’t usually going to work. So, open lines of communication are key!
