We tend to care a lot about the opinions our loved ones hold of us. We want them to like us because we like them and want them in our lives, especially when it comes to romantic relationships.
So, what do you do when you ask a romantic partner for their opinion about something, and they give you a less than desirable answer? Learn from one man who did just that.
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Have you ever dug through your closet and found an old piece of clothing you’d forgotten about?
And when you tried it on, you realized maybe this one isn’t worth keeping around? Or maybe you had a different reaction; you fell in love with it all over again and just had to introduce it back into your wardrobe?
One man was presented with a similar situation, but the clothes being judged were on his wife. Now, he’s not so sure he answered correctly.
His description of the event is rather short.
It was posted to Reddit where he asked if he was ‘the asshole’ for his answer. Specifically, telling his wife she didn’t look good in her favorite dress.
He began his post as such, “I (M42) and my wife (F39) were trying on some clothes the other day to go out in. We both gained some weight since the pandemic since we stopped going to the gym but are starting up again.”
He then went on to the actual dilema.
“My wife tried on her old favorite red dress which is a tight fitted dress, and since she gained weight it just doesn’t look as good. I didn’t say anything until she asked how I thought she looks.
“I told her, honestly, that I don’t think it looks as good on her as it used to, and I like her black one more because it’s slimming. She got mad at me and started yelling. I told her I was sorry if her feelings were hurt, but I just answered honestly.”
Finally, his plea for help.
“[Am I the asshole] for telling her the truth? I don’t think I was mean about it, and I know some of my clothes don’t look as good on me either! But I’m not sure based on how she reacted.”
The comments were not in his favor.
In fact, the verdict was rather unanimous.
This man was, indeed, the asshole for what he said to his wife. Though it was less about what exactly he said, and more about how he said it.
As one comment wrote, “You didn’t say that it doesn’t look good, you said it doesn’t look as good as it used to. It’s not nice to hear your appearance has gone down hill. Then you said she should wear a slimming dress, just to send that ‘you’ve got fat’ message home.”
This sentiment was shared among other commenters.
“Pretty sure it’s her favourite because she loves it and your comment implied that she should dress according to how other people perceive her. Terrible message, totally unsupportive, absolutely rude. Why would you do this? She doesn’t exist to be visually appealing to you or anyone else,” read another reply.
A shorter, but correct comment said, “I think she just wanted assurance that you still found her hot dude…”
The lesson to take away here?
Essentially, think before you speak.
In the context of this situation, one user put it well by saying, “You could have answered this question honestly without the digs of ‘it doesn’t look as good as it used to’ or ‘the black one is more slimming.’ Literally, all you had to do was say you like the black one better and then shut your damn mouth. Is that really that hard?”
What do you think? Let us know in the comments!
