My family’s struggle to reconcile with our mother after years of neglect and my brother’s heavy burden
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Collin is engaged to Darcy, but their relationship has a complicated past.
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Darcy was the most popular girl at school but her family was “crazy toxic”. Is it wrong to refuse to attend her brother’s wedding?
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Darcy and the speaker’s disagreement escalates as Darcy accuses the speaker’s family of being “trashy, social climbers” and worse.
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Darcy and her friends prank the speaker with a cruel prom joke, but will forgiveness reign?
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Family drama intensifies when one brother takes matters into his own hands.
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A sister reflects on her brother’s wedding and the past hurt between them
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Darcy has apologized, but is it wrong to refuse to attend her brother’s wedding?
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Navigating family dynamics: Is it wrong to refuse to attend a brother’s wedding?
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Darcy is asking for forgiveness for Collin’s difficult upbringing and sacrifice for her, but is it enough to attend his wedding?
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Should I attend my brother’s wedding or stay away?
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Forgiveness or vengeance? Is it wrong to refuse to attend a brother’s wedding?
The situation is complicated for this family. The oldest brother, Collin, had to step up to raise his siblings due to serious neglect from their parents. Now, Collin is engaged to a woman with a past with his family, and the youngest brother is conflicted about attending the wedding. Collin’s fiancée, Darcy, bullied the youngest brother in the past but has since apologized. Everyone in the family is torn between forgiving her or feeling the need for vengeance. How should they proceed? Let’s explore the reactions and comments to this post .
NTA – Bullying is never okay

Should you attend your brother’s wedding?

Is it worth it?

Bullying: Forgiveness or Vengeance?

Refusing a sibling’s wedding?

Refusing a brother’s wedding: NAH or YTA?

Healing from the past

Should Darcy be forgiven?

NAH: Refusing to go to a brother’s wedding?
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Reasoning behind Collin’s decision

Is it wrong to refuse a brother’s wedding?

Family and hard decisions.

YTA: Holding a grudge hurts you the most

Is it wrong to refuse a brother’s wedding?

No a-hole here

NTA: it’s your choice!

Should you attend your brother’s wedding?

Get help to find to with family

Family drama: YTA or not?

Forgiveness isn’t mandatory

NTA: Darcy’s apology was insincere.

Is an apology enough?

Family tensions abound!

Forgiveness wins

Should be broken?

Is it worth risking it?

Forgiveness but feeling uncomfortable

Should you forgive and attend your brother’s wedding?
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Is it wrong to refuse forgiveness?

Is it wrong to refuse a bully’s wedding?

Forgiving or not forgiving?

It’s up to you

A victim of next level mean girl crap

Is holding a grudge wrong?

Is forgiveness or vengeance the right choice?
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Should you forgive and attend ?

Show grace and courage for family

Is it wrong to refuse a brother’s wedding?

Is it wrong to refuse to attend a sibling’s wedding?

Moving forward after trauma ♀️

Is holding a grudge wrong?

✋Forgiveness or Vengeance?

Forgiveness or ?

Unpopular opinion: YTA?

Bullying doesn’t go away with an apology

Should you forgive or take revenge?

Forgiveness or ?

Is YTA in the conflict between a brother and his fiancée?

Forgiveness or ?

NTA: Darcy’s Text Reveals Lack of Accountability

Refusing a brother’s wedding?
