Having a baby can be an exciting and overwhelming experience, leaving many new moms feeling insecure about their bodies. One new mom recently experienced this insecurity when her husband poked her post-baby belly, resulting in her bursting into tears. Her in-laws were present and her mother-in-law was furious with her husband and scolded him for his comment. Her husband tried to defend himself, but the conflict had already erupted. So, the question remains: who is in the wrong? Let’s read through the comments and reactions on Reddit to find out.
New mom feels insecure about her post-baby body, causing tension in the home
A playful poke leads to a family feud when a post-baby belly becomes a sore spot.
A post-baby belly poke leads to a family feud, leaving the new mom in tears.”
The post-baby belly poke leads to a family feud, with the new mom caught in the middle.
Family feud erupts when a new mom cries after her husband pokes her post-baby belly!
MIL defends NTA DIL
The comment defends the original poster as not the a**hole for feeling upset after her husband poked her post-baby belly. The replies provide support for the original poster, emphasizing that her reaction was not irrational, her husband was wrong and deserved to be scolded, and she should not have any expectations for how long it takes her body to “bounce back” after pregnancy.
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A good MIL stands up for her daughter-in-law
NTA MIL loves her daughter-in-law and is standing up for her when her husband “crosses the line” with a joke. Comment replies include “This isn’t a joke” and “It’s so nice to hear about a good MIL for once.”
NTA: Husband’s poke not OK!
Commenter calls the husband an a**hole for poking the new mom’s post-baby belly and causing her to cry. Replies confirm the sentiment, noting that she was relieved to have someone validate her feelings.
A mom’s reaction to her husband’s insensitive comment
The commenter defends the mom’s reaction to her husband’s comment, noting that it’s an extremely common insecurity for new mothers and that she is allowed to enjoy the respect and kindness she deserves. Other replies agree that the social pressure to “snap back” after having a baby is absurd and unrealistic. They encourage women to be kinder to themselves, as they are navigating immense sleep deprivation and hormone changes.
MIL is supportive!
The commenter expresses their approval of the MIL being supportive towards the new mom; other replies agree that the husband’s only redeeming quality is his mother.
New mom in tears
The commenter called the husband an a**hole for poking the new mom’s post-baby belly only three weeks after she gave birth and questioned the situation.
New mom gets emotional MIL defends her husband reassures her
NTA: The new mom was full of hormones and body consciousness. Her MIL defended her, while her husband reassured her that she is beautiful. One reply mentioned that she had gained weight after each birth, but it won’t go away on its own.
Nobody likes mean jokes!
The comment is in agreement with the article, saying the husband is an idiot and the MIL is great. It also expresses that mean jokes are not acceptable.
Men triggering on toxic masculinity?
An incredulous comment asked where the posters find all these horrible men, citing that the “good” men are not the majority. Replies noted that men are often triggered by the term “toxic masculinity” and that they can be found “literally everywhere.”
New mom gets after husband pokes her post-baby belly
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The commenter NTA believes that the husband should be happy with the new mom’s belly, regardless of its current state, and that she should seek therapy to help her be happy with herself. They also encourage her to be happy with her kid and enjoy her new life as a mother.
What goes around comes around?
The commenter suggested that the man in the article probably doesn’t have a 6-pack himself and shouldn’t be poking his wife’s post-baby belly. They concluded that he’s NTA and praised his MIL.
Husband poked post-baby belly &
The comment discusses how the husband poked the OP’s post-baby belly and made a stupid comparison in an insensitive way. Many replies agree that while the husband’s comment was thoughtless and wrong, it was likely, not malicious. He should apologize and be better at owning up to his mistakes in the future. Everyone concludes that the husband was an AH, but not necessarily malicious.
NTA! MIL gives it for calling out hubby
The commenter is Not The A**hole for feeling hurt when her husband poked her post-baby belly and said it would be back to normal in 3 weeks. The MIL was right in calling out her husband for mocking her and expecting unrealistic results in such a short time.
A family feud erupts
The commenter NTA defends the new mom who is being body shamed by her husband. The MIL steps in to support the mom, defending her right to feel the way she does.
A supportive MIL
The commenter expressed their approval of the MIL’s actions, commenting ‘NTA! I’m glad that your MIL is so nice as you read so many posts with bad ones!!!’
Husband gets for poking new mom’s post-baby belly!
The commenter says the husband is NTA (not the a**hole) for poking her post-baby belly and calling him out for a shitty thing to do.
Partner pokes post-baby belly?
The commenter declared the husband NTA (Not The A**hole), reasoning that the reaction was not irrational as the husband was poking and insulting the mom’s body that had changed due to his impregnation. They felt the husband should be grateful for the sacrifices made to bring his child into the world and not act like a middle school boy, calling him a huge A**hole.
New mom gets support
NTA, the MIL has the new mom’s back and is apparently still parenting her husband. Shameful that he still needs it at his big age.
MIL coming to the rescue!
The commenter said NTA (not the a**hole) and urged MIL to scold the husband if he was acting like a baby about the situation.
NTA: ♀️ Husband scolded for insensitive comment.
The commenter declared that the husband was Not The A**hole (NTA) for making an insensitive comment about the new mom’s post-baby belly, and deserved to be scolded for it.
A squishy post-baby belly
The comment suggests that the husband was making an innocent observation about the post-baby belly and that the wife should have talked to him about her insecurity instead of letting his mom yell at him.
A new mom crying , a husband ‘poking’ her post-baby belly and a family feud ♂️
The commenter was shocked to learn that the new mom had been crying three weeks postpartum and felt that the husband’s comment about calling her stomach “dough” was inappropriate. The commenter then declared that the husband was NTA and that his mom should give him another verbal beatdown for his bullsh*t.
NTA: snap back culture is toxic
The user commented ‘NTA’ (not the a**hole) in response to the article, condemning the ‘snap back culture’ as ‘f–king toxic’ and encouraging the new mom to give her body time to heal after growing an entire human being. The user also praised the mother-in-law for nipping her husband’s comments in the bud.
NTA: His MIL tried to help but the husband still had other plans!
The comment says that the husband’s mother-in-law was trying to save him from himself, but he was still trying to sabotage his marriage. The comment also implies that because the new mom has grown a whole human, the husband doesn’t deserve her.
NTA but is he stupid??
The commenter declared the husband Not The A**hole (NTA) but questioned if he would’ve said something if he had known it would hurt the new mom. The reply confirmed his suspicion.
A friendly suggestion
The commenter said NTA (not the a**hole) and suggested that the person post the story in the Just Yes MIL subreddit.
Family Feud
The comment questioned why the new mom was laying down on top of her husband in front of her in-laws. The reply revealed that she was trying to have a nap.
Minds make weird comparisons!
The comment expresses how one would probably never be married as their mind makes insensitive comparisons without them realizing it. The example given is of a soft, dough-like post-baby belly and not “oh look you’re fat”.
MIL puts insensitive husband in check!
The commenter called the husband an a-hole for poking fun at the post-baby changes experienced by the new mom. They praised the mother-in-law for putting the husband in check and showed appreciation for her action with an emoji.
New mom gets after husband’s poke!
The commenter declared that the new mom was NTA (not the a**hole) for getting angry at her husband for poking her post-baby belly, but also called her action childish.
A mom’s body transformation journey ♀️
The comment is from a mom of three adult children, talking about her body not having “snapped back” yet after pregnancy.
NTA: In-laws have OP’s back!
The commenter declared that the original poster (OP) was “not the a**hole” (NTA) in the situation and that they found it heartening to read a post where the OP’s in-laws were supportive.
NTA.
The commenter is not the a**hole for the situation, as they recall a similar incident from when they were a child. The commenter believes the husband was rebuked appropriately for making a childish comment and hopes this will be a lesson for him to think before he speaks.
Husband called out for critiquing wife’s post-baby body!
Not the a**hole (NTA), but the husband was called out for having no right to be critiquing his wife’s body, let alone right after she gave birth. Everyone agreed his behavior was incredibly arse-like and the wife deserved to be happy about it. ♀️
MIL defends new mom against husband’s insensitive comment
The commenter sympathizes with the new mom and encourages her not to worry about feeling soft, as it takes time to recover post-baby. The commenter also shares their own experience of 2 months post-partum, noting that the line in the middle of their stomach is slowly disappearing, but there is still a roll and stretch marks.
New mom feeling ❤️ and after giving birth!
The commenter declared that the new mom was Not The A**hole (NTA) in the situation, since it had only been 3 weeks since she gave birth and bodies don’t “snap back” that quickly, and the husband was being a jerk.
MIL has OP’s back
The commenter says NTA (not the a**hole) and expresses appreciation for their mother-in-law having their back.
Don’t expect miracles postpartum!
NTA, but the commenter stressed that it’s unreasonable to expect a woman’s body to ‘snap back’ after giving birth. The health and happiness of the woman is more important than her pant size.
Family feud escalates
The comment suggests that the husband’s comment was taken out of context and blown out of proportion. The poster notes that this sub is known to have a black-and-white outlook on certain issues.
A mother-in-law shows ❤️
The commenter applauds the mother-in-law’s actions and suggests that Reddit show her love and appreciation for being a “rare bird”. NTA (not the a**hole).
Husband’s post-baby belly poke causes feud.
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A comment expressed sympathy for a new mom’s difficult situation, saying NTA (not the a**hole) for not wanting to change in front of her husband after 3 weeks post-birth.
Husband insults new mom’s post-baby belly!
The comment accuses the husband of being a jerk for poking the new mom’s post-baby belly and making her cry. The replies believe that he said something stupid and insensitive but argue that he is not a mean jerk and that it was just a sensitive moment for the new mom.
New Mom Gets Supportive Message
The commenter is NTA (not the a**hole) and sends the new mom a supportive message, reassuring her that her body changes are worth it and she needs to look at her baby and think ‘totally worth it!’
♀️ NTA for new mom!
The commenter declared the new mom ‘NTA’ (Not The A-hole) for the family feud but also declared that her husband was a major a**hole for poking her post-baby belly, shame on him.
A husband poking his wife’s post-baby belly?
The comment suggested that the husband was not the a**hole for poking his wife’s post-baby belly, asking if he used the “it was just a joke” excuse.
NTA Good mom-in-law!
The comment is in support of the mother-in-law, saying that she’s taking her job seriously and that we women play a role in how our son’s behave. No a**hole here.
WTF? Men are the absolute worst!
The commenter expressed disbelief and anger at husbands being ‘shitty’ to their wives right after they give birth, and declared that ‘men are the absolute worst’, all from the viewpoint of a man.
No sympathy for daddy
The commenter was appalled at a husband’s insensitivity and bluntly declared that he was Not The A**hole for poking his wife’s post-baby belly. She asserted that men don’t go through the same changes women do and that he should be ashamed of himself.
Go MIL!
The comment said ‘NTA. go mil!’ which stands for ‘Not the a**hole. go mil!’, showing support for the new mom.
Instant karma!
The commenter was in agreement with the post, noting that it was an example of instant karma.
Aww MIL gets !
The comment says ‘NtA what an awesome MIL’, implying that the mother-in-law is not the a**hole and deserves a perfect score.
Husband offers for new mom’s post-baby belly!
The commenter is NTA (not the a**hole), as they suggest that the new mom give her uterus time to shrink back to pre-preg size, as it took 9 months for it to get big.
Trouble in paradise?
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The commenter expressed shock at the husband’s insensitive behavior, calling him a d ick and saying it was a red flag.
New Mom’s Husband Pokes Belly
NTA, the commenter suggests that the husband’s action may not have been meant maliciously and that it’s an issue of maturity.
Mom gets emotional NTA!
The original comment expresses disgust with the husband’s ‘unrealistic and cruel expectations’ for the mother’s post-baby body. It emphasizes that her body is beautiful and that her husband is ‘not’.
New mom’s husband acting like an AH
The commenter suggests that the husband is acting like an immature a**hole, and that the new mom is in the right and should be apologized to.
A MIL’s attempt to
The commenter is NTA (not the a**hole) and shared that the MIL realized her son was an a**hole and attempted to fix it.
A MIL defends her DIL
The commenter expresses admiration for a mother-in-law who actually defends her daughter-in-law and goes after her idiot son, and mentions that the commenter is jealous of the luck of the post author. The commenter labels the MIL as ‘Not the A**hole’.
New mom gets and from family
The comment author showed support for the new mom, without any judgment, by saying that she was ‘NTA’ (not the a**hole).
No ♀️ here
The comment says that the husband was not insulting the new mom, rather he thought her post-baby belly was cute and she misinterpreted it as an insult.
MIL stands up for new mom
NTA: MIL told her son off and stood up for the new mom after her husband poked her post-baby belly. Hubby was TA and had no right to be angry about being called out for it.
MIL stands up for new mom
The commenter approves of the MIL’s action, saying that the husband has no right to make fun of the new mom’s body after it went through such a serious event. The commenter also wishes that men could get pregnant and have kids, so they can understand what it’s like to go through pregnancy. The commenter is NTA, as their own husband made them feel loved by stroking their stomach after giving birth.
New mom’s husband gets for insensitive comment!
The commenter deemed the husband ‘NTA’ (not the a**hole) for making an insensitive comment about the new mom’s post-baby body and urged her to stand up for herself.
NTA: Husband takes it!
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The commenter declared that the husband was ‘NTA’ (not the a**hole) and deserved to be ‘taken’ for poking the new mom’s post-baby belly.
New MIL stands up to husband’s insensitive act!
The commenter calls the husband’s action ‘dick move’ and praises the MIL for standing up to him. Commenter reminds that the new mom had carried a human in her body until three weeks ago.
NTA, but loving insecurities helps
The commenter is not the a**hole (NTA) but believes that showing love and affection towards each other’s insecurities can help create a healthier relationship. They suggest that the husband may have been trying to make the new mom more comfortable but didn’t know she would react like that. They also think it was wrong of the husband to be upset after his mother scolded him.
