Having a child is a very personal thing, and it’s important to remember that it’s your life, your choices, and nobody else’s. You are the ultimate decision maker and you have the right to have a say in every part of your life, especially when it comes to the future of your babies.
So when Reddit user throwaway-twinmama decided to share how her boyfriend’s new girlfriend started trying to control her pregnancy, it was very off-putting. The woman even went as far as throwing a gender reveal party without her present and telling her guests which gender her babies are.
This was the breaking point for throwaway-twinmama, who had enough of the controlling behavior and called her out. After the woman shared the story on r/AITA, people were divided about whether she was in the right or wrong. Some were supportive, while others were concerned about her safety.
Continue scrolling to read the whole story and decide for yourself.
After breaking up with Joe, I found out I was pregnant which added a whole new dynamic to him getting back together with his ex.

The author’s ex-boyfriend found out his girlfriend couldn’t get pregnant, so he asked the author to be the surrogate.

Kim wanted to be involved in the pregnancy despite not being the biological mother.

The writer shut down her future stepmom’s intrusive suggestions about how to raise her children

Kim’s overbearing behavior leaves the author feeling like a surrogate and not a parent-to-be

I refused to let Joe’s future stepmom come to my gender reveal scan, sparking tension with my partner.

A pregnancy announcement followed by a gender reveal party left the poster feeling like a surrogate.

I called out my kids’ future stepmom for treating me like a surrogate, but was I a jerk?

A mom-to-be is wondering if she’s a jerk for calling out her kids’ future stepmom for treating her like a surrogate – is she an a**hole?

Getting a lawyer to protect oneself from a potential stepmom’s mistreatment

The OP is concerned about their stepmom’s treatment after a surprise pregnancy

Struggling with a tricky family situation? This mom took action and got an order of protection against her ex.

A heated confrontation between the OP and their future stepmom leads to a legal battle and an arrest for child endangerment.

Mom takes legal action to protect herself from her kid’s future stepmom’s mistreatment.

Navigating the complexities of an unexpected pregnancy with a former partner and their current partner can be challenging.
When 29-year-old OP found out she was pregnant with her former partner’s children, the situation only got more complicated. She soon learned that her former partner’s current partner had fertility issues and wanted to be involved in the pregnancy. OP refused to let her be involved in the decisions regarding the pregnancy, citing that she would make the best choices for her children and herself.
After putting a pregnancy announcement on social media, her former partner’s current partner threw a gender reveal party without even inviting OP. OP confronted her, and this ultimately led to a back-and-forth of accusations, calling out inappropriate boundaries, and even the involvement of the police.
How can OP navigate the complexities of this unexpected pregnancy?
Red flags

Protect yourself ♀️

Protect yourself!

NTA: ❌ Careful with Joe’s GF!

Mama’s not the a-hole

Mama bear alert! NTA

Fleeing from a future stepmom?

NTA Protect yourself and your little ones

NTA: Time to ♀️

NTA. ♀️ You’re not alone!

Don’t let ❤️ control ♀️

NTA – ♀️ this woman is

Protecting yourself!

File a restraining order!

Protect your kids

Is this a Walmart package?

Run! ♀️ ♂️ Get away now!

Mama bear protecting ♀️

NTA: Block them all!

“Documenting the situation!”

A pregnant woman’s fight

NTA: Put her in her place!

Run, lawyer up!

Be careful in dealing with her

Don’t get stuck in a ♀️

NTA: Get a lawyer!

Joe’s playing a long game

NTA: Screenshot and ♂️ talk to a lawyer!

NTA: Mom stands up for her kids’ safety

NTA: Protect your kids

Protecting yourself from a wackball family

NTA – document interactions

⚖️ NTA: Lawyer up!

Leaving a toxic relationship

You’re not the a**hole!

NTA: Protect the babies

NTA: Disappear and

No a-hole here!

Seek legal protection

Move now! ♀️

NTA: Protect yourself

Protecting oneself from an stepmom ♀️

Help is available

NTA! Protect yourself!

OP reflects on a difficult situation

Protect yourself

NTA: Not a surrogate!

NTA:

NTA: ❤️

What are the practical options for a family going through chaos?

An opinionated comment

A plea for safety

⚠️ Cautionary tale ahead ⚠️

Checking in on a family drama!

Definitely NTA! Kim needs to be kept away Twins birth without meds? Leave and don’t look back!

NTA: Move away!

Mama, get a

NTA: Get a lawyer and restraining order
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Protect your kids!

NTA — family drama?

NTA: ♀️Run away fast!

You’re not the a-hole

NTA: Standing up for your rights

NTA: Get a lawyer

No updates yet

Is the world really made up of twins?

Protect your babies!
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NTA: Protect yourself

Need an update

Concerned about a stepmom?

NTA: Get a lawyer & block Kim!

Document everything
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NTA: Move away from the toxicity

Empathy for the OP

♀️What would you do?

NTA but stay safe

♀️ NTA but Joe’s an idiot!

❤️ NTA! Document everything!

No a-hole here!

Twin mama needs help!

Supporting a single parent

Girl, cut and run !

Sending love and

NTA – evidence needed!

NTA⁉️ Mental breakdown worries and safety in danger⁉️

Don’t discount your rights as a mom!

Is Custody Battle On The Horizon?

No a-hole here ♂️

Set boundaries

No here , safety first

Be safe!
