A miscarriage is one of the most tragic events that can happen to a family, and sadly, it is all too common an experience for many women. The Mayo Clinic estimates that 1% of women who suffer one miscarriage will go on to suffer repeated miscarriages, and after three or more, the odds of a pregnancy ending in this tragic way rises from 20% to 43%.
In November of last year, James shared that his wife had suffered a miscarriage at 17 weeks pregnant.
“My wife Kimberly and I went through every expecting parent’s worst nightmare. We lost the baby. The little soul that we had expected to welcome into our family took a shortcut to whatever lies beyond,” he revealed at the time .
In a new Instagram post, James has revealed that his wife had suffered a second miscarriage, her fifth in nine years.
“After suffering a brutal, very public miscarriage last November, we were overjoyed to learn we were pregnant. This time, we kept the news to ourselves. But last weekend, once again, 17 weeks in… the soul we’d been excited to welcome into the world had lessons for our family that did not include joining us in a living physical body,” he wrote.
“We rushed @vanderkimberly to the hospital by ambulance for another harrowing night of blood transfusions.”
“And as I stood by, grateful for the good people who navigated the maze of regulations to save her life – but helpless to do much for the woman I loved other than massage her feet and try to keep her warm (with my #DWTS robe, ironically) – something kept running through my head, again and again, which I now feel compelled to share,” he continued.
“We’ve got to take better care of each other.”
“The world is in pain right now. There’s denial, shock, numbness, anger – all the old patterns we cling to when deep trauma is unearthed. And there are no words to ease that pain… to make the process hurt less or to solve it quickly,” he wrote.
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“But the way out of it? Starts with an open, broken-hearted contemplation of this question.”
“How can we take better care of each other? And to all the families who have gone through this… you are not alone,” he finished.
Our thoughts are with the Van Der Beek family at this tragic time.
