One thing that many people struggle with in life is how other people feel about them. While some people live life not really bothered by other people’s perception of them, there are individuals who truly struggle with how others view them.
Many therapists and health professionals will say that worrying about others’ opinions is a waste of time and energy, so women have begun sharing their wisdom about how they stopped caring altogether .
It’s a reflection of them, not you.
CatrionaShadowleaf shared that after a while, she completely stopped caring and giving a damn about how others felt about her. She learned after a while that their opinions reflect more about themselves and their downfalls than they could ever about your own.
Fake it ’til you make it.
stuckindesmoines shared that if you pretend to stop caring, eventually you will trick your mind into actually stopping. Sometimes, mind games can be a good thing for your own mental health and energy. Just pretend until it becomes your reality.
Age changes you.
DrgnPhoenix13 shared that she reached a point in her life where she realized she was “too old” for all of the drama and BS that came with other people’s thoughts and feelings about her. Eventually, you give up trying to change people.
Not everyone matters.
dal-Helyg stated that there are only a few people who are “allowed” to have an opinion on her, because those are the people that know her the best. The other people are making assumptions, or are just making noise.
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You can’t please everyone.
“One day I just… snapped. I figured out that there’s never going to be a way to make everyone happy. Someone is always going to think you’re too fat, you’re too skinny, your hair is so pretty long, or you should cut it,” said CatieTheVoiceActor .
Remember who you are.
Team_CoffeeWithCream stated that everything changed when she gained self-confidence and self-esteem. When you start to feel good about yourself, everyone else’s opinions become background noise and you only worry about your own feelings. You have to remember you are amazing.
Your brain can only handle so much.
dearestramona said that she cared for a really, really long time. Eventually, her brain just kind of gave up. It decided that to protect itself, it decided that it just wasn’t going to care anymore.
Rely on yourself.
Brittakitt said that once you realize you are the one and the only person who controls your happiness, something inside of you shifts. You are the one who can make yourself upset or angry—it’s a choice. Even if others say things about you, being happy is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Have an awakening.
“Other people’s opinions of you do nothing for you. They don’t know you, they don’t pay your bills, they’re not in your shoes. Only you know yourself, so only your opinion matters. And if it’s always a negative one, you’ll never be happy,” said EevieeOso .
Have a backbone.
MoonKitten7 said that she spent a long time not standing up for herself and not reacting to people who were negative and mean towards her. Once she started to stand up for herself, people responded positively and reacted better.
Take advice from others.
PrestigiousAd3081 said that her grandmother once told her that “other people’s opinions of her are absolutely none of her business.” She took that advice and realized what other people thought about her really wasn’t something she should focus on.
Focus on your health.
fairycirclenap shared she has a lot of anxiety and it manifests physically. When she cares a lot about something and lets it get to her, her anxiety is worse. When she decides to let go of it all, it makes her anxiety feel a lot better.
Be in control.
MadameMonk said that she did some research on intrusive thoughts and realized that she had trained her brain to actually crave the thoughts and opinions of others. Once you realize you have control over what you care and think about, things shift for you.
Run it out.
innerjoy2 shared that shaking it off is one thing, but she also uses exercise as an escape for her thoughts and feelings. Seratonin is known to be a natural aid in mood-boosting and overall mental health, so why no hit the gym?
Focus on who loves you.
MamaMidgePidge said that the few people who think poorly of you may be hurting you and weighing you down, but you can instead focus on those who really do love and appreciate you instead. It’s a better use of your time and your energy.
