Having kids isn’t for everyone. If you want to have kids or plan on having them, that’s great! If you plan to never have kids so long as you can help it, that’s great too! Being childless is just as okay as being a parent.
A man on Reddit recently told his adult kids that he doesn’t necessarily care if they ever have kids. Father to a third child whom he had when he was young and who lives in a different country, OP has grandkids of his own already. But now he’s wondering if his response to his other kids wanting to be childless was the right one. So, he took to the AITA sub for answers .
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OP Has Two Kids With His Current Wife, And An Older One From When He Was Young.
OP currently lives in the US, but his oldest son lives in OP’s home country. OP and his wife, the mother of his other two kids, visit the son and his children constantly. The son is quite well off in his country.
OP’s two younger kids are both over 20 now, and each identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community. They also have no interest in having kids of their own and have told their father the same. OP told his kids that he does not mind if they don’t have kids, and will love them no matter what.
Apparently, this was the wrong response. Both kids were angered by their father’s seeming indifference, believing that he only doesn’t care because his eldest, their brother, already has kids. The younger siblings don’t have a strong relationship with the eldest and have stopped visiting him with their parents years ago.
The Comment Section Sided With OP.
OP made it clear that he’d support his kids’ decisions to not have kids of their own. To many commenters, it seems like the kids were just picking a fight.
They May Not Have Been Prepared For Their Father’s Support.
Many more commenters believed that OP’s younger kids wanted their dad to be outraged or upset. They could view his acceptance as him not paying them as much mind as he does his eldest.
It’s Clear That There May Be More Underlying Issues.
There definitely seems to be some resentment from the kids toward their eldest brother. While their relationship seems strained, commenters still believe that it’s not necessarily OP’s fault.
