Buckle up, folks, because we’ve got a juicy family drama on our hands! Meet our protagonist, a 30-something mom juggling work, kids, and a new blended family. But just when she thought she had it all figured out, her hubby drops a bombshell: he’s got a secret teenage daughter! And here’s the kicker – she’s hearing impaired and uses ASL. Now, the pressure’s on for the whole fam to learn sign language. But is it really worth the effort? Let’s dive in and find out!
Family Drama Alert!

Surprise! Hubby’s Got a Secret Daughter!

️♀️ Paternity Test Proves It’s True!

Daddy-Daughter Bonding Time Begins!

Sometimes Markita Stays Over! ️

Here’s Where Things Get Tricky…

Markita Uses ASL Almost Exclusively!

Hubby’s Bright Idea: Family ASL Lessons!

♀️ Is It Really Worth It? ♀️

Learning Languages Ain’t Easy!

♀️ Kids Follow Mom’s Lead, Say No to ASL! ♂️

Even Basic Signs Are a Struggle!

♀️ Mom’s ASL Dilemma: To Learn or Not to Learn? ♀️
Our protagonist finds herself in a tricky situation when her husband suggests the whole family learn ASL to communicate with his surprise teenage daughter, Markita. With Markita only visiting once a month and a busy schedule of work and kids, is it really worth the effort? Hubby thinks she’s being ridiculous, but learning a new language ain’t easy, especially as an adult! Even basic signs seem like a struggle. So, what does the internet think – is this mom an a-hole for not wanting to tackle ASL? ️ Let’s see what the masses have to say about this family language debacle!
Brutal judgement on stepmom’s behavior with witty comparison.

Stepmom criticized for not accommodating stepdaughter’s disability. YTA

Learn ASL, it’s useful and doesn’t take long

Don’t shut down learning opportunities, even small ones!

Stepmom receives harsh criticism for not learning ASL for stepdaughter

Parent’s fear of step-parents validated by communication barrier. YTA

Learn some basic signs as a minimal courtesy

Stepmom faces criticism for neglecting partner’s deaf daughter’s needs.

Learn ASL, light up a kid’s world. YTA.

Stepmom neglects stepdaughter’s needs, YTA

Stepmom faces backlash for not learning ASL to communicate with stepdaughter

Busy stepmom advised to find time for ASL classes.
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Encourage kids to learn ASL, bond over classes. NTA.

Stepmom criticized for not learning ASL for stepdaughter. YTA.

Balancing work, kids, and household chores is tough. NTA.

Learn the basics of ASL to welcome step-daughter

Stepparent not obligated to learn ASL for 15-year-old stepchild. NTA

Being a new stepmom is hard. Learning ASL is overwhelming.
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YTA accused of being lazy for not learning ASL

Encourage kids to learn ASL, try to learn some yourself

Refusing to learn basic ASL is ridiculous. YTA

Encouraging comment advising stepmom to learn ASL and communicate via text until things settle.

Learning full ASL fluency unrealistic with work & kids. NTA/NAH.

ESH commenter urges stepmom to learn ASL for family harmony.

Learning ASL is challenging, recognize it requires free time. NTA
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Make the effort to learn basic ASL signs

Learning ASL would have made OP a hero but not a villain. NTA.

Learning ASL shows empathy and kindness towards stepchild

Don’t cut her off. Learn a few signs to encourage communication.

Teach ASL or not? NTA for not wanting to, but try

Balancing work and family is tough, NTA. Don’t stress it

Not accepting your stepmom? YTA according to commenters
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Communication is key YTA can’t communicate with family

Strong condemnation of stepmom’s behavior.

Stepmom hesitant to learn ASL, may affect relationship with husband.
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Multilingual stepmom claps back at monolingual bullies

Encouraging ASL basics is good, but NTA for not learning.

Stepmom’s decision affects Markita’s relationship with husband and children. YTA.

Learning ASL fluently seems like a big ask #NTA ♀️

Learning ASL is hard, but worth it to include family

Stepmom not AH for not learning ASL, but should compromise

Refusing to learn ASL? YTA, it’s called respect
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Learning a new language takes a lot of time , NTA for prioritizing family

Balancing work, kids, and a household is tough. NTA.
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No obligation to learn ASL for once-a-month person. ♂️
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Harsh criticism for stepmom’s lack of effort and empathy

Learning ASL can be a life-saving skill

Learning basic ASL makes sense for future communication

Learning ASL with a 50-hour workweek? Nah, that’s BS

Stepmom gets called out for not learning ASL

Learning the basics of ASL is the least you could do

Learning a few signs can go a long way

Being a role model for your kids is crucial

NTA for not learning ASL for stepdaughter, but effort appreciated

Stepmom won’t learn ASL for stepchild. NAH, but sad

Learn a few signs to converse with her!

Struggling to learn ASL. NAH, but be a role model.

Not the a-hole for not learning ASL, other communication options suggested.
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YTA for not learning ASL to communicate with stepchildren

Stepmom criticized for not learning ASL for step-daughter. YTA.

Redditor defends OP, suggests learning basic ASL phrases

Setting boundaries and prioritizing family responsibilities.

Learning a language takes time and effort

Strong YTA verdict with an emotional response
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Learning ASL can be easy and useful, YTA.

Stepmom faces criticism for not learning ASL

Stepmom unwilling to learn ASL for stepdaughter’s monthly visits

Stepmom refuses to learn ASL to communicate with stepchild. YTA.

Not the a**hole for not learning ASL.

Respectful reply suggests discussion & allowing individual choice.
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Harsh reply to stepmom’s refusal to learn ASL

Learning a language takes time, NTA for not knowing ASL

Learning ASL is important for stepmom to connect with child

Stepmom criticized for not learning ASL to communicate with stepdaughter

ASL not necessary for 12-day visit, writing works

Start small and show some willingness to learn ASL

Stepmom refuses to learn ASL to communicate with stepdaughter. YTA

A scathing YTA comment calling out selfishness

Learn some signs! YTA for not connecting with your stepchild

Learning ASL is tough for OP, bio mom, and husband. ESH.

Learning ASL basics can bring people closer. Be considerate

Innovative solutions suggested for stepmom’s reluctance to learn ASL

Stop whining and start trying!

Learn basic ASL signs for better communication and empathy.

Learning ASL can be helpful for communication

ASL education should be standard in schools. YTA for refusing.
