Picture this: you’re out on a date with a guy you met on Bumble, and everything seems to be going well. The conversation is flowing, and you’re getting to know each other. But then, you ask a simple question about his job, and suddenly, things take a turn for the worse. Our protagonist found herself in this exact situation, and now she’s wondering if she was in the wrong for walking out on the date. Grab your popcorn, folks, because this story has conflict, drama, and a whole lot of emotional impact!
Date Night Chronicles

The Bumble Connection

Straight to the Point

First Impressions

When Things Get Weird

A Simple Question ❓

The Aggressive Stare

Confused and Baffled

Exit Strategy ♀️

Flatmate’s Perspective

The Red Army of Flags

A Date Gone Wrong: Was She Right to Walk Out? ♀️
Our protagonist (32f) met a guy (38m) on Bumble and agreed to meet for drinks after work. The date started off well, with the two chatting about their recent holidays and the bar they were in. But when she asked him about his job, his demeanor changed completely. He stared at her aggressively and accused her of being interested only in his money. Shocked by his reaction, she downed her drink and walked out. ♀️ Back home, she discussed the situation with her male flatmate, who suggested that maybe the guy had a sensitive history with gold diggers and she should have tried to clarify her intentions. However, she believes that his response was a huge red flag and walking out was the right decision. So, who’s in the right here? Let’s dive into the internet’s top responses to this dramatic date night tale!
Discussing careers is important, bailing was a good choice

When asking about his business turned into a gold digger accusation

Dodged a bullet! NTA for bailing on red flag question

NTA! Trust your gut and run from that small dick energy

Dodging a bullet by asking a basic icebreaker ❄️

Dodged a bullet . NTA for clarifying intentions.

Jumping to ‘gold digger’ is a huge red flag

First date red flag: Strange reaction to natural conversation topic ♀️

Walking out at the first sign of aggression = role model

Baggage alert! This commenter thinks the guy isn’t ready to date again.

NTA! Asking about finances is normal, not gold digging

Verbal blasting: red flag or understandable sensitivity?
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Engaging question about breakfast cereal? NTA for asking.

Manosphere podcaster gets called out for fake offense. Bullet dodged.

Is asking about someone’s profession a red flag?

Asking about job on a date is a red flag , according to guy comment

Asking about someone’s job on a first date is valid , his aggression is a red flag . NTA.

NTA. Date went weird quickly. Flatmate doesn’t understand creepy men.

Good riddance to emotional immaturity

Trust your intuition and walk away from red flags!

Dating someone with a different lifestyle requires consideration.

Insecure losers and a bad date walkout

Insecurities, sketchiness, or past hurt? NTA for sure

Don’t raise a grown man. ♀️

Asking about someone’s job is common small talk, NTA

Perfectly handled, NTA Bonus points for the drink

Don’t mess with this one, she’s got movie-worthy comebacks

Dodged a bullet! NTA for leaving the date

Asking about dating history shouldn’t lead to a blow-up

Prioritize safety and walk away from hostility. NTA

Dodged a bullet with an unstable date

Run for the hills, girl!

Defensive date calls woman gold digger, NTA for leaving early
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NTA shuts down date’s trauma excuse with hilarious burn

Gold digger accusation = NTA.

Empathizing backfired. NTA for leaving mid-date

Asking about someone’s job on a date: red flag or not?

Don’t judge a book by its cover, NTA made the right call.

NTA for leaving when his baggage was projected onto you

Dodged a bullet – quick temper is a red flag

Walk out on red flags, kindness in honesty. NTA.

Asking about job a red flag? Comment sparks debate.

Setting boundaries is important, but was he justified to be rude?

Discussing marriage is a common conversation starter, but watch out!

Making small talk, but got an out-of-line reaction ♀️

Asking about job on a date is fair game, NTA wins

Dodged a bullet . Hostile first date signals anger issues.

Asking about job on first date, NTA!

Small talk 101: NTA’s date can’t handle it

Asking about work ≠ asking about salary. NTA, red flag.

Dodged a bullet by avoiding toxic masculinity

Asking about someone’s job on a first date: NTA or red flag?

Talking about work on a date? A red flag?
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Standing up for yourself: NTA for asking a reasonable question

Dodged a bullet , asking about work is normal
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Dodged a nuke! NTA, his response is a red flag.

First impressions matter. NTA asked follow-up, got aggressive response.

Standing up against mistreatment, NTA comment shuts down rude behavior.

NTA for holding him accountable for bringing up work topic.

Controlling emotions is key, NTA for leaving

Dodging a bullet with a confusing date, phew!

Red flag alert! Aggressive behavior towards simple conversation.

Empathetic comment calls out bad behavior, supports the victim.

Dodged a bullet! NTA asked a reasonable question.

Dodged a bullet , glad you saw his true colors

Being prepared for basic questions is a reasonable expectation. NTA

Dodged a bullet! You’re NTA, he’s got issues. ♀️

Assertive response to inappropriate behavior, with understanding for bad days.

Jumping to conclusions and no emotional control ♀️

Always trust your gut!

Walking away was the right move!

Run away from the basement-dwelling dude
