Picture this: you divorced your cheating ex-wife five years ago and haven’t spoken to her since. She marries the guy she cheated on you with, and then he tragically dies in a car accident. You find out, but feel nothing. Then you bump into her in public, and she tries to talk to you. What do you do? Our friend here decided to shut her down and walk away. Now, he’s wondering if he’s in the wrong for not offering condolences. Grab your popcorn, folks, because this story has it all: small-town drama, infidelity, and a moral dilemma!
The Divorce
Small Town Gossip ️
Moving On
The News ️
Feeling Nothing
The Encounter ♂️
Shutting It Down ♂️
The Friend’s Call ☎️
Wife’s Opinion
Funeral Drama ⚰️
Guilt Creeping In
No Condolences for the Cheating Ex?
Our protagonist divorced his cheating ex-wife five years ago and hasn’t spoken to her since. She married her affair partner, but he recently died in a car accident. Our guy found out but felt nothing. Then, he bumped into her at a local farmers market, and she tried to talk to him. He shut her down and walked away. Now, her friend is calling him out for not offering condolences, and he’s starting to feel guilty. Was he too harsh, or is he justified in his actions? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this situation… ️♀️
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No sympathy for ex-wife’s loss
Divorced couple’s tragic loss sparks debate on compassion and decency
Ex-husband’s coping mechanism is to treat ex-wife as a stranger
A reminder to seek therapy and let go of past hurt.
User criticizes man for refusing condolences to cheating ex-wife.
Refusing to talk doesn’t make you TA
No contact, no condolences. NTA. Plain and simple.
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Infidelity aside, lacking compassion for ex-wife’s loss is wrong
Ex-wife lost her husband, approached ex-husband, NAH in situation
OP could have offered condolences despite ex-wife’s infidelity
Don’t let mistakes define you. Compassion is important ❤️
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Amidst a difficult situation, being kind will never hurt.
Ex-husband’s lack of condolences to grieving ex-wife
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Lack of compassion criticized. Don’t be a heartless
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No obligation to offer condolences to abusive ex-spouse
Perspective and forgiveness after tragedy. Missed opportunity for closure.
Ex-husband faces harsh judgement for not speaking to ex-wife.
No condolences, no fake sympathy. NTA for keeping distance.
Refusing condolences after a loss makes you the a-hole
Former spouse shows no sympathy after tragic loss
User calls out lack of compassion in grieving situation.
No obligation to offer condolences if insincere. NTA
When a tragic loss can’t mend old wounds
Offer condolences to ex-wife, even if she sucks. YTA if not
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No obligation to offer condolences after divorce
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Showing compassion can go a long way
Dismissive ex-husband receives rightful YTA judgement for lack of empathy
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Ex-wife’s tragic loss, but NTA for not offering condolences.
Man’s refusal to offer condolences to ex-wife after tragedy.
YTA comment: Lack of sympathy and advice on therapy.
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Ex-husband criticized for shutting down ex-wife without hearing her out ♂️
Compassion is important, but boundaries should also be respected.
No sympathy for ex’s loss, NTA.
Ex-wife cheated, remarried, seeks validation from NTA ex-husband
Man’s lack of empathy towards ex-wife’s loss labeled YTA
NTA comment defends OP’s decision not to offer condolences.
History is history. NAH. No need for condolences.
Respectful boundaries after divorce. NTA
Choose your own path, don’t let anyone force you
No obligation to offer condolences, NTA. Keep distance and silent.
Being honest about not offering condolences – NTA
Refusing condolences? YTA. Have a soul, say sorry
Compassionate but not obligated: NTA for not offering condolences
Taking care of your own emotional wellbeing is important. NTA
Refusing condolences to ex-wife’s tragedy. NTA or ESH?
No sympathy for ex-wife who cheated. NTA.
Blaming the victim? Engage with caution.
Surviving ex-wife gets no condolences after tragic loss
Choosing to distance oneself during a tough time
Focus on healing, not ex’s opinion. NTA for moving on
Choosing not to console ex-wife after cheating is justified.
Equal compassion: NTA’s response to ex-wife’s tragic loss
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Divorce means duty ended. No kids involved. NTA
Cutting ties after divorce is okay, NTA
Setting boundaries after a breakup does not make you a**hole.
Cutting off toxic friends? NTA says commenters.
Karma strikes back: Ex-wife gets no condolences from NTA commenters
Moving on from an ex – NTA comment section
Setting boundaries with abusers is crucial
Divorce is better than cheating. NTA for feeling this way.
Community supports man’s decision not to offer condolences to ex-wife
No sympathy for ex-wife’s tragedy, justified by broken trust.
Ex stands alone in grief, man not obligated to offer condolences
No obligation to offer condolences, NTA. Tragic loss
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Cutting ties with ex: NTA for not offering condolences
Avoiding public confrontation, NTA for not offering condolences.
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Polite but firm: Ex-wife cheated and lost access. NTA
Standing up for yourself after betrayal. NTA
Cutting off communication with ex-spouse after a tragic loss
Ex-husband refuses condolences after ex-wife’s tragic loss
Moving on after a failed marriage, no need to offer condolences
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