Picture this: you’re remarried, but your ex-wife is struggling financially and trying to provide for your two daughters. You want to help, but your current wife isn’t on board with the idea. What do you do? One man found himself in this exact situation and decided to take matters into his own hands, secretly sending extra money to his ex-wife to help keep a roof over their daughters’ heads. But when his wife found out, she accused him of having an emotional affair and felt betrayed. Now, he’s wondering if he’s in the wrong for going behind her back. Let’s dive into this drama-filled story!
The Divorce Story
New Beginnings
Child Support
Ex-Wife’s Struggles
The McDonald’s Job
Daughters’ Life
Financial Struggles
Child Support Dilemma
Helping Out
Extra Support
The Secret Plan
Busted!
Wife’s Accusations ️
Dad’s Justification ♂️
The Guilt
Secretly Helping the Ex-Wife: Betrayal or Justified?
Our conflicted dad has been divorced from his ex-wife for quite some time, and they share two daughters together. When his ex-wife fell on hard times, he felt compelled to help her out financially, despite his current wife’s objections. He secretly sent extra money to his ex-wife for five months, making sure his daughters had a stable home. But when his wife discovered his secret, she accused him of having an emotional affair and felt betrayed. Now, he’s left questioning whether his actions were justified or if he’s in the wrong for going behind his wife’s back. We’ve gathered the top responses from the internet to see what people think about this complicated situation.
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Curious commenter seeks more info on OP’s situation.
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Current wife’s selfishness exposed, NTA for helping ex-wife’s kids
Giving money to ex-wife was wrong, but why is she draining everything on her parent’s medical bills? ESH
Current wife upset over husband’s secret financial support for ex.
Combining finances means no unilateral decisions. YTA
User thinks OP is in the wrong for sending money behind wife’s back
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Ex-wife asks for money, current wife says no, man helps anyway
Current wife upset over ex-wife’s secret financial help.
Man criticized for secretly helping ex-wife with shared finances
Going behind spouse’s back to support children – YTA
Supporting daughters is NTA, but wife/ex-wife confusion raises eyebrows
Engaging with YTA comment on helping ex-wife and children
User calls out OP for disrespecting both wives and finances.
Financially supporting ex-wife without current wife’s knowledge: YTA
Current wife accuses husband of emotional affair for giving money to ex-wife and kids. All parties have some responsibility. ♂️ ♀️
Sharing finances with current wife, man helps ex-wife causing conflict
Redditor calls out man for secretly helping ex-wife
Current wife upset over husband helping ex-wife’s dad. YTA?
Financial infidelity can be just as damaging as physical infidelity
Financial issues arouse suspicion in divorcee’s secret kindness
Divided loyalty between ex-wife and current wife causes conflict ♂️
User called out for ignoring financial responsibility and white knighting.
Parental custody dispute – YTA comment takes strong stance
YTA for not helping your ex-wife with child support
Ex-husband’s financial support enrages current wife. YTA according to comment.
Lying to current wife breaks trust. Finding a compromise important
User calls out man for not taking custody of children. YTA.
Heartwarming act of kindness sparks jealousy in current spouse
Current wife accuses husband of stealing money and emotional affair
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Struggling to balance noble intentions and honest relationship with current wife NTA (for now)
Combining finances with ex-wife? YTA according to comment.
Opinionated comment suggests taking kids from ex-wife for stability.
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Asking the tough questions
Man spends thousands without wife’s knowledge, called out as YTA
Scathing comment calls out man for being a father and husband.
Putting kids first in a messy divorce ❤️
Financial infidelity leads to betrayal and potential divorce.
Man helps ex-wife and enrages current wife. YTA according to comment.
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Current wife angry as husband secretly helps ex-wife financially
Man secretly helps ex-wife, enrages current wife. YTA.
Betraying your wife’s trust for revenge is a huge YTA
Helping your ex behind your wife’s back: YTA or NTA?
Joint account trust broken, OP TA for secretly helping ex-wife
Money secrets with ex-wife, current wife finds out. YTA
User questions OP’s actions and missing details in AITA post.
Prioritize your wife’s needs, not your ex’s. Major dick move.
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Man secretly helps ex-wife, enrages current wife. YTA, 1000000%
Financial infidelity is worse than old fashioned infidelity? YTA
Man criticized for financially supporting ex-wife’s family. YTA.
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Man secretly helps ex-wife, enrages current wife. Commenter calls out YTA.
Financial support for ex causing issues in current marriage
Divided opinions on morality of helping ex-wife’s rent
Going behind your current wife’s back makes YTA
Man secretly helps ex-wife with joint account, enrages current wife
User calls out OP’s behavior, suggests seeking legal resolution.
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Ex-spouse in need, but current wife enraged by secret help ♂️
Being honest is key ⚠️ Take responsibility and seek help
Financial infidelity causes marital strife
YTA for not taking responsibility and helping your ex-wife.
Secretly helping ex-wife makes current wife feel betrayed
User calls out man for secretly helping ex-wife, current wife angry
Money matters: Balancing ex-wife and current wife’s finances
Clarification needed on financial support to ex-wife
Financial infidelity is a serious breach of trust
User calls out man for unfair treatment of ex-wife
Deception is wrong. YTA for secretly helping ex-wife financially
Secretly helping ex-wife makes YTA in general
Stealing from current family for ex-wife? YTA alert
Deceptive actions and broken trust. YTA for lying.
Ex-husband’s act of kindness enrages current wife
User calls out OP for lying to current wife
Honesty is key in relationships , but kids always come first
NTA’s decision to financially assist ex-wife causes chaos at home
Co-parenting or betrayal? Divided opinions on supporting ex-wife
Going behind your current spouse’s back? Definitely YTA
Current wife upset over ex-wife’s secret financial help. YTA.
Man helps ex-wife, enrages current wife, but went behind her back
Secretly giving ex-wife extra $2100 monthly? YTA!
Going behind SO’s back makes you TA Push for custody.
YTA commenter calls out man’s poor conflict resolution skills.
Balancing financial responsibilities between ex and current wife
