Sometimes, family life can get messy. When it comes down to it, many people believe that “blood is thicker than water,” but there are those that do not believe that at all. Many people will turn their backs on their families without a second thought, putting other people in the family in uncomfortable positions.
When this happens, sometimes, family members are “forced to choose” between people in their immediate family and things can get quite awkward and difficult.
Recently, a mom turned to Reddit seeking advice about her two daughters.
The mom said that her daughter, Jennifer, was engaged to Sam, and the two had been planning their wedding. However, their wedding was called off, due to Sam being in love with someone else. That someone else turned out to be Jennifer’s younger sister, Hayleigh. After calling off the wedding, Sam and Hayleigh began dating.
When the wedding was first called off, things were hard.
The mom said she begged Hayleigh to “rethink” the relationship with Sam, as if he was able to cheat on Jennifer with her own sister , he would probably cheat on Hayleigh, too. In addition, she spoke to Sam, as well. Both Hayleigh and Sam “apologized” but felt that they were “meant to be.”
Now, Hayleigh and Sam have decided to get married themselves.
The upcoming wedding has caused a huge rift in their entire family. The mom says that her husband has “taken Jennifer’s side,” and has even refused to walk Hayleigh down the aisle at her wedding, thinking the entire relationship is “wrong.”
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The mom, however, is upset that her family has become so divided.
The mom wrote that she is “heartbroken” that her family has been split apart and no one is willing to “accept” this relationship because, despite their feelings, it is going to happen either way. Jennifer, however, claims the mom is being naive that Hayleigh purposely stole Sam from her.
The mom has been struggling with whether or not she should attend Hayleigh’s wedding.
Jennifer decided to put her foot down and tell her mother that “if she does attend the wedding,” she will show that she “favors” Hayleigh over Jennifer and that Jennifer will “never speak to her again.” The mother is torn with what to do, not wanting to hurt either of her children.
The mom said she wants to go to the wedding to support her daughter.
The mom shared that despite her disagreeing with Sam and Hayleigh’s relationship, she is going to the wedding because Hayleigh is her daughter and she loves her and who she is. Despite her choices, she will always support her child.
Now, however, she wanted Reddit’s advice on whether or not it’s “wrong” to go to the wedding.
Many on Reddit said the mom is “being a terrible mother” by choosing to go to the wedding. If anything, she should showcase to Hayleigh that she made a terrible decision by “allowing her to see that her entire family is against this choice.” Not by attending the wedding.
Others said the mom is “focused on the wrong things.”
Old_Sheepherder_630 said that the mom is fixated on the issue in the relationship being Sam, rather than that her younger daughter hurt and betrayed her older daughter. Family is supposed to support family.
“She needs to learn there are consequences to such incredibly cruel behavior, one of which should be she doesn’t get her dream wedding with universal acceptance.”
Many also said Hayleigh deserves to be “hurt.”
EmmiCeedee agreed with other Reddit users that the mom should not attend, but also that Hayleigh has no right to be upset by that or by her father “refusing” to walk her down the aisle. When she chose to hurt and betray her sister by marrying her ex-fiancé , she knew what she was doing.
And, a ton of people said, what the heck did this mother teach her kids?
NaryaGenesis , and many others, wondered how and why this mother raised a daughter who thought it was acceptable, appropriate, and okay for a sister to steal her older sister’s fiancé, date them, and then decide it was a good idea to marry them a year after their wedding was called off. Seriously, how do you teach your daughter that it’s okay?
