A grandma quits her well-paying job to look after her grandchildren until they’re three, only to be given two weeks’ notice by her son and daughter-in-law that they want to put them in daycare. She points out the financial impact of this decision, including her son’s student loans that she pays, but her son accuses her of guilt-tripping them and causing his wife to cry. Was she in the wrong? Read on to find out.
Experienced nanny left job to care for grandkids full-time ❤️
Grandma’s generosity taken for granted by son and daughter-in-law
Grandma’s joy of teaching grandkids shattered by broken promise
Grandma betrayed as son and DIL opt for daycare
Grandma left reeling after son and daughter-in-law broke promise
Feeling guilty for bringing up money with son and daughter-in-law
Grandma stops paying son’s loans after broken promise.
Grandma defends her care against son and daughter-in-law
Grandma betrayed by son and daughter-in-law
Being a nanny was the life of the grandmother of twins, so when her son and daughter-in-law asked her to take care of their kids, she agreed. But now, after looking after the 18-month-old twins for a year, they want to put them in daycare. Despite their initial promise of three years of work, the couple gave her a two-week notice, leaving the grandmother in a financial bind. She was worried about paying her bills, including her son’s student loans that she had been paying. In this post, we explore the ethical dilemma of this situation and ask, AITA (Am I The Asshole)? Stay tuned for comments and reactions.
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NTA! Don’t let guilt force you to pay their loans.
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NTA, stop paying his loans.
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Grandma takes a stand to stop paying son’s student loans
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Grandma pays half of son’s 200k student loan. Betrayed by son.
Possible explanation for delayed daycare spot, but lack of honesty?
Betrayed by family, NTA grandma seeks justice and vengeance
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Standing up for yourself is not manipulative
Breaking a promise and causing financial strain on grandma. NTA
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Family betrays grandma’s trust, leaves her with financial burden. NTA
Family business gone wrong. NTA for holding them accountable.
Stand up for yourself! Let your son handle his own finances.
Standing up to family isn’t easy but NTA for sure!
Grandma’s childcare skills questioned after son and DIL’s broken promise
Agreement broken, grandma’s income lost. NAH, but AHs for disrespect.
Generous grandma stands up for herself and says no ♀️
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Don’t let manipulative family members take advantage of you
Verbal contract broken, student loan payment not appreciated. ( )
Grandma left in the lurch for strangers, but why?
No co-sign, no credit issues. Dodged a bullet!
Grandma left in the dark about grandkids’ daycare
Breaking promises? Definitely not the a**hole, grandma
Breaking promises and short notices are not okay ♂️
NTA deserves better than a last-minute notice from family
Family and business don’t always mix. NAH, but set boundaries
Put yourself first , NTA for not paying son’s loans
Lesson learned: don’t trust promises from untrustworthy family members ♀️
Verbal daycare agreement broken by son and daughter-in-law
Don’t let him guilt-trip you. Set boundaries and stay firm.
Former teacher agrees, NTA. Refusing to pay loans is fair.
Unpopular opinion: NAH, initial agreement was flawed.
“Manipulative” or not, bills still need to be paid. #NTA
Commenter defends OP’s actions and calls out manipulative behavior.
Grandma rightfully stands up for herself after broken promise
Childcare worker defends son and DIL’s decision, criticizes short notice.
NTA. Grandma won’t tolerate broken promises.
Set boundaries early and stay strong
Quality family care safer & superior than daycare, bad decision.
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