Relationships can be difficult, there is a lot to take into account and it’s important to be aware of what you want and don’t want in a partner when getting into a relationship.
One curious person took to Reddit to find out what sort of traits people find very unattractive in others, by asking, “What ‘all too common’ trait do you find extremely unattractive in the opposite (or same) sex?”
Below, you will find a collection of the most popular responses that were posted! Enjoy…
Littering
“Littering. You’d be surprised how many people don’t give a f*ck and throw stuff out their car window. It’s disgusting.” — Ket_om
I remember walking with my uncle as a kid, and someone threw a McDonald’s bag out of the window of a 4×4 BMW. My uncle just bent down, picked it up, and threw it right back through the window. It was biblical.
The Asshole Paradox
“The ‘I’m an asshole and I don’t care if people call me an asshole’ attitude.” — emmaj95
I used to have a lot of friends who had this attitude. However, one day I just realized that because you’re a self-aware asshole, it doesn’t mean you aren’t an asshole.
Rudeness
“Being rude to wait staff.” — nolindlitch
One other person expanded upon this one, writing, “It shows an utter lack of understanding/empathy to others, not caring that the staff are other people. It’s often associated with the person thinking they’re better than others… It’s a complete turnoff for me, and would refuse to date someone like this.”
Taking Everything As A Personal Attack
“Anyone who takes any advice, disagreement, constructive criticism as a personal attack.” — pdxblazer
Disagreements are part of daily life. Also, it is important to be able to take criticism sometimes, it can help us to grow as people.
Spitting
“Spitting. Just grosses me out.” — tlcb84
I never understand why people feel the need to spit in public! Another person added a story to this one, writing, “Had to end a 30 year friendship because he couldn’t stop spitting in everything – bottles, cups, trash cans, sinks without cleaning or rinsing after himself. He doesn’t even chew. He thinks it’s ‘cool’ because baseball pros do it. One time other friend unknowingly gulped a bottle of his phlegm because he thought it was his beer.”
Looking Down On Someone Else ‘Cause of Their Music Taste
“When they think that their taste in music makes them a superior person instead of just having different tastes.” — existanthominid
Okay, I’m, not really going to have a go at anyone for this, as I spent a lot of my teenage years as the insufferable-hipster-music-snob-type who only listened to underground artists and judged others for listening to anything popular. I shudder looking back.
Doing Things For “Clout”
“People who do things for ‘clout’ and don’t actually care for being genuine until they need something from you.” — dennaleia
This was actually one of the most popular answers on the thread! There were a lot of people expressing annoyance at people faking gestures for the sake of social media attention.
Being Self-Absorbed
“Self absorbed behavior… the Kardashian/Housewives of ??? syndrome. You are NOT the star of some reality show, stop acting like it.” — nottheotherone4
I don’t understand how people can be so self-absorbed. I mean, I suppose it just goes to show how much of an amazing person that I am that I can’t even fathom being like that! I’m pretty damn boss.
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Fighting
“Men bragging about being violent. Bar fights ain’t sexy honey.” — Ffphoebeigh
I never got those guys who go out looking for a fight. I always want to say to them, “Dude, just chill out, have a drink, and stop being an asshole for a night!” However, to them that sort of logic is normally grounds to start fighting.
Chewing Like A Child
“Chewing with your mouth open. Dude, it drives me crazy!” — Ligggmmmaaa22
I am quite amazed by how many people were also massively incensed by the idea of people eating with their mouthes open! I always thought it was something that just annoyed me. Good to see this is a more widely shared feeling!
Playing Hard To Get
“Playing hard to get! If you like me just tell me, stop beating around the bush!” — aboba_3
This one is quite a difficult one, as there were a lot of people saying that some people are genuinely shy and find it hard to confess their feelings to others. However, there are also some people who do it just to try and toy with others.
Everyday Sexism
“Guys that find general housework to be demeaning and beneath them so they expect women to do it for them… while they sit there.. doing absolutely nothing. How can someone be comfortable watching someone do absolutely everything for them?
“This isnt typical, but I’ve actually heard a guy try to explain that this behavior is fair because if there was ever a home invasion he’d be the one that would have to take the bullet and fight the guy off. I mean… a hypothetical situation that will probably never happen is the reason you can act like a pathetic douche every day of your life?” — Ally_989
Phone Addicts
“Always on their phone. This shit annoys me so much, I want to talk to someone while looking at them. When they are constantly on their phone it makes me feel like I am talking to myself and it’s awkward as hell.” — rocknrollhatesme
I think that everyone must have dated someone like this at some point in their life. Feeling like you are battling against someone’s phone for attention is a uniquely horrible feeling.
Shouting
“Shouting at their partners in public.” — mercenarydempsey
If I’m honest, shouting general is just something that I find quite irritating. Just try to keep your cool and don’t explode at people you’re supposed to care about… it’s not that hard if you put your mind to it.
Deliberately Pushing Buttons
“The whole ‘let me push all your buttons, you’re wrong, I’m right, I do it because I think it’s funny to rile you up’ schtick. Then repeat it immediately.” — jackssweetheart
Another person added, “Had an ex that would do that constantly with deep important issues. Then when I would get upset, he would turn it around on me and tell me I’m too sensitive. I was too young at the time to realize he was just antagonizing me.”
Not Being Able To Admit That They’re Wrong
“The inability to admit they are wrong or when they apologize and then justify their actions.” — BarneyFifesSchlong
Look, no one likes to admit when they were wrong. However, the ability to admit to your mistakes is a massively important trait to have, and is a part of being a functioning adult in society.
Being Pushy With Political/Religious Opinions
“Shoving your political and/or religious beliefs into every conversation about innocuous things. What TV show do we watch is not a loaded question impugning your opinions.” — LodgePoleMurphy
This was another quite popular answer on the thread. Having a strongly held opinion is one thing, but to spend every waking moment forcing it on someone close to you can be wearisome for some people.
Telepathy Tax
“The telepathy tax. Partners who hold it against their SO when they fail to anticipate and fulfill their unspoken needs and desires.” — WanderersEndgame
If you don’t tell someone how you are feeling, then how can you expect someone to know what you want of them?
Forcing People Out Of Their Comfort Zone
“More of a general trait but Extroverts that think there is something wrong with you for being a introvert. Chill people I am not depressed I just don’t like going to the bar every damn night. I find more enjoyment staying home playing video games or reading a book. Going out with people is exhausting. Nothing wrong with me I just don’t need people around me all the time to be happy.” — n0rsk
I much more lean on the side of preferring to go out than stay in; however, I would never want to pressure someone into going out who doesn’t want to. Different people like different things.
Being Addicted To Social Media
“Feeling the need to post on social media constantly and pretending that they don’t care about it but obviously care A LOT.” — krhinesmith18
There is nothing wrong with using social media quite a lot; however, letting it dictate your life, and then pretending like it doesn’t is a little unsettling for some.