An 18-year-old girl has taken to Reddit to share her frustration and anger after her parents announced they are expecting their 10th child. The girl is the middle child of 9 siblings, 7 of whom have severe physical and mental disabilities. She believes her parents kept having children in the hopes of having healthy ones who can help support the family. The girl and her twin brother are the only healthy ones, and they have been footing the bill for the family quite often. She and her brother had to give up their savings and cancel a trip with friends due to a sibling’s needs. The girl was under the impression that her parents were done having kids, but they recently announced the pregnancy. She lost her temper and told her mom to abort the baby. Her parents were upset, and the girl left to stay with a friend. Is she the a**hole for reacting this way?
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An 18-year-old girl from a family of 9 siblings shares her frustration about being financially responsible for her family. With 7 of her siblings having severe physical and mental disabilities, the burden on her and her twin brother is immense. Recently, they had to give up their savings for a trip and for a deposit to help their family. With their parents being broke, the news of a 10th child was the breaking point for her. She told her mother to abort the child, causing her mother to cry and her father to shout at her. The teen left home and is staying with a friend. Her brother thinks she reacted poorly, but she wonders if she is the asshole in this situation. Read on for reactions and comments on this family’s situation.
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NTA users advise OP and their twin to move out ASAP
Don’t let your parents take advantage of you, move out ♀️
Escape plan: Open a personal bank account and save secretly
Encouraging independence . Supportive reply .
Encouraging OP to move out and stop giving money
Escape from parentification and financial abuse. ♂️
Commenter defends teen for not wanting to pay for 10th child.
Encouraging response to a young person experiencing parentification
Escape your parents’ chaotic household by joining the military
NTA. Move out and start a new life
Protect your financial independence ♂️
Consider therapy for conflict resolution
Commenter suggests parents may be pocketing medicaid funds
Take control of your life and don’t let others dictate it
Escape from toxic parents and their baby-making factory.
Encouragement for a struggling sibling to break free
NTA. OP is experiencing trauma and financial abuse from parents
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Escape plan advised for commenter and Jake
Escape the abuse and live for yourself!
Teen rightfully questions parents’ decision to have 10th child.
Standing up to parents’ unrealistic expectations. #NTA
Commenter calls out parents for irresponsible breeding, advises action
Compassionate suggestion for overwhelmed young adult.
Serious concern raised: Is it time to call CPS?
Commenter sympathizes with teen who moved out due to parents’ decision
Escape the nest! ♂️ Take control of your life
Teen speaks out against irresponsible parenting of 10th child.
NTA stands up to parents having 10th child with disabilities.
Secure your assets and move out
Supportive comment encourages financial independence and criticizes parents’ irresponsibility
Valid concerns, but get out fast!
Concerns raised over responsibility for disabled siblings.
Standing up to parental abuse. ✊
Protect your assets and focus on yourself.
Take charge of your life and move out
Sensitive topic. Let’s respect each other’s views
NTA. Choose your life, start living without them.
Commenter stands up for siblings, calls out parents’ irresponsibility
Commenter calls out irresponsible parenting with NTA judgement
Protect your money and your freedom. NTA
NTA. Refusing financial and parental duties for 10th child.
Encouraging comment to leave toxic family and prioritize self-care
Commenter calls out irresponsible parenting, urges independence.
Supportive commenter suggests staying with parents or moving out
Encouraging response to abuse victim advocating for self-care and safety
Empathetic response to struggling commenter. ❤️
Take control of your life! Don’t let family hold you back.
Encouraging advice to escape irresponsible parents and prioritize self-care
18 is too young to parent, mid-40s too old. NTA ♀️
Self-care matters. Sometimes distancing is the best choice.
Don’t burn yourself for others. Move out and live life!
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NTA suggests saving up for a place with Jake, calls for CPS.
Cutting off toxic family for financial independence
Take control of your life and cut toxicity out
Secure your finances and leave for a peaceful life
Commenter supports decision not to have more children.
Commenter advocates for child abuse prevention and family planning
Set boundaries for your own financial well-being.
Take control of your future, save up and leave ♂️
Support for sibling in difficult family situation ❤️
Encouraging independence and responsibility while setting boundaries.
Empathetic response to sibling’s struggle with large family dynamics ❤️
Choose your own family – NTA stands up for themselves.
