Friend Disinvites Me From Her Wedding but Expects to Be Invited to Mine

Imagine being asked to make a wedding cake for a friend, only to be disinvited from their wedding months later. That’s exactly what happened to me. I was asked to make a cake for my friend’s small ceremony but was later disinvited from the larger ceremony due to supposed health restrictions. Now that I’m planning my own wedding, my friend expects to be invited despite the previous incident. Am I the a**hole for not inviting her to my wedding? Some say I sound bitter, but I don’t think it’s fair to invite someone who only wanted me around for my cake-making skills.

Bridezilla disinvites friend from her wedding after baking her cake.

Bridezilla disinvites friend from wedding, but still wants her cake

Delayed invite after payment? Something seems fishy here…

Bride disinvited from friend’s wedding, now planning her own nuptials.

Cake offer rescinded, friend disinvites from wedding for health reasons.

Wedding drama: Friend disinvites me but still expects an invite

Ex-friend uses pandemic to justify wedding ‘un-invitation’

Wedding drama: disinvited friend expects invite. AITA for excluding her?

A wedding disinvite with a guest count explanation

Clearing up a minor detail in the disinvited from wedding drama

Cake drama leads to wedding invite fallout

Wedding planning can be a sensitive topic for many and this story is no exception. A woman shares her experience of being disinvited to her friend’s wedding after offering to make the cake but then being unable to deliver it. Despite being paid for her service, the bride-to-be sent a letter disinviting her from the ceremony citing health restrictions. The friend is now engaged and has decided not to invite her former friend to her wedding. The two had a tense conversation where the bride-to-be accused the other of being petty and vindictive. Some friends have sided with the bride-to-be while others support the friend. What do you think? Share your thoughts and reactions in the comments below.

Friend disinvites OP from wedding but expects invite to theirs, NTA.

Friend disinvites over cake, but calls OP petty? NTA.

Friend disinvites guest from wedding but expects invite to theirs. NTA.

Friend disinvites OP from wedding, but expected invitation to OP’s wedding

It’s okay to feel hurt and a little bitter when treated poorly

NTA. Friend disinvited OP from her wedding, got mad when not invited.

PB fans unite in hilarious comment thread

User points out the harsh reality of the friendship’s one-sidedness

Wedding drama with petty friends, but NAH and communication needed

Cake drama leads to uninviting game

Not the a-hole and not a friend. Their loss, not yours. ‍♀️

Wedding drama and COVID restrictions lead to friend disinviting commenter.

Bride was justified in uninviting OP, but asking for an invite is weird

Wedding guest drama? NTA, make your own guest list

Is making wedding cakes a favor or a job? NAH.

First-world drama at its finest

Wedding invite drama and misunderstandings

Petty drama unfolds as friend disinvites commenter from wedding.

Toxic friendship alert! Pettiness wins, everyone loses. ESH.

Confusion over payment for wedding cake leads to drama

Friend disinvites commenter from wedding after no longer needing their help. NTA.

Cake skills aren’t worth the drama Let her go.

Friend asks for wedding invite after disinviting me.

Toxic friends? NTA for not inviting her to your wedding!

Being a mature adult, you’re NTA. Best wishes!

Being disinvited from a wedding of 150 people is a**hole move

Sounds like a business relationship with boundary issues

NTA. Friend only sees you as a cake resource.

Friend disinvites OP from wedding, expects invitation. Both sucky behaviors.

You’re in the clear, let her go ‍♀️

Commenter suggests alternative perspective on friend’s disinvitation from wedding.

Friend disinvites from wedding, ends friendship. No invite retaliation vindictive.

Wedding invite drama: ESH being petty and passive aggressive

150 ‘close & essential’ people but disinvites friend?

Cake drama at a wedding – NAH, but hold the cake

Conditional wedding invite leads to friend’s pettiness

Wedding invite snub, but expects one to yours? NTA

Strictly transactional friendship ends with wedding disinvitation. NTA wins.

Wedding hypocrisy: friend uninvites but expects invite back.

Wedding invites should not be reciprocal, YTA.