Sharing is caring, right? After all, it’s what we were taught as kids and what our parents kept reminding us until we grew up and got on our own feet. Nowadays, everyone wants to help everyone else. But not all situations call for sharing, and not every relationship that is based on sharing is genuine. In this case, a woman shared with the r/AmITA community about how she met her boyfriend ’s family for the first time. The only thing is she didn’t know that her boyfriend had secretly agreed with his parents to pay for their meals and not vice versa. Not only was the woman insulted that she was put in such a position, but she was also shocked that the situation could go even deeper. Dear reader, let’s find out together if you would’ve done anything differently by reading the full story below, and let us know what you think of the whole situation in the comment section!
Ricky’s Been ‘Divorced’ For A While And Still Manages To Bring Up His Ex In Conversations. Can This New Relationship Go The Distance?
Money Is Making Waves Between Him And His New Girlfriend As She Refuses To Pay His Parents’ Bill
She Refused To Pay And Was Immediately Criticized And Laughed At By Her Dates. She Chose To Walk Out Of The Situation Instead
Man Is Furious His New GF Refused To Pay His Dinner Bill, Comparing Her Money Prioritization To His Ex’s
Will An Apology End Their Stand-Off?
Money Isn’t Part Of The Love Equation ♀️
A woman was put in a difficult situation when her boyfriend heavily implied that she should pay for his parents’ meals at a restaurant. She refused, as she felt she wasn’t obligated to pay for someone else’s meals and walked out of the restaurant. Her boyfriend became furious, accusing her of prioritizing money over their relationship, just like his ex had. She argued that it was up to his parents to pay their own bills. It’s a tricky situation – is the woman in the wrong here?
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GIRL RUN!!! ♀️ This Relationship Is Showing Red Flags
The comment advises the girl to run away from her relationship as it is showing clear red flags of emotional and financial abuse. Replies to the comment support the sentiment and emphasize that other exes had similar experiences of similar abuse patterns. The commenter also points out how manipulative the guy is.
Time To Run! ♀️ NTA
The commenter is warning others to stay away, as the man is full of red flags. MARINARA flags, even! The replies are also NTA, with one suggesting the woman just read her own words and the other saying it’s time to run like her tampon is on fire.
️ Time To Cut ⚔️NTA
The commenter advises OP to cut their losses and move on from their five-month relationship. According to the commenter, OP should not waste any more time with their a-hole partner and is praised for how they handled the situation.
What’s Up With This AH?
The commenter is not the a**hole (NTA) and expresses their confusion and disbelief as to why the original poster is still dating this person, who left the original poster and their parents at a restaurant without paying their bill. A reply to the comment suggests that the person they are dating may be going through a courtship rough patch.
♀️Red Flags & Manipulation, Oh My!
The comment argues that the boyfriend is NTA, as he may be testing the new girlfriend to see if she is the one he can manipulate to get his way. Replies suggest the relationship should be ended, as the boyfriend’s behavior shows huge red flags and he is trying to take advantage of the situation. OP’s boyfriend is also trying to get her to offer him financial help, which is a big red flag.
Grieving Together
The commentator is asking why this man is the speaker’s boyfriend. The speaker responds by saying they met through a group grief therapy and that the man was very comforting during a time when their own family was not.
Red Flags Ahead!
The commenter is NTU and points out multiple red flags in the post like wanting to make the OP’s partner his parents’ ATM and using the ex as a way to control OP’s habits. The reply to the comment agrees and adds the fourth flag to the list, which is as big as a ship’s sail according to the reply.
Girlfriend Stands Her Ground ️
The commenter says the boyfriend is clearly using her and is glad she stood her ground, adding that he probably did not initiate his own divorce. The reply agrees, suggesting that he’s immature and his ex got tired of being his mom.
Life Is Like A Ship
The comment acknowledges that the person is NTA (not the a**hole). They make an analogy about how it doesn’t matter how life is arranged, the ship is heading towards an iceberg. One reply agrees with the comment and gives an award.
Girlfriend Left Guy+♡️’S At The Restaurant
The main comment suggested it was an Italian restaurant due to the presence of marinara flags, but the reply clarified it was a local restaurant. The comment concluded with saying the girlfriend should DTMFA, not the a**hole in this case.
Flabbergasted! NTA
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The comment advises the original poster to leave their partner ‘right now’ as they believe there is a reason the partner is divorced. They also declare themselves ‘not the a**hole’ in the situation.
NTA
This commenter advises the reader to steer clear of this man, claiming that doing so would be for the love of their religious beliefs.
Take A Hint: Break Up!
The comment advised the OP to break up and move on, warning that this guy’s behavior, even on his best behavior, is a sign of what he will be like if he stops trying to impress her. It suggested the OP might want to talk to his ex for a better perspective about him.
NTA – Relationship Doubt?
The commenter suggested the man’s ex-wife was the one who initiated the divorce, and that the new girlfriend should do the same if the man is exhibiting the same behavior.
Run Away From ♂️This Relationship✌️
The comment suggests that the poster should run away from the current relationship as it’s not going anywhere good. The poster believes that putting money as a priority here is something that the poster’s ex did, therefore they should leave the relationship.
RUN! ♀️❗️
NTA – The commenter is furious with the OP’s new boyfriend, accusing him of taking out his bitterness on the OP, and of expecting the OP to pay his bill. He advises the OP to RUN away from him.
♀️ NTA: Man’s New GF Is
The commenter is not the a**hole and urges the person to ‘just run’ from their new girlfriend because they are not a good choice. The commenter suggests that the new girlfriend is very entitled.
Cut Losses And ✂️ ♀️
NTA – the commenter advised the original poster to cut their losses and not give the guy any money, as he has only been with him for five months and is already making comparison to his exes.
A Man’s New Girlfriend Leaves Him After 5 Months For Not Wanting To Pay Their Restaurant Bill . NTA!
The commenter suggests that the man’s new girlfriend is not the a**hole for leaving him and his parents at a restaurant due to his refusal to pay their bill. They argue that he has made it quite apparent that he is using her after only 5 months together.
The ️ took
The commenter claims the person in question is not the a**hole because they took themselves out of the situation. No replies were found.
✋ End It Now!
The commenter is urging the reader to end the relationship because they’ve only been together for five months. Not the a**hole in this situation.
INFO: Don’t Settle
The comment advised the original poster to not stay in this situation any longer and to keep walking away. No replies were found.
♀️ Make Sure To Before It’s Too Late!
The commenter warns the reader to be careful while dating and to break up with someone who badmouths their ex before they try to take advantage of them. Censored curse words in the comment are replaced with asterisks e.g. *ex*-boyfriend.
NTA And Leave!
The comment reflects an agreement with the sentiment of the article – the commenter thinks the new girlfriend is in the wrong for refusing to pay the bill – and suggests that the author should break up with her. There are no replies to this comment.
♂️ “YTA For Staying With Her”
Commenter says the user is YTA for staying with their significant other if they refused to pay their restaurant bill and left them and their family at the restaurant.
♀️ Run Away! ♀️
The comment advises the reader to RUN away from their partner after hearing the phrase ‘You’re making money a priority just like my ex did’ as it is code for ‘I’m a mooch.’ Not the a**hole in this situation, the commenter suggests the reader to keep walking until this partner is out of their life.
NTA: Kick Rocks
The comment advises the new girlfriend to leave the man and the headache behind, as he appears to be looking for what she can offer him, instead of her as a person. It suggests that the new girlfriend made the right decision in leaving the restaurant and the man as a consequence.
Why Stay With Him
The commenter asked why the poster would stay with the person they were dating after he made money a priority, like her previous partner and left her and her parents at a restaurant when she refused to pay their bill.
Dump Him And ♀️
The commenter advises the new girlfriend to dump her current partner as he was making money a priority, just like her ex did. Not the a-hole according to the commenter.
Don’t Date User ♂️
The commenter advises the original poster to walk away from the situation before it gets too serious. The commenter insists that the person should not date a user and should leave them behind with zero burden as they are only dating.
Things Sorted Out Themselves!
The commenter shared that the issue with the man’s girlfriend was resolved after she refused to speak to him until he apologized. As it turns out, things sorted out themselves.
NTA, Never Apologize
The commentator said NTA (not the a**hole) and advised not to apologize, as the problem can be solved by not speaking to the man again.
♀️ Dump Him. Run!
NTA – the commenter advised the poster to dump the guy and run, as he is greedy, manipulative and probably abusive. They suggested that the poster should take their hard-earned money and run, as there is not much else that can be done in this situation.
Gaslighting ♂️ Another NTA Case?
Commenter suggests that the man is not worth an empty wallet and is likely involved in manipulative behavior. Commenter believes that the man is not the a**hole and the commenter deserves better treatment.
Girlfriend’s A Bad One
The initial comment encourages the commenter to run away from their new girlfriend immediately. It is declared that the commenter is NTA (not the a**hole) in the situation.
NTA: ♀️Leave Him Behind
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The commenter says that the man’s behavior is detestable, and that the woman should leave him alone and not look back.
New GF’s Red Flags : NTA
The commenter is not the a**hole (NTA) because they state that the OP’s 35-year-old new girlfriend has red flags everywhere and is not acting her age. They mention that it’s true that the OP earned the money so they should get to dictate how it is spent.
Is This Relationship Worth It?
The commenter says NTA and advises the original poster to think long and hard about the relationship. They suggest that the person is entitled and the silent treatment they’ve been receiving is not a good sign. The commenter suggests that the original poster should reconsider their relationship and ask themselves tough questions about what they are getting out of the relationship and what is being put in by the other person.
Leave No Behind
The commenter questioned why the OP is dating the person who refused to pay the group’s bill, suggesting they weren’t looking out for the OP or their parents. NTA.
He Had One Question:
The commenter had a simple question for the man: how did he not break up with his new girlfriend when he heard of her refusal to pay the bill? No-one had an answer.
YTA – His Most Recent Ex ♀️
The commenter believes that the protagonist is the a**hole for making money a priority, just like his most recent ex. The commenter suggests the protagonist to stop that practice.
Break Up And Block
NTA (not the a**hole), the commenter advises the original poster to break up with the person they are dating and to block them, as they are not willing to engage with them until the original poster apologizes.
Girl, You Had A ♀️Sign !
A comment suggests that the new girlfriend should have left when the man started talking about his divorce, implying that she should have seen this red flag and run away immediately.
⁉️ Oh No, A Marinara+ Breakup Combo
A comment declared their opinion that the woman was not the a**hole in this situation, using the phrase ‘marinara flags abound’ to describe the events that transpired.
NTA, But He Should Have Dropped Flags
The commenter is Not The A**hole but suggests that the man should have expected a situation like this to happen, symbolized by dropping flags.
Get Out Of This Relationship
The commenter urges the reader to leave their current relationship, as it is not good for them. They caution that if the reader likes themselves, they should not remain in the relationship.
Desperate Enough?
The commenter judges the original poster for not ending the relationship despite being treated poorly, implying that the original poster is desperate enough to endure such behavior.
Breaking Down An Interesting Dilemma
The commenter found the reason for the failed marriage of the subject of the article–NTA– and explained that it was due to prioritising money over relationships. No additional replies were found.
Uhhh NTA ♀️
In this section, the commenter advises the poster to leave their current partner as they are likely at fault when they constantly criticize others. The commenter encourages the poster to update their status and to dump the ‘loser’.
NTA Leave Him!
The comment advises to leave the man because he is exhibiting signs that indicate he could be emotionally abusive. The commenter believes his sensitivity to the word divorce and the way he speaks about his ex are both huge red flags.
Don’t Let Him Get Your
Commenter advises their fellow to get out of the relationship, as the partner has demonstrated a concerning attitude towards money and could potentially take advantage of them financially.
9 Red Flags ️ Run Away! ♀️ NTA
The comment describes 9 red flags in the situation, telling the reader to run away as the person is not the a**hole in this case. It also points out that the person is obsessed with his image, super insecure about appearing as if he was dumped, compares the reader to his exes, and laughs when the reader disagrees.
What Motivates This Guy’s GF?
The commenter is questioning the motivations of the man’s girlfriend, wondering what could possibly keep her around in a relationship with someone who has already exhibited similar behavior to a previous partner.
NTA: A To The ♂️’s Comment
The commenter declares the man’s ex-girlfriend NTA for leaving the restaurant when she refused to pay the bill. The commenter also calls the man a ‘dumbass’ for implying a divorcée was the reason for their break-up.
Are Bad Partners Real?
The comment proposes that the post might be fake, but acknowledges that unfortunately, people with bad partners do exist. They advise the poster to get out of their relationship, implying the poster must be with someone like that. The sentiment conveyed is that the poster is Not The A**hole.
New Relationship Advice: Trust Your Gut ✅
The commenter was firmly in agreement that the man was Not The A**hole, and then went on to give some solid relationship advice: trust your gut and end things if someone compares you to an ex or talks badly about them.
NTA: ♂️A Good Reason
The commenter stated that the man’s new girlfriend was not the a**hole (NTA) and that there must be a good reason why he has exes, suggesting that the commenter join that club and rid of him.
NTA: Consider It A Warning
The comment tells the reader that they should consider the situation with their new boyfriend a warning and not ignore the initial red flags they experienced. The comment suggests they should leave this relationship now.
NTA! ♀️ Cut Ties & Move On!
Commenter recommends cutting this relationship short and moving on as the man is disrespecting their new girlfriend and is potentially attempting to financially abuse her. His ex is also brought up as this man is displaying the same bad qualities she had.
Fury After A Red Flag ⚠️
The comment expresses shock at the man not realizing the signs his new girlfriend showed when she refused to pay the restaurant bill and left. The commenter sees no a-hole here.
New Girlfriend Leaves
The comment states that the new girlfriend’s actions gives the commenter a better understanding of why the man is divorced. No replies were found.
No A**holes Found
The commenter states that the man is making money a priority, similar to his ex, and shares a related story as an example. The comment has no replies.
NTA: ♂️
The commenter is of the opinion that the man doesn’t want a relationship, but just wants someone to pay his bills. They suggest the woman should run away and block him on all social media platforms.
NTA: Red Flag Alert!
The comment says the guy is a ‘walking red flag’ and ‘not a good relationship prospect’ – suggesting that the audience should be wary of him.
Time T0 Dump
The commenter advises the person involved in the article to get rid of their ‘man’ as they are NTA (not the a**hole). No replies were found to this comment.
NTA, But Watch Out!
The commenter says that the man’s new girlfriend is not the a**hole, but they encourage the man to watch out for the red flags the girlfriend is waving before getting too deep into the relationship.
♂️ New Relationship Red Flags
The commenter is not the a**hole in this situation and expresses curiosity as to why the man’s marriage failed. The commenter suggests that the serious red flags in the story should be a good cause to end the new relationship.
Man’s Ex Strikes Again
The commentor declared the man NTA (not the a**hole), and hinted that the reason why he is divorced is related to this incident.
Dump Him!
The comment suggests that the man is a user and that the new girlfriend should dump him, as he will never change.
Money ≠ Love ♂️
NAH. The commentor suggests that the man should leave his girlfriend because she made the decision to not pay the bill with his family. They argue that the decision to prioritize money over love makes the relationship not worth it.
NTA Get Out ♂️ ♀️
The commenter is urging the woman to leave the relationship right away, because they consider the action of leaving the restaurant and refusing to pay their bill to be financial abuse. No replies were found.
Is It Wrong To Prioritize Money?
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The comment questions why the OP would ‘want to be mentally beaten down’ by their ex-girlfriend who refused to pay for their dinner with the OP’s parents. There are no replies to this comment.
