“AITA For Returning Home After I Found Out That My Husband Booked 1st Class For Himself And His Friend While I Got Economy?”

It’s no secret that marriages are tough. And the more years of togetherness a couple has, the harder it can get. Just imagine the long process of getting to know each other, trying to adapt to each other’s way of thinking, communicating with one another, learning how to overcome disputes… And not every couple survives this journey. But every once in a while, there are people who manage to hold on and stay married for decades, thanks to their willingness to work things out. Unfortunately, not every story has a happy ending. A person can change. And not for the best. Reddit user throwraeconomy550 shared a situation that happened to her and her husband of 13 years that made the woman finally realize her other half isn’t exactly the guy she thought he used to be. He was willing to ruin the trip they both looked forward to for years because he got caught in his entitlement and jealousy. Scroll down to read what happened in the contributor’s own words, and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments!

Mom Of Two Finds Out Husband Upgrades His And Friend’s Ticket To First-Class While Hers Is Economy

Husband’s Double Standards Strike A Nerve! He Demeans Her While Treating His Friend Differently

Husband Books 1st Class For Him And His Friend But Only Economy For Wife — She Blocks Rude Friend And Husband Says She’s Proving His Point. AITA?

Is It Wrong To Expect More When Your Husband Paid For Your Ticket?

For years, couples have gone on trips together. But this couple’s trip brought up some unexpected issues when the husband booked first class for himself and a friend, but only economy for his wife. She was understandably upset and refused to go on the trip. But did she overreact or was the husband wrong to expect her to settle for less? We’ll explore the different reactions and perspectives to the situation.

Disrespectful Husband

The comment says that if OP is a stay-at-home mom then all the money her husband earns is shared funds and the level of disrespect from him booking a first class flight for himself and a friend while she got the economy seat is astounding. Replies urge her to divorce her husband and file for support, and note that companies are starting to value single moms more. NTA.

Is Your Husband ? NTA!

The comment suggests that the husband may be having an affair with his friend, as his friend is rude to the OP and is being treated like the spouse. It is suggested that the husband’s actions show how he feels about the OP, hence the comment is labeled as NTA (not the a**hole). Replies offer support to the comment and question why the husband’s money is controlling their lives, suggesting that the OP look for a job and let the husband pay for daycare.

Are You In An Equal “Marriage”?

The comment author argues that OP’s husband is not treating OP as an equal, and suggests she get a job and look into her financial independence. Replies suggest OP get a divorce. NTA.

Suspicion Of A “Friend”?

People seem to suspect the husband’s “friend” and discuss a movie that addresses the suspicion of two platonic guy friends going on trips each year without their wives to a mountain. Some also raise their hand in agreement.

‍♀️ Did He ‘A-Hole’ His Wife?

The comment stated that the husband’s action was NTA, and that the wife should check her divorce laws as she is a SAHM. The replies agreed, with one saying the husband couldn’t do what he does outside the home without his wife’s labor inside the home.

A Lesson In Self-Respect

The commenter says the husband’s action of booking 1st class tickets for himself and his friend while giving economy to his wife was not an issue of affordability but was a way of telling his wife that ‘it’s gonna happen on my terms’. The reply confirms the commenter’s sentiment and elaborates on how the action goes against the respondent’s upbringing and sense of self-respect.

NTA! Is He Really Treating Her Like A Lesser Being?

The comment suggests that the husband is treating the wife as a lesser being and a joke by not booking first-class for her. The replies agree that the husband does not recognize her worth and show the consequences of him not recognizing the wife’s value.

A SAHP’s View:

The comment argues that if a parent has agreed to become a stay-at-home parent, then all money earned is theirs to share. It is backed up by a reply from a stay-at-home parent of three kids who emphasizes the difficulty of committing to certain work hours due to childcare duties.

Find Out What Happened When Husband Booked Separate Tickets For Himself & Friend!

The husband didn’t include the commenter in the first-class ticket booking, instead putting her in economy. She is *not the a**hole* for returning home. Replies suggest the situation might have been worse for the commenter had they gone on the trip, with a possibility of separate hotel rooms.

Husband’s Financial Abuse✊️

The comment states that the husband’s financial abuse of the SAHM (Stay-at-home mom) partner is not okay, and that it’s a sign that he does not respect or value their contributions. One reply agrees, noting how it cannot work with the breadwinner dynamic.

Not The A**hole ✋ NTA #alwaysthehardworkingone

The commenter acknowledges that OP is the one who performs all the important tasks around the house, from cleaning to looking after the children and more, which allows her husband to specialize in and succeed in his job. They point out that her husband has no respect for her, and she should not accept his behavior. Everyone agrees that OP is NTA in this situation.

NTA: ✊️ Love & Harsh Truths

The comment states that NTA (Not the a**hole), and that the OP’s husband and his best friend are married so to speak and she’s treated like the maid and nanny. She deserves to be loved and valued, and the comment suggests that she take this time to reflect on herself and her marriage. The replies further advise the OP to consider divorcing and going to couples counselling if she stays in the marriage.

Ugh! Not Cool

The comment implies that the husband is more attached to his friend than his own wife – exhibiting a ‘bros before h*es’ mentality. The replies also express their dislike for this sentiment.

Husband’s Decision To Fly 1st Class Raises Questions!

The commenter believes the husband isn’t keen to have the wife join him on the trip. They suggest looking into the reason behind the choice of seat rather than the cabin instead of discussing it. Replies note that it could be a sign of the husband not valuing his wife’s work and responsibilities and enquiring if that is the case.

Is Husband’s ‘Friend’ More Than A Friend?

The commenter suggests that the OP’s husband’s ‘friend’ might be more than just a friend. Another reply affirms that even if the husband doesn’t realize it, the friend’s behavior could be seen as overstepping boundaries.

NTA! Husband And Friend’s Wrong Move

The OP’s comment is followed by a reply questioning what is wrong with the husband’s friend. This section implies that the commenter believes the husband and his friend are clearly in the wrong.

Divorce Him, Get &

The commenter suggests that the OP divorce her husband for financially abusing her and get alimony, half of his money, and their home as compensation.

Financial Abuse❗–NTA

The comment stated that the husband’s behavior reeks of financial abuse, and encourages the poster to stand their ground. A reply suggested that the poster write their husband an invoice for all the child care that they provide, since their husband doesn’t recognize the poster’s worth in terms of the paycheck.

NTA. Find A Lawyer &

The comment states that the OP is not the a**hole, but her husband likely views her as the hired help. The comment encourages the OP to find a good divorce lawyer and take her husband to the cleaners for not treating her as an equal.

NTA — It’s Time!

The commenter is NTA (not the a**hole) and expresses shock that the OP would put up with her husband’s condescending behavior. They advise her to seek counselling to understand why she is staying in the marriage and to reconsider her situation.

NTA: Is Your Husband’s ‘Friend’ A Third Wheel?

The commentor says that the husband’s loyalty to his ‘friend’ is a sign of disrespect to the wife, and implies that the wife should reconsider the entire relationship.

NTA. Your Husband’s Message Is Clear ‍♂️

The commentor said the husband is sending a clear message that the husband values his friend more than the person in the comment and they are worth less than both of them. The commentor advised to get counseling or get out. This sentiment was echoed in the reply.

It’s Not Her Fault

The commentor declares that the wife is Not The A**hole (NTA) in this situation, but that her husband is an a**hole (AH) for treating her so unfairly.

NTA! Husband’s Utter Contempt Was Not Okay

The commenter states that the husband and his friend are to the 10th power and that the husband’s utter contempt for his wife was not okay. They suggest that she should re-asses her living circumstances and not be a second class citizen.

Husband Puts Friend First

The comment states that the husband’s behavior showing that he puts his friend first instead of the wife is NTA; it is a clear sign of how he views her. The comment suggests that the husband may complain about her to his friend, and that she would be better off without him since she isn’t his first priority.

NTA Your Husband Is A Rat Bastard!

The commenter believes that the husband’s behavior is unacceptable, as he thought it would be ok to spend so much money for himself and his friend when the wife is at home raising their both children. The commenter labels the husband as a rat bastard.

Is Your Husband Disrespecting You?

This comment suggests that the husband’s friend might feel entitled to involve himself in the situation, which implies that the husband disrespects the original poster on a regular basis. It is advised that the original poster seeks alimony if they desire respect from the husband.

Are Relationships A ‘Deal’ Or ‘Allotment’?

The comment advises the OP to not stay in a relationship where they are treated as a doormat. It states that any type of relationship should be a ‘deal’ and not an ‘allotment’. It also goes onto to imply that the OP’s husband may be financially abusing them. The comment reminds the OP to not ignore these signs.

Time To ‘Invoice’

NTA: The commenter suggested creating an invoice for the work you do in the household and asking your husband to pay for *his share* of the childcare and upkeep. He either respects your point or he does not, which will show his level of respect for you.

Tapping Out Of A Marriage

The comment points out that the husband prioritizes his own vacations over that of his wife, does not return the favor of her allowing him to do so, and makes her feel like less of an equal partner in their marriage. The comment recommends that the poster should have a strong revaluation of her marriage to reestablish respect and balance.

Is Your Husband A Major D? NTA!

The comment suggests that the husband is okay with the wife being a stay-at-home-mom, but is annoyed that he has to pay for her. He also does not want to go on any vacations with her at all, and is planning a sports trip with his friend. The comment concludes that the husband needs to grow up, and concludes that he is not the a**hole in this situation.

NTA Bet It Will Change His Tune

The comment suggested that the husband should be billed for the services of taking care of the kids, cleaning, and cooking as if the wife were to work. The comment also called the husband an a**hole for booking first class tickets for himself and his friend while the wife got economy.

“Half The Money & A Lawyer”

The comment states that the poster is not the a**hole, as the money was half theirs, and that their husband never bought the ticket for them. They should get access to the money and, if needed, consult a lawyer; their husband’s friend texting about the poster’s entitled behavior has crossed the line.

NTA: Break It Off

The commenter advises the original poster to leave her husband due to his lack of respect for her, suggesting that she will be entitled to half of the money when they eventually get divorced.

NTA: Your Husband

The commenter deemed the husband ‘NTA’ (not the a-hole) and said that he didn’t ‘include’ the poster in his plan. The commenter then stated that the husband ‘sucks’.

OMG – NTA!

Commenter says the husband is treating the SAHP as a lesser person which is unacceptable. They suggest that the husband is belittling them, and point out the cost of childcare, cooking, and cleaning if the SAHP had to be replaced.

NTA: Mrs. Vs. Mister?

The comment expresses shock and disbelief that the husband was willing to spend money on a first class seat for himself and his friend, while booking only an economy seat for his wife. The comment suggests that the couple should rethink their relationship altogether since the husband’s priority doesn’t appear to be his wife’s comfort and well-being.

A Suspicious Husband

The commentor thinks the husband is going in the direction of coming out as gay. The commentor suggests that the husband’s friend may be more than just a friend.

NTA: Financial Abuse!

The comment states that the husband has been financially abusing the wife, suggesting that she get counseling. No replies were found for this comment.

NTA: Husband’s Move

The commenter has declared that the husband’s action was not the a-hole here, but it was a solid a-hole move on his part.

NTA: Treating You Like A Second-Class Citizen

The comment condemns the husband for treating the OP like a second-class citizen and questions his plans for the rest of the trip. It also questions the possible power dynamics in their relationship, suggesting counselling or getting a job if the OP desires. No replies found.

Is Your Husband Up To Something?

The comment suggests that the husband’s act of booking 1st class tickets for himself and his friend was a ploy to tear the couple apart. It also mentions that the husband seems either ‘clueless’ or possibly planning something sneaky. NTA is the verdict.

NTA. Concerned About The ‘Friend’

The commenter states that they’re not the a**hole and expresses concern about the 1st class tickets for the husband’s ‘friend’ while the wife gets Economy class tickets.

NTA. Major In Husband’s ‍♂️

The comment states that the husband’s behavior was a major red flag and uncalled for as the wife is supposed to be his queen. It suggests that if this behavior continues, the commenter would look into a divorce lawyer if they were in the same situation.

Most Definitely NTA: ‍♂️

The comment stated that the husband was ‘beyond an AH’ and ‘an idiot’ for booking first-class for his friend and himself, while the wife got economy. The comment said that the husband has no clue and should receive no intimacy as a consequence of his actions.

NTA: Write An Invoice!

The comment replies to the story by arguing that the OP is Not The A**hole (NTA) and should write an invoice for the hours she has worked as a stay at home mom for the going rate of a nanny, house cleaner, personal assistant and more – emphasizing that her time and work has value and that she should not stay with someone who treats her this way.

NTA Tell Him To In His Buddy’s Bed ‍♂️

The commenter is saying that the husband is not the a**hole in this situation – they suggest the husband find a new place to sleep instead, if he and the wife are still together.

NTA Divorce STAHM ⚖️

The commenter suggests that the original poster should divorce their husband for disrespecting them. They also mention the concept of STAHM (Stay At Home Mom) and how this would result in the income of the one working out of the house being split equally. They also suggest that the original poster should not be treated unfairly and that their husband’s friend should have the same privileges as them.

Getting With The Husband ‍♀️

The commentor says they would have ‘lost their s**t’ if their husband booked first class tickets for himself and a friend, but not for them. They want to get a divorce and leave their husband to his vacation while they consult an attorney.

‍♀️ NTA: The Husband And His Friend Are Major A-Holes!

The commenter declared that the husband and his friend are major a-hole for booking 1st class for himself and his friend while the original poster (OP) got economy. Replies echoed the sentiment, suggesting that OP look for a better relationship with more loving and supportive qualities. Overall, everyone declared the husband and his friend ‘not the a**hole’.

NTA ‍♂️

The commentor said that the person isn’t the a**hole and that the ticket issue is not the biggest of their problems.

A Husband’s Thoughtless Act

The original comment suggests that the husband’s decision to get first-class tickets for himself and his friend is disrespectful to his wife, and questions if the husband is having an affair with his friend. The comment encourages the wife to not be so dependent on her husband and to take action against the persistent disrespect.

‍⚖️➡️ ‍♀️ She’s NTA!

The commenter suggested that the OP make her husband a hot dog and pop tart for dinner and breakfast while she gets a nice meal. The commenter assures the OP that she is Not The A**hole here.

Husband’s Shady Behavior ☹️‍♂️

The commenter says that NTA for returning home after finding out about the different classes for herself and the husband’s friend. The commenter claims that the ‘friend’ didn’t want her invading on their personal time, and that the husband was still going to treat the ‘friend’ to the best of the best, which might suggest that they are more than just friends. The commenter also claims that the husband was being disrespectful and that the wife deserves better.

Leave Him To Handle The Kids And The House Alone!

The comment suggests the wife take a weekend off to let her husband handle the kids and the house by himself, and then ask whether he still believes she doesn’t work. The comment proposes writing down in details the responsibilities she takes on per hour and seeing if he can do it.

NTA: Setting Boundaries

The commenter is rightly not taking the a**hole card and believes that the husband needs to be set straight regarding his incorrect assumptions about the partner not working. The commenter thinks that the partner works a lot more hours than the husband and would not be able to afford childcare without the partner’s contribution.

A Warning To RUN???

The comment advises the OP to RUN away from a ‘horrible, a-hole’ husband who was full of ‘hate and mean’ towards her. It further emphasizes why the OP should have rethinked having children with such a ‘controlling vile man’.

NTA: Dealbreaker?

Commenter advises that the spouse’s treatment of the OP is a dealbreaker and that OP should leave, as their partner clearly does not value them. They express their condolences.

NTA! They ✈️Should’ve Flown Together.

The comment says that the husband treated the poster like a lacky and should have bought her a first class ticket to sit with him. They also state that this shows how much the husband values the poster.

❤️ An Eye-Opening Revelation

The commenter revealed that the husband’s “friend” is his real wife, leaving the OP in shock and heartbroken.

“Send It To Your Husband ”

The comment advises the original poster to wait for more comments before sending it to her husband and says that her husband is not the a**hole in this situation.

Girl, Take Control

The comment advises the poster to get a job, move out with their kids, and divorce the husband due to financial abuse. It is not the a**hole’s fault in this situation.

NTA: Get Out And Take Your Kids

The commenter advises the husband to genuinely love and respect their wife and never treat her as less than. They suggest her to get out with her kids and find someone who genuinely loves and respects her.

Reciprocity

The comment suggests that the husband acted selfishly by booking first class tickets for himself and his friend while only giving economy to his wife. According to the comment, this action demonstrated who his top priority is.

“Couple Has A Troubling Flight Story…”

The comment suggests that the husband should have treated his wife as an equal and not decided on the flight tickets on his own. The comment states that the husband values the friend more than the wife, and that she should ‘dump this loser’ and move on.

NTA: Was Cheating Involved?

The comment said NTA and speculated that the husband may have been cheating on the poster with his ‘friend’.

NTA: Husband’s 1st Class Treatment

The commentor believes the OP shouldn’t be blamed for returning home after finding out that her husband booked 1st class tickets for himself and his friend while she was given economy. According to the commentor, this treatment is absurd and the OP did the right thing, and the husband needs to learn not to treat her badly.

Is The Friend Entitled To 1st Class?

The comment questions what contribution the friend makes to the household budget to entitle them to a first class ticket, and concludes that the commenter is Not the A**hole in the situation.