After a miscarriage and her husband becoming the legal guardian of his autistic niece, this woman struggles with caretaking responsibilities as a part-time worker. She gets her old high-demanding job back, leaving her husband alone with the niece. Is she selfish or just fed up? The post has sparked controversial opinions from both sides. Read on for more details.
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Husband’s anger escalates as wife refuses to care for niece.
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Woman gets old job back to avoid caring for autistic niece
Struggling with family conflict over job and caregiving responsibilities ♀️
Are they the a**hole in this situation?
Update on woman who got job to avoid caring duties
Woman gets old job back to avoid caring for husband’s niece
After her husband became the legal guardian to his sister’s daughter, a woman gave up her career to be a stay-at-home mom. However, after her sister-in-law passed away and she became the primary caretaker to her niece with non-verbal autism, dyslexia, and severe sensory issues, she found herself at her wits’ end. When her husband failed to uphold his promise to take care of the child, she left to stay with her mother and got her old job back, which requires travel and in-office work. This decision has caused a rift between her and her husband’s family, who think she is being selfish. What do you think – is she the a**hole in this situation?
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No blame, no shame. ♀️ Niece’s family should provide care.
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Having her old job back will allow for qualified help.
Don’t let him off the hook! Hold him accountable
Caring for a child with autism can be challenging. Take care.
Being a caretaker is tough but don’t blame the innocent girl
Support worker advises on caring for individuals with disabilities
Husband should take responsibility for his autistic niece’s care ❌
You did nothing wrong. He should take care of it.
Caring for an autistic child requires specialized work and understanding
Should she end her marriage over caring for his niece?
Husband needs to step up. Dyslexia ≠ developmental disorder. ♀️
Don’t have a child with this person.
Setting boundaries with family can be tough
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Don’t let anyone steamroll you into taking on unwanted responsibilities
Taking on a special needs child is a huge undertaking
Taking responsibility for your actions.
Standing up for yourself and the child, NTA
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Marriage in shambles due to caring for autistic niece. ESH.
Don’t be a martyr. Get your job back.
Husband’s promise to be sole caretaker of niece unfair to OP
Breaking promises and shifting responsibility.
Savage advice to end a messy situation.
Encouraging response to woman avoiding caring for autistic niece.
Family responsibility or not? NTA for niece’s care.
Stand your ground! Don’t let them guilt trip you.
Suggestion for care homes and therapy for better preparation.
Spouse taking you for granted? NTA suggests institutionalization.
NTA. Taking care of autistic niece not in job description.
Husband lies about caregiving, NTA for avoiding responsibility.
Husband volunteers to care for autistic niece, drops it on wife. NTA
Parent with experience empathizes with woman’s tough situation ❤️.
Husband signed up for it, he should be the caregiver
Working with autistic kids is tough, NTA for not wanting responsibility
A valid point raised about the niece’s support system.
Spouse’s responsibility or not? NTA chose herself over obligation.
Support for standing up against unfair caregiving responsibilities
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Woman’s insensitive behavior towards autistic niece raises concerns (ESH)
Stand up for yourself! You deserve to be heard.
“Husband promised to take care, but didn’t”: NTA stands strong
Exploring day programs for adults with disabilities
Don’t sacrifice your career for caregiving. NTA ✌
Asking the important questions about long-term care for niece
Care for a disabled child leads to marital troubles. ESH.
Equal parenting responsibilities.
Divorce emoji. OP not responsible for husband’s actions.
YTA for leaving a child with zero supervision ♀️
Specialized facilities can provide better life quality for special needs individuals.
Parent of autistic child offers support and advice ❤️
NTA: You are not responsible for your husband’s niece ♀️
Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries. You go girl!
Don’t let your husband take advantage of your good nature
Don’t be an unpaid nanny! Stand up for yourself and your time.
Spouse assumes care, gets upset when refused. NTA
Parent of an autistic child sympathizes with OP’s burnout and husband’s lack of support.
Family needs to figure out niece’s care, not OP. NTA
Comment suggests divorce due to husband’s behavior.
Caregiving responsibilities strain marriage, NTA suggests hiring help or placement.
Spouse can’t volunteer your care. NTA
Husband wants credit but not responsibility for autistic niece. NTA.
Taking a stand for yourself and setting boundaries
Husband made a unilateral life choice, now suffering consequences
Support for woman who avoided caring for autistic niece
Not the a**hole for refusing to bear his responsibility
Husband wants her pregnant wife to care for autistic niece. NTA.
Protect your finances and seek resources for niece’s care. NTA
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OP faces tough decision: care for niece or husband’s job?
Take control of your life Don’t let guilt-trips dictate it.
Husband lied about caring for autistic child; wife not the a**hole
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Family support and broken promises lead to NTA judgement
Advice from an autistic person on caring for an autistic child
Family drama and abandonment surrounding autistic niece, everyone sucks here
Not wanting to be a caretaker is understandable. ♀️
Compassionate NTA declines responsibility to care for husband’s niece with autism ❤️
Seeking help and resources for caring for special needs niece ❤️
Dealing with an unsupportive spouse in caretaking is unrealistic
Marriage goals not aligned, NTA for not wanting sole responsibility.
