Recently, a story about a wedding came up on the r/AITA subreddit, which caught everyone’s attention. The post written by a man on Reddit nicknamed Throwaway3373123 shared how his brother and sister-in-law tried to convince him to make an exception for their three-year-old son in the no-children rule, which is set by the couple for their wedding.
“My fiancee (F) and I (M) are getting married. We’ve decided the wedding is gonna be childfree. No hate towards children just to keep it more organized and contained,” the author wrote. When his nephew, who was what Chris (the brother) and his wife called “a rainbow baby” or “a miracle baby,” was included in the no-kids rule, the parents pushed back.
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“He called me an a-hole”: One man’s conflict with his brother over his wedding ⛔️
When a man and his soon-to-be spouse decided to have a child-free wedding, the man’s brother and his wife were disappointed. The brother and his wife had a three-year-old son and were adamant about having him present for the wedding.
When the man refused to make an exception, the brother was livid, and the situation got heated. The man was shocked by his brother’s reaction and even more taken aback by the level of disrespect and mockery he was presented with. The man’s parents and brother were furious and the man has to work towards making amends.
It looks like the man will be in for an uphill battle. It will be interesting to see how the man and his brother reconcile, and how the situation will be resolved. Read on to see the comments from the internet.
He said ‘No kids’- his brother brought ❔ NTA
OP’s brother and wife came up with a plan to bring their three-year-old to OP’s wedding, despite knowing it would be child-free and OP stood his ground. Replies to the comment agree that OP was NTA (not the a**hole) for insisting no kids are allowed at his wedding.
Not the a**hole!
The commenter agrees with the original poster (NTA) and finds the situation hilarious. The replies elaborate that people should not treat children as the exception to every rule and not risk being a**holes in the process.
Can’t bring baby to ?
After listing a couple of mistakes made by the original poster, the comment suggests a creative way to convey to the brother that he cannot bring his “rainbow baby” to the wedding. The comment replies are delighted by the suggestion and joke about it.
Family drama ♀️
A commentator suggested stressing the miraculous nature of children when talking to the brother and his child but also stress that he was having a miracle-free wedding. In response, the first reply jokingly said only the miracle of them still being invited to the wedding was allowed. The second reply praised the joke with an upvote.
NTA: Parents creating a❗️situation for their kid
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The commenter is Not The A**hole, arguing that the parents are spoiling the kid and will create an awful adulthood for him. The replies agree, noting that the kid’s “miracle” status is likely to be used as an excuse for any future issues and worrying about the potential consequences if the couple has another child.
Family ✊❤️ : Guy stands up for himself in conflict with his brother over his wedding guest list!
NTA, the commenter is impressed that the OP stood up for himself and supports his decision to not allow Chris and wife’s “miracle” child to be a part of their wedding. He also offers a clever solution to show the siblings that their child is no more special than any other child.
Hilarious Idea!
The comment NTA’s the OP, but blasts the brother and sister-in-law for not following the rule of not bringing their child to the wedding. They suggest the host hire security to make sure the rule is followed and to prevent any “uninvited” guests from entering. They also find the entire situation funny, laughing their a** off. The replies agree it’s a funny idea but may be necessary given the situation.
One kid, two outcomes
The comment states that the couple will either bring the child to their wedding or not come at all. Several replies suggest that the couple should not risk having their special day ruined by the kid and even consider rescinding the invitation if necessary.
Not the a-hole — addressing a problematic “special” baby
The commenter identifies the original poster as Not the A-Hole and praises their action of not allowing their sibling’s “special” baby at the wedding. The replies discussed the overpopulation of the Earth, how not to raise an a-hole, and how to celebrate the “miracle” of a baby while considering their humanity.
Single index card : “No”
One comment suggested sending the parents a single index card that says, “No.” Other replies laughed at the idea, acknowledging that visuals may be important for this family to get the point. Everyone agrees that the comment author is not the a**hole in this situation.
Standing *** to a**holes
OP attempted to be polite and firm in refusing their request to bring their toddler to the wedding, but they still kept pushing. Finally, OP had to play hardball, which the brother and SIL didn’t appreciate. Reply agrees that NTA is the way to go here.
NTA: Miming for the win!
The comment is in agreement with the subject of the article, suggesting to solve the conflict with interpretive dance or funny flash cards. The reply mentions the demand to “fix it now” and the commenter suggests to know what to do.
A Laugh Out Loud
The commenter is laughing hysterically at this post and reassures the original poster they are “Not the A-hole.”
♂️
The commenter is Not The A-Hole and points out the specialty of a single baby among 385,000 that are born every day. The comment is agreed upon with a reply stating that it is indeed the truth, but some people choose to ignore it.
Nothing special about being a miracle baby
The commenter talks about unless the miracle baby doesn’t do something that regular babies do, such as cry all the time or get bored, the title of “miracle” baby is overrated and the OP is NTA. Other comments agree that the baby is not that special.
♂️ Brotherly ban
The comment is in support of the person who was called an a-hole by their brother and suggests that their brother and his family should be uninvited from the wedding.
Will this miracle kid end up spoiled or unfulfilled?
NTA, but commenters ponder the effects of a miracle kid being treated like an exception, leading to a lifetime of issues. Replies suggest that it could either lead to a lack of self-worth or being overly self-centered and spoiled.
♂️ NTA: They refused to accept “No”
The comment author is of the opinion that the brother and his family should have accepted “No” as the answer instead of asking for an exception. They were given an answer they disliked, and then refused to accept it, which led to them being humiliated.
♀️ Infertile mom ❤️️ rainbow baby
Although the commenter states that the OP is not the a**hole in this situation, she further adds that she went through infertility and is now the mom of a “rainbow baby” that they will spoil with love and attention to hell and back.
NTA – keep it
The commenter agrees that the OP is NTA (not the a-hole) in this conflict and that the child should not be invited to the wedding. They also add that it’s funny, and that the brother is being entitled by arguing even though the decision to not invite the child was made.
️ NTA: No caving in to bullies!
The comment declares that the poster is Not The A**hole (NTA) for not caving into the bully-like behavior of their brother. The comment suggests that the only way to “fix” the situation is to cave in, but this would just encourage further bullying.
Denied❌ ♂️
The comment expresses disbelief at the fact that the brother wants their kid to attend the wedding against the OP’s wishes and mimics the brother saying, “But he’s a miracle,” to which the OP replies with the statement: “Still a baby. Denied.”
Conflict between brothers
One person commented that they thought it was hilarious that the original poster said their nephew wouldn’t be allowed at the wedding and declared them Not The A-Hole in the situation.
Tension between brothers
The commenter expressed ponders why a rambunctious toddle should be classified as a “blessing.” The reply agrees.
A rainbow baby parent’s perspective
The comment states that they too have a “rainbow” baby and acknowledges the conflict between the OP and his brother, after the OP said his baby won’t be allowed at his wedding. The comment says the OP is NTA, and is appreciated by another rainbow baby parent.
Babys aren’t miracles
The commenter states that babies are not miracles and that’s just nature, and are Not The A**hole (NTA) for having this opinion.
NTA! ♂️ Thoughts on a wedding guest list?
The commenter believes that the brother is not the a-hole (NTA) because a three-year-old is not a baby and there should be no issues with leaving him behind. They suggest that the brother’s in-laws are displaying pure entitlement by trying to dictate the wedding guest list, which is not their choice to make.
Words are powerful
The comment expresses their approval for the brother for using flashcards to express his opinion. The comment agrees that the brother is Not The A**hole (NTA) for setting the rules for his own wedding.
No a-hole here
NTA (not the a**hole). The commenter suggests having a contingency plan for if the brother and his family show up with their child at the wedding despite the babysitter canceling.
Childfree Means Childfree!
The commenter stands firm in their belief that the rule of no children at the wedding should be respected, and it doesn’t matter how much pressure is being applied. No a-hole here!*
No one likes a grumpy guest
NTA as the comment suggests, it’s not fair to put the bride/groom in a position to be upset at the child and their parent. The commenter also mentioned telling a SIL’s friend that her dog could not come to the wedding, as it only applies to those with service animals.
Brothers in Conflict
The commenter NTA (not the a**hole) said that the brother refused to accept ‘no’ for an answer, and that *spelling it out* was the only option.
Drama in the family
An NTA comment suggests taking drastic measures to make the brother and sister-in-law understand something. A reply to it says they will bring the kid to the wedding, because he is god’s gift.
NTA — ♀️Humorous response!
The commenter says that the original poster is not the a-hole (NTA) for not wanting a baby at their wedding, and suggests that they take a humorous approach to get the message across.
Conflicted brother’s wedding
This comment discusses the hardships faced by a 3 year old when their parents don’t let them go to places like their brother’s wedding. The commenter, who is a teacher, says that this can lead to tears and defiant outbursts and they are hard on the child to deal with.
Making things right
The comment suggested that the OP should send the brother and his wife an invite stating that they aren’t invited to their wedding if they don’t listen. It also suggested that the brother and his fiancée should make the event a family affair and not invite the parents in the same way either.
NTA: Uninvite them now!
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The commenter is taking a definitive stance that the brother is Not The A**hole and, instead, should uninvite the brother and his kid now to avoid further conflict.
NTA✅️ Forcing a choice
The comment states that Not The A**hole is the correct conclusion in this situation. The person suggested a hilarious solution where the other person in conflict won’t get the message unless a definitive choice is forced upon them: accepting the condition of having a child-free wedding or not coming at all.
Good job mom
The commenter praised the flashcards approach and how effective it was.
Prioritizing family✋
The commenter suggests NTA (not the a**hole) and notes that the OP (original poster) should un-invite the brother and his wife from the wedding, as they placed their “miracle” kid over the OP’s wedding. The commenter suggests the brother and his SIL consider getting a sitter for their child when attending child-free events.
No is a full sentence
The comment states that the speaker is Not the A-Hole in the situation, as saying “no” is a valid full sentence. The comment further implies that all children are going to be a**holes in one way or another and that parents should consider this when making decisions about them.
Congrats on the upcoming wedding!
The commenter says the OP is Not The A-Hole and praises the OP for their genius plan. They congratulate them on their upcoming wedding.
NTA
The commentator called the original poster “NTA” (not the a-hole) and added that if they wanted to be treated like adults they should have taken the “No” the first few times it was given.
Guy steps up for his wedding
The comment praises the poster for his patience and understanding regarding his brother’s insistence to bring his kid to the wedding. A reply expresses their exhaustion from all the fighting and frustration. Overall, the discussion is positive and supportive.
A miracle baby
The original poster (OP) in this thread is not the a**hole (NTA) after he said his brother’s son, who is a miracle baby, won’t be allowed to attend his wedding. The commenter highlighted that there are many rainbow babies out there who are not known to people, and it’s why some people wait to announce their pregnancies until after the first trimester.
A clever solution for family
The commenter proposes a clever and hilarious solution for a family who refuses to take “no” for an answer. They also emphasize that it is the host’s right to decide and live with the decision, regardless of the other family’s childcare challenges.
NTA!
The user is not the a**hole and the situation was funny as hell according to the commenter.
No a-hole here!
The commenter declares that the original poster (OP) is not the a**hole, but hopes the OP will have a backup plan in case their brother shows up with the baby nonetheless.
No a-hole here ♂️
The commenter suggests that the protagonist should not have any exceptions to the no-kids rule, not even if it was baby Jesus himself. They declare the protagonist is NTA (not the a**hole).
NTA for being childfree!
The commenter finds it hilarious that the protagonist’s brother said his kid won’t be allowed at his wedding. The commenter agrees that the protagonist is NTA (not the a**hole).
NTA?! Fun AF!
The commenter says the OP is not the a**hole, and finds the situation funny. They argue that it is disrespectful for the brother and his family to want to bring their kid to the wedding and that they are gaslighting the situation. Lastly, they suggest that if they are going to be that selfish, they should stay home with their “miracle child.”
NTA: Not listening ♀️
The commenter is not the a**hole as they gave a clear response to their siblings, but was not listened to. The commenter had to use pictures to make their point as their siblings were not paying attention.
Bet that kid shows up!
The commenter thinks the brother is not the a**hole, but bets that the brother’s kid will show up to the wedding anyway.
NTA. their entitlement
The commenter stands their ground and expresses disapproval of family members who think their children are entitled to attend the wedding. They also disapprove of anyone who sides with the relatives.
Mom’s heartbreaking NTA
A mom says she’s been through a miscarriage, and that the guy is not the a**hole in the situation.
