When it comes to family gatherings, sometimes uncomfortable moments are inevitable. Sometimes the best thing you can do is to just let the dust settle and move on. Or squabble some more. A recent post on Reddit by user lemkq339 went viral on the platform and reminded people how messy family gatherings can be. The woman described how she got into an argument with her husband after he made an offensive remark about her flat chest. “He then turned to me, stared at my chest while I was eating like an idiot (I have a flat chest, I’m insecure about it but can’t do anything about it obviously),” she wrote and added that her husband told her “why don’t YOU get a boob job, you’re the one who needs it the most” and then added: “I’ll get a boob job once YOU get an ACTUAL JOB since you’ve been unemployed for 6 months now.” You can probably guess what happened next in this very awkward family dinner. Scroll down below to read the full story and how everything unfolded after that incident!
Jared And His Wife’s Relationship Is Put At Risk When Jared Reveals He’s Been Unemployed For 6 Months
He Kept His Unemployment A Secret, But His Wife Had Other Plans
Jared Gets Called Out After Giving His Wife Irrelevant “Advice”, Revealing A Secret Of Him Being Unemployed For 6 Months
Husband’s “Piece Of Advice” Leads To Revealing Of His Secret 6-Month Unemployment
Wife Shocked When Her Husband Seeks Refuge From Her After Dropping Her At Home, Revealing His Unemployment Secret
He Thought He Was Giving “Advice”, But She Wasn’t Having It
Married for three years, Jared and his wife have had some interesting family dinners. Recently, Jared was discussing his fiancee getting a boob job, and he stared at his wife’s flat chest and suggested she get one too. His wife, not having any of it, revealed to everyone at the dinner table that Jared had been unemployed for 6 months. Jared’s mom gasped and scolded him, while the other family members shamed him for hiding his unemployment. Jared became overwhelmed and went outside. He later lashed out at his wife for the incident, blaming her for turning his family against him. In this post, explore how this dinner conversation devolved in such an unexpected way.
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♀️Husband Given Some ‘Advice’ To Wife Reveals He’s Been Unemployed For 6 Months!
The husband got fired for an argument with a coworker, and kept it a secret. He had also insulted the wife’s body and asked her why she couldn’t hold her *ssing tongue in front of his family. The replies pointed out that he had also praised his sister-in-law’s breasts in front of his family. The husband had been deliberately not getting a job while taking advantage of the wife, and disrespecting her, which she was too kind for.
Husband Insults Wife And Reveals Secret
The husband has been lying to keep up his ego and insulted his wife over a known insecurity in front of his family. Everyone agrees he’s NTA and suggests the wife should divorce him and get the alimony she deserves.
NTA Anymore ! She* Reveals His Secret
The comment suggests that the husband is not the a**hole and instead the wife should give him space away from her. The reply to the comment states that the wife did not mean to tell his family about his unemployment, but she did not know what else to do in response to the husband’s attack.
Wife Learns Husband’s Secret, Now It’s Time For Revenge!
Girl is NTA (not the a-hole) and should call her husband back to tell his friends to come pick up his stuff as he’s not paying his rent. Everyone agrees that she is perfect the way she is and needs someone who sees that. Alexa even suggests playing a song, ‘Call Tyrone’, to fuel the revenge fire.
Not The A**Hole Encouraging Advice
The commenter was praised for offering encouraging advice to the husband, and not judging him for being unemployed for 6 months. Other commenters agreed that the advice was given out of support and encouragement.
Wife’s Done ✋ Supporting Her Insensitive, Deadbeat Husband
The wife is not the a**hole for lashing out at her husband for suggesting she get a boob job. He’s been unemployed for 6 months and yet has the nerve to embarrass her in front of his family and try to pressure her into plastic surgery. Everyone agrees that it’s time to dump him and move on.
Divorce Advice
Commenter suggests that the husband and wife divorce. They agree that staying married to an unemployed a**-hole isn’t ideal.
NTA Women Don’t Deserve To Be Insulted
The commenter is not the a**hole here, and points out that the husband has wronged the wife in multiple ways that make staying with him hard. They also indicate that the husband has made insensitive remarks about the wife’s figure in front of her family.
Change The Locks!
The comment’s poster suggested changing the locks, arguing that the husband, who wanted to keep his unemployment a secret, had no worth, tore the wife down and tried to frame his insult as “advice”. NTA.
He Dishes It, But Can’t Take It?
The commenter, who believes the husband is NTA (not the a**hole), sarcastically remarks that the husband can’t take what he dishes out. They suggest the wife should “run girl run” in response to the husband’s “piece of advice” that was supposedly given out of support and encouragement. A reply to the comment adds that a smaller chest has its advantages.
Op Is NTA Op’s Husband Is TA For Being Unemployed For 6 Months And Expecting Op To Pay For Everything
Op has been providing for the family financially while their husband has been unemployed for 6 months. Reacting to the husband’s comment, Op pointed out his wrong-doing and shared that they remind him to look for a job every day, but he keeps stalling. Op is not the a**hole in this situation.
“Audacious” Husband
NTA. The husband found out by his own fault and should have kept his mouth shut. His ‘advice’ of wanting the wife to look ‘prettier’ is suspiciously insulting. The reply is equally critical of the husband’s audacity to publicly state that his sister-in-laws are fine.
HE F**ked Around NTA
The commenter strongly reacted to the situation, stating that the husband ‘*f-cked* around’ and should not be called. They further assert that the husband should apologize to his wife and allow his ‘fragile ego’ to sulk in the mess he made. No one else replied to the comment.
The Wife Gave Her Advice-Seeking Husband A Surprise
The comment suggested that the husband was not the a-hole and advised him to find out about penile enlargement. The comment had no replies.
Husband Uses ‘Advice’ To Body-Shame Wife
The husband is Not The A**hole (NTA) for his choice to hide his unemployment, but his comment about giving her a “piece of advice” to get a boob job was an unacceptable attempt to body-shame her. She was not pleased with this suggestion and rightly so.
NTA. Don’t Go Back!
The commenter believes the husband is Not The A**hole here and is suggesting the wife to leave him as he has been disrespectful of her by saying her breasts were not perfect and revealing his secret of being unemployed for 6 months in front of others. The commenter believes the wife shouldn’t help him anymore and suggests her to pack her stuff and get gone.
NTA: He’s Overly Aggressive & Has Serious Pride Issues
The comment remarks that the husband is not the a-hole as he is overly aggressive, fights a lot and has serious pride issues. It also states that if someone doesn’t like someone’s body, it’s best to not be with them.
NTA: He’s Gaslighting & Bullying Her!
The commenter encourages the wife to not apologize to her husband and stand up against his gaslighting and bullying. They insist that the wife should not lose her respect and drop her SOB husband instead.
♀️ She Revealed His Secret
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The commenter praised the wife for biting back after her husband’s piece of advice, declaring that she is NTA (not the a**hole).
️Husband Receives Advice
The comment suggests that the husband should not be kept and implies disapproval of his current state, which is revealed to be being unemployed for 6 months.
Husband’s Secret Exposed
The commenter declares that the husband is not the a**hole in this situation, as he had tried to pressure the wife into getting a boob job and deserved the shame she inflicted upon him at the dinner. No other replies were found.
Relationship Red Flags
Commenter said the husband’s behavior is ‘absolute self-centered jack*ss behavior’ and suggested the commenter to ‘genuinely reconsider this relationship.’ No replies were found.
Jared’s Rude And Disrespectful Behavior
The comment talks about Jared, who yelled at the wife for not holding her tongue in front of his sister-in-law, who had bigger breasts than his wife. Jared said that it was out of support and encouragement, but it was actually out of his wish that his wife had bigger breasts like his sister-in-law. The comment emphasizes that loving someone means accepting them as they are, not as one wishes them to be, and suggests that Jared may not be suitable for raising children.
NTA A Jobless ‘Prick’ Makes Comments
The commenter insists the husband is Not The A**hole (NTA) for giving his wife ‘a piece of advice’, and reveals that he was fired from his last job due to a fight.
Audacity To The Max
The woman in the story was not happy with her husband’s “piece of advice” in front of his family and mother. She expressed her thoughts on how her husband’s statement was a direct attack on her insecurities and how his “support” seemed to be suggesting that she should change her body if she wanted to look “pretty”. This behavior raised questions about if he actually loves her.
NTA ♀️ A Typical “Manly Man” ♀️
The commenter declared the husband Not The A**hole (NTA) for his wife’s reaction, calling him a typical “manly man” who needs everyone to think he’s hot stuff and his wife to be a trophy.
NTA: Give Him Space
The comment suggests that the wife should give her husband all the space he needs as they confront his secret of being unemployed for 6 months.
A Revealing Comment
The comment expresses disappointment in the husband for not being able to keep a job for six months, and for throwing a tantrum in his own family’s house. No replies were found.
A Grand Scheme Gone Wrong
The commenter is shaming the husband for his words and lack of job and advises the wife to leave him. They assess that the husband is more ashamed of not having a job than of bringing his wife over. The commenter concludes that the husband is NTA (not the a-hole) in this situation.
NTA: Enjoy The
The comment affirms that the wife is not the a-hole for lashing out at her husband by revealing his secret of being unemployed for six months. The comment states that the husband should apologize to her and stay at his friend’s house until then, and encourages her to enjoy the peace and quiet.
♂️ Husband’s Secret Unveiled
The comment states that the husband’s ‘piece of advice’ is uncalled for and was likely a way to make fun of the wife’s insecurities. His behavior of trying to lie to the family to save face and putting his wife down in front of them were also seen as a-holeish acts.
Marriage Woes
The comment suggests that it’s time for the OP and her husband to consider going their separate ways, as they seem to have reached a point where they constantly bring each other’s sensitive points up in mean-spirited ways – such as him complimenting his cousin’s partner’s breasts and then insulting the OP about her appearance, or her revealing his secret of being unemployed for 6 months.
Shouldn’t Talk Down To People ♀️
The commenter suggested that NTA and questioned why the other person would stay with a partner who speaks down to them. They would consider kicking out the partner, if they ever spoke down to them.
Everyone Sucks Here
The comment criticizes the husband, pointing out that all he brings to the relationship is neither love, respect, nor money. One reply adds that he also lacks manners, intelligence, and common sense.
Husband’s Disrespect Revealed
The comment highlights the husband’s AH (a-hole) behavior, like disrespecting the wife in front of his family and commenting on his cousin’s fiancée’s chest. Fortunately, the wife stood up for herself and her MIL also supported her. The commenter implies that the husband might not be looking for a job and is comfortable relying on the wife financially.
NTA Deserves
The comment says NTA (not the a**hole), in support of the wife. The comment also advises to get rid of ‘that trash’ without elaborating.
An Unthoughtful Husband Learns His Lesson ♀️
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The husband’s insensitive comments has encouraged the wife to hit back and reveal his ‘big bad secret’ – that he had been unemployed for 6 months. In doing so, the husband learns that it pays to think twice before taking such a thoughtless action.
NTA Wife Stands Up To Husband’s Hurtful Behavior!
Not the A**hole Wife stands up to husband’s disrespectful, demeaning and unnecessary comment in front of company. He needs to seriously pull his head out and recognize the wonderful and supportive partner he has.
NTA: Let Him Go ♂️
The comment advises the wife to let her husband go to a friend’s place, suggesting that she is not the a**hole in this situation.
⁉️NTA: Get A Lawyer
The poster believes the husband is a lazy a-hole and recommends to get a lawyer and be ready to divorce him.
NTA!
The comment expresses solidarity with the wife, firmly stating that the husband is not the a**hole. No replies were found to the comment.
The Commenters On A Secret
Commenters think that a divorce should give the husband enough space, as it is revealed that he is unemployed for six months but has kept this information a secret.
Queen NTA!
The comment praised the wife for her epic comeback to her husband, commenting that her husband is a ‘TA’ (a-hole) for showing disrespect. The comment also raised the question of whether the person the husband had a ‘fight’ with was a woman.
Husband Gets Called Out!
The comment judged the husband for giving his wife ‘a piece of advice’ and revealed that he had been unemployed for 6 months. It also advised her to find someone who will treat her with respect.
NTA…✊ He She
The commenter is advocating that the husband is Not The A**hole after he advised the wife to stay quiet and his explanation for his boob job comments was that she needed to be pretty. The commenter encourages the woman to leave the husband and visit a lawyer.
NTA! Wife Is Not Wrong
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The commentor expressed their opinion that the wife was not the a**hole (NTA) in the situation. They advised the wife to stay with her husband until he gets a job, otherwise she would incur a lot of costs.
NTA Woman Takes Back Control After Her Husband Tries To “Advise” Her!
The commenter, who had the acronym NTA (not the a**hole) in their comment, argues that the husband should have felt shame and guilt for calling out the wife at the table. They also point out that the husband should want his partner to be employed, just like he does. In response to the suggestion to give him space, the commenter advises the woman to give him more space if he tries to talk, and to stay far away from this red flag.
A Reminder
The commenter classifies the commenter’s action as being a bit arrogant but agree that the appropriate response to the body shaming and misogynistic comment was what the commenter shared. No replies were found.
Husband Gives Advice
The comment reveals that the husband’s advice was unwarranted, given his secret of being unemployed for 6 months. It also suggests that the wife needs to reduce his husband’s job instead.
NTA: Husband’s Issues Need To Be Worked On
The comment states that the husband should be held accountable for his behavior as he has some anger issues that need to be worked on. It also suggests that a separation would be a good idea due to his fight with a colleague and yelling at his wife’s truthful retort.
Respecting Each Other ✔️
The comment speaks out against the husband for not respecting his wife, who was publicly embarrassed for her body size. It advises the wife to remind herself about her value and that she is not wrong in this situation.
NTA – Husband’s Attempt To Belittle Wife Backfires!
The comment reflects that the husband’s attempt to belittle the wife backfired, as the wife retaliated by exposing her husband’s hidden unemployment for 6 months. His comment about his sister-in-law’s chest was also intended to make the wife feel bad about herself, which was successful. His family also did not shun him; he left by himself.
A Call For A Fair Judgement
The comment calls for an AH (a-hole) ruling to be made in the case, affirming that it was a great example of a situation that requires an AH ruling.
NTA: Husband’s Secret
The commenter suggests that the husband should not have offered career advice to his wife if he was hiding his own unemployment for the last 6 months. No replies found.
NTA: He Got His Comeuppance!
The commentor believes that the husband deserved to get called out for his indiscretions and reveals his harsh secret for all to hear. The commentor believes that despite the wife’s harsh revenge, it was still warranted.
NTA: What Do You Get Out Of This?
The comment is giving the husband NTA (not the a**hole) for what he did, but it also suggests that the wife should be questioning what she might be getting out of this relationship, as she is the one providing for him financially despite him treating her poorly.
Lose The Dead Weight
The commenter proclaimed NTA (not the a**hole) and said the husband should lose the dead weight, as it would make the wife happier and in a better place financially. They also called the husband a loser.
NTA: You Married A Misogynist
The commenter condemned the husband’s behavior, calling him a misogynist. They felt that the husband’s comment about her chest, fighting with a coworker, and hiding his shameful unemployment were all signs of misogyny. No replies were found.
NTA: Standing Up To Disrespect
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Commenter says NTA (not the a**hole) for standing up to the husband’s disrespectful advice. Commenter argues that the husband had no right to comment on the wife’s body.
Give Him More Space
The commenter urged to give the husband more space, suggesting to leave him alone.
NTA.
The commenter called out the husband for his malicious and unjust behavior. They declared that the husband was not the a**hole in this situation.
NTA. Jared Got What He Deserved ♀️
The commenter believes that Jared got what he deserved for the way he spoke to the writer and also for being unemployed. The commenter suggested that Jared be let go as he seems to be toxic and not a keeper.
Mother Horrified
Commenter is NTA (not the a**hole) and feels the wife’s revelation gave the husband’s mother further reason to be horrified. No replies to comment.
Girl, ✊ NTA, But ⚖️
The commenter encourages the girl to get a divorce from her husband and seek a man who will appreciate her as she is, without asking her to change her body.
NTA:
The commenter challenges the husband for his suggestion of breast implants, saying that he needs to own up to his mistakes. No replies were found to this comment.
NTA: Don’t Let Him Devalue You
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The commenter expresses support for the original poster (OP), telling them they are strong and not to let the husband devalue them. The commenter says the husband is wrong for suggesting the OP looks pretty, and that they are already pretty and worthy. No replies were found.
Wife’s Fury At Husband’s Words ️
The husband insults his wife and tells her it was ‘just a piece of advice’, and that she should ‘look pretty’. Unsatisfied with his response, the commenter suggests that the wife may be better off without her husband as he is not contributing anything positive to the relationship. NTA.
An Angry Comment
The commenter calls out the husband as an a**hole and expresses their anger towards him for giving his wife a ‘piece of advice’. No other replies were found.
Husband’s A**vice
The comment states that the husband’s inappropriate advise to his wife is not justified, as it is related with her insecurity. The reply to this comment is not available.
‘Supporting You’!? ♀️
The commenter said NTA (not the a**hole) due to the husband’s suggestion to get a boob job, sarcastically referring to it as ‘supporting’ her. The commenter finds the husband crazy for making such a suggestion and calls him an a-hole.
A Supportive NTA Comment
The comment is expressing support for the wife’s situation, indicating that the commenter is a Not The A**hole (NTA). They suggest that the wife should give her husband as much space as the judge allows.
NTA ♀️
The comment states that the husband is Not the A**hole in this situation. The comment goes on to say that the husband did not have the right to make such an insensitive comment in front of other people, despite not thinking his wife looks beautiful. The comment concludes by saying the husband was trying to humiliate his wife and succeeded. The comment also states that the husband sounds terrible and advises the wife not to stay with him.
The commenter was of the opinion that the husband was not the a**hole and expressed their frustration through a curse word.
NTA: Don’t Apologize!
The commenter firmly believes Jared is a jerk, and states that his wife should not apologize for her actions. Society should not encourage this kind of behavior from either party.
♀️ Spouse Gives Unrespectful “Advice”
The comment expresses disbelief that the husband gave an unrespectful “advice”, and suggests that the wife is not the a**hole as she should have self-respect. The comment encourages the wife to let her husband find someone with bigger boobies as she doesn’t need to be his sugarmama if he’s going to treat her in such a disrespectful way.
NTA: He Insulted You!
The commenter asserted that the wife was not the a**hole in this situation as the husband had insulted her in front of his family. She responded in kind.
