Military Spouse Refuses to Cater to Pregnant and Ill Woman, AITA?

Being a military spouse can be overwhelming, and taking care of a newborn and a 3-year-old niece alone only adds to the stress. When the spouse’s husband volunteered her to take a pregnant and ill woman to her appointments, she declined, citing exhaustion and lack of support from family and friends.

However, her husband did not take kindly to her refusal and the woman in question now has nobody to take her to her appointments. This has caused conflict between the couple and left the military spouse wondering if she was in the wrong. Was she being insensitive or was she simply prioritizing her own well-being?

Let’s find out in this AITA post .

Struggling military spouse overwhelmed, deserves empathy and support

Struggling military spouse shares exhaustion and lack of sleep routine

Reluctant military spouse asked to cater to pregnant and ill woman, AITA?

I can’t cater to another adult, AITA?

Struggling military spouse refuses to cater, feels overwhelmed.

Military spouse refuses to help pregnant woman, causing disappointment

Judging OP’s actions in AITA post, let’s weigh in

Military spouse refuses to cater to pregnant and ill woman, AITA? ‍♀️

A military spouse is taking care of a newborn and her incarcerated sister’s 3-year-old daughter alone while her husband is deployed overseas. Her husband volunteered her to drive his colleague’s pregnant and mentally ill wife to her early morning appointments without asking her first.

The exhausted spouse refused, explaining that she is already physically and emotionally drained and cannot take on additional responsibilities without risking her own mental health. However, her husband became upset, arguing that she should help others in need and that she is being insensitive.

In this post , we explore the spouse’s dilemma and ask the question: is it reasonable to refuse to help someone in need when you are already overwhelmed yourself? Read on for some interesting and thought-provoking comments and reactions.

NTA for prioritizing own time and effort, not volunteering for others.

Military spouse stands firm, receives support for self-care and resources.

Military spouse criticized for not helping pregnant/ill woman, NTA.

NTA for refusing to be a caregiver for a pregnant/ill woman.

Military spouse with newborn and toddler refuses to cater, NTA ‍♀️

Military spouse’s exhaustion and lack of support, NTA

Metaphor likens spouse to a printer, NTA for refusing catering.

Supportive comment calls out husband’s lack of support,

NTA refuses to cater to pregnant/ill woman during COVID-19

Suggesting base resources to help a pregnant/ill woman, NTA

Prioritizing self-care, NTA chooses well-being over catering to others.

Spouse’s husband volunteers her for tasks without permission, NTA

Military spouse defends decision not to cater to pregnant/ill woman

Prioritizing yourself and family first is important. NTA

Self-care first! Military spouse gets support for not catering to others.

Pregnant woman demands too much, military spouse says no. NTA

Suggests support groups and resource help for overwhelmed military spouse.

Don’t budge on this, you’re entitled to put yourself first

New mom refuses to cater to friend’s wife, NTA

Military spouse refuses to cater to pregnant/ill woman, NTA

Military spouse offers practical advice and calls out husband, NTA

Setting boundaries in relationships, NTA

Stand your ground! NTA for setting boundaries.

Husband prioritizes helping others over his exhausted military spouse, NTA ‍♀️

Assertive NTA comment shuts down debate,

Suggests seeking support resources for military spouses during deployment, NTA.

Base resources may help, NTA for setting boundaries.

Setting boundaries is important, NTA

Spouse not at fault, husband should have consulted.

Prioritizing your own health is not selfish.

Military spouse prioritizes her family, husband needs to listen

Military spouse seeks support, NTA for refusing catering duties.

Military spouses can relate . Voluntold is a real thing.

Respect boundaries, even when trying to help. ‍♀️

Commenter supports military spouse’s decision, offers sympathy.

Supportive comment reminds military spouse to prioritize herself,

Parenting while healing and taking care of another child, NTA

Military spouse refuses to cater, NTA. Don’t set yourself on fire

Self-care is important! NTA for prioritizing responsibilities.

Self care is important, NTA for setting boundaries

Don’t volunteer others, NTA ‍♀️

Military spouse refuses to help drowning pregnant woman, NTA

Commenter relates to the situation, suggests finding a friend for help

Parenting as a military spouse is tough, NTA for refusing.

Military spouse stands up for herself, NTA ‍♀️

Setting boundaries for the sake of one’s health, NTA

Military spouse dismisses pregnant/ill woman, community supports NTA.

Military spouse prioritizes self-care over catering, NTA

Setting boundaries as a military spouse, NTA

Military spouse defends boundaries, NTA for not catering.

Military spouse refuses to cater to pregnant/ill woman, resources available.

Supportive reply to military spouse dealing with insensitive partner.

Pregnant woman defends herself, suggests alternatives ‍♀️

Spouse receives harsh judgement in military community,

Refusing to cater to pregnant/ill woman, NTA and suggests Uber.

Supportive comment encourages military spouse to take much-needed break ❤️